Vent: I'm doing everything right, dammit

Re: Vent: I'm doing everything right, dammit

• AddieCake member

  

  July 2013

  What are they itching for the invitation for?  If they got an STD, they should just go ahead and make a room reservation if they are that concerned about it. 

  
  

  
  

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• LyannaStark member

  

  July 2013

  Yeah, I know. I never knew any of this before either. At all. And most of the time I can get all Zen about it and just let it go. But I'm all proud of myself for going out of my way to read every single rule/guideline, and get everything done on time, and always prioritize guest comfort even if it means I don't get limos cause I need shuttles instead, etc, but I still end up looking like a shitty hostess. Ah well. Not the last time, I'm sure. For the most part everyone's been wonderful.

  
  

  ETA @AddieL73 Right??? That's what's so annoying. I did my part, which is more than I technically had to, actually, and I don't know how much else I could have done except send out weekly reminder emails to the entire guest list. I mean come on, you're adults, figure it out. 

  
  

  But in general people are wonderful! And I'm super excited and it's going to be great! But man, every now and then, good lord, people. 

  

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• WinstonsGirl member

  

  July 2013

  I got the same kind of comment from my SIL as to why our invites weren't out yet.  I said we were waiting to after Christmas, closer to the wedding.  She said friends of here had already sent theirs out (like 6-8 months before their wedding) cos they were going to Mexico.  She asked how anyone would know what to book (we did a DW).  I said that why we had the wedding website and sent out STD', so people could plan their flights/hotels if they wanted to come.  Some people just don't know better and wait for an actual invite I suppose before booking.  I'm not sure why my SIL was in such a tizzy.  She knew she was going and had all the info from the website, so it wasn't even affecting her.  She just wanted our invite cos her other friends had already sent their out for the wedding after mine

  
  

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• LyannaStark member

  

  July 2013

  Harry87 said:

  I filed that one under "Not my problem".
  

  Man, I have got to start using that brain folder more often. I have a feeling I'll need one of those expandy accordion ones by the time this is over.

  

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• audreyecu61 member

  

  July 2013

  Sometimes it is easier not to answer the phone or respond to e-mails. Especially when you are handling things on your own.

   

   

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• winelover123 member

  

  July 2013

  We're getting this from FI's family. They've been asking us for months now when we're sending out our invitations (our wedding is in October....). We just say that everything we've read has said to send them at the 6 - 8 week mark.
  
  They know when the wedding is too, and not many of them are OOT.
  

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• Chipmunk415 member

  

  July 2013

  Lyanna, first off, LOVE THE SN! WINTER IS COMING! (HBO needs to do a flash back episode to the major events of Robert's Revolt!)

   

  People are going to be pushy about invites. They get the STD, see the website, and still say "WHERE'S MY OFFICIAL INVITATION!" FI and I knew the date of Big Bro's wedding nearly a year in advance. STD came in December, website carried info of hotel blocks. Invite came late March for late May wedding. We made our reservations in February at a non-blocked hotel for cheaper. If they have the STD, just politely direct them to the wedding site. If the hotel block books up, apologize politely for the trouble, but inform them of other, well reviewed and reasonably priced hotels nearby.

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• LyannaStark member

  

  July 2013 edited July 2013

  @winelover123, I just thought I'd add that if we were doing ceremony programs I would have to put Alamos Malbec, Cupcake Petit Syrah and Poema Cava in the Special Thanks section. Like, at the very top. With photos. Maybe a poem.

  
  

  (ETA @chipmunk415 Right??? I'm thinking they'll have to use Bran's visions or something, because I'm damn important to the whole story and on the show I was just a pretty statue in the Pilot. I have like, secrets and shit! Important ones!)

  
  

  And yeah, the website has links to the 3 different hotels in 3 areas of town for 3 price ranges, plus a link to hotels.com with a note saying "But it's New Orleans! There are so many awesome hotels! And VRBOs! Look around!" 

  
  

  And I know this is just me being snotty, but I google the shit out of everything before I bother anybody about it. Definitions, addresses, acronyms, whatever, it takes ten seconds to google our names compared to however long it takes to type out a text message making me feel guilty about it. But again, whatever. "Whatever" is my official mantra for the foreseeable future.

  

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• harper0813 member

  

  July 2013

  We had a family member call and say that we should have a cocktail party at my parents' place a couple of days before the wedding for people who are flying in.
  
  ... No. See, we're hosting this thing called a wedding. And that's apparently not enough for them.
  
  Plus, no one is making them arrive earlier the the day of the wedding - the ceremony doesn't start until 5!

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• libby2483 member

  

  July 2013

  Ugh, I'm sorry that people are being so pushy.  Sometimes people who aren't familiar with weddings or proper etiquette can make things difficult.

  
  

  We actually had the opposite problem.  We sent out invitations at 8 weeks with information about the hotel we blocked.  The rooms in the hotel block were released one month before the wedding.  Two days before the room block expired, only one of our friends had booked a hotel room.  I knew they were all planning to stay in the hotel, but they are all big procrastinators.  (To give you an idea, the last wedding we all went to, my H and I ended up with over a dozen people in our suite because no one had booked a room ahead of time, and there was major event going on, so no one could get a room!)  I ended up sending out a FB message gently reminded people the room block was expiring in two days.  Thankfully, everyone booked their room that night!

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• 87Emily

  

  July 2013

  I can commiserate on the room block thing for sure. My FI kept having family call, about 3-4 weeks before the wedding, and ask what they should do since all the rooms in the room block were full....um, book somewhere else? These were not distant relatives either--these were his parents and grandparents, who we told about the block before we told anyone else! It was stressing poor FI out and I had to remind him that we had given them the info and it was up to them what to do with it, and not our issue to fix. They have options. There is literally another hotel across the street from our blocked hotel that has rooms available!

  
  
  

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• LyannaStark member

  

  July 2013

  Yeah, this. You're grownups, figure it out. Guilt is my default emotion in general and it takes a lot to remind myself that I did everything I was supposed to, short of calling everyone every couple weeks to see if they'd booked a room yet. Which actually would have been super rude, so yes, I did everything I could.

  
  

  This town is positively crawling with awesome hotels, but also with tourists and football games and conventions. If you didn't take advantage of our blocks six months ago, then yeah, you'll probably pay twice as much. That's kind of the whole point of the block thing. Sad trombone.

  
  

  

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