I just wanted to throw this out here; just because a couple doesn't have thousands of dollars to spare on a wedding, big or small, doesn't mean they don't deserve to have one. And if a couple wants to have a Jack and Jill to give them a helping hand than that is their prerogative. If family members don't want to support that decision than they don't have to go. To each his own. Another note; everyone is allowed to have an opinion. But everyone should have the common sense on how to speak their mind without putting down anyone who may disagree in the process.