So I'm down to 26 days. Missing quite a few RSVPs but have gotten back many with extra people listed to come! Most extras are from my hubby to be's family. Per advice on here and friends, I've asked him to call the people and communicate the fact that we can't accommodate those that weren't invited. He's made a couple of calls, but it hesitant to call some of them. The worst of them all came from his late mother's cousin. We addressed the invite to Mr and Mrs. All of their children are grown & out the house, married, kids, etc... wouldn't you know, the RSVP came back for 11 people! I'm assuming that it is their kids, kids' spouses, grandkids (neighbors?) but not sure. My FI is worried that if we try to call them regarding their list, it will cause irreparable damage to our relationship with these people. For the record, our relationship wiith them has consisted of open houses, baby showers, and the occasional casual wedding. Our wedding is not casual. We had to keep an intimate list for costs and our personal preferences. I just don't know what to do. You shouldn't have lose-lose scenarios for you concerning your wedding.... right? Help!!!
Re: my wedding... sure it's a free-for-all!!!!!
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This. If they can't digest the fact that they aren't permitted to add 9 people to someone else's guest list, which is potentially an extra THOUSAND dollars, why would your fiancé even be concerned with preserving a relationship with such rude people?
I don't know what you're paying per plate, but I can tell you at my wedding, an extra 9 people could have set me back an extra $1,000-which I most certainly couldn't have afforded.
Tell your FI that the money is simply not there to just eat someone else's rudeness, no matter what your relationship with them is, and if he doesn't call these people to get it straightened out by the time you go to bed tonight, you're going to do it yourself first thing tomorrow, because these 9 extra people are NOT coming.