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ssmith232
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bridesmaid refusing to order dress
My sister is the only person in the wedding party who hasn't ordered her dress. The dresses have been chosen for six months and they need to be ordered by the end of July in order to be here in time for the wedding. I'm not sure what the problem is, she helped pick out the dress so I know she likes it. If it were a financial issue I could understand but my mom is paying for it. I know my mom has offered to take her to the bridal store multiple times and she always says she is too busy.
In my mind, by not getting the dress she is making the choice to not be in the wedding party. My mom disagrees and wants me to invite her out to lunch and then stop by the bridal store to order her dress. She is a grown ass woman, I shouldn't have to hold her hand through this, right?
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Re: bridesmaid refusing to order dress
When is your wedding?
Though is it possible she has a legitimate reason for not ordering aside from just being difficult?
Has she gained weight recently / been trying to diet? I could see someone that's self-conscience about being up a size or two not wanting to commit to a bigger size / someone wanting to wait as long as possible in case they lose weight. Though in either case one eventually needs to just bite the bullet.
Um.......... this one is a huge longshot... but... it actually happened to a friend of mine.
She and the bridesmaids all agreed on a dress. It was March at this point and her wedding was in July. They needed to pull the trigger... and then suddenly her sister/MOH refused to go look at the dress. She stopped even returning my friend's calls.
Then a few days later friend got a call from her BIL... he said that his wife was putting off the dress stuff because she was worried that she was pregnant.
And she was.
So then the whole party switched to a different dress that would be a little more maternity friendly.
Kind of an out there example... but in any case, maybe a heartfelt talk with your sister about her life in general might shed light on things.
ETA:
Is the date really the 31st? That's nearly 3 weeks. That's like 3 years in procrastinator-time. If you mention it again at all, I'd wait until the 21st or so.
Should the deadline pass, she's taken herself out of the wedding party. But the deadline isn't for several weeks.
Just let her handle it. She's your sis, she'll pull through. I would agree with maybe checking in for any underlying problems, but otherwise let her do it. You can lead a horse to water, or at least pick out the dress for the horse...