Hello ladies. I posted a few weeks ago about guests requesting the cash bar, and how to bring it up to the bride - I didn't, and the requests have ceased. However, I'm in a odd pickle now.
B&G began verbally inviting people when the got engaged, about 4 months ago. These were the guests that were asking about the CB. Now, B&G are about to send out the official Save The Dates. I've been enlisted to obtain addresses of our mutual friends, which is fine. This morning I received a call from the MOB stating she was emailing me a spread sheet of relatives and their info. I though "great! now B won't have to track anyone down!" Well, I got the email at lunch time, and it's names and phone numbers. No addresses. I called up MOB, thinking she just forgot the addresses, and her response was "I don't talk to half of these people and don't understand why my daughter would invite such (explicit, explicit, racist comments here). So I'm not going to contact them for their addresses. I assumed that why you were helping out."
MOB is not the easiest woman to get along with, I know that she hasn't had contact with certain family members for years, but...I'm just not sure what to do. Do I tell B "your moms a b**ch, but I'll call your extended family since she won't"? Call them up and just hand over the addresses to B? I think she's expecting the addresses to come from her mom...I just really don't know what to do.
Sorry so long!