What is your favorite and least favorite things at weddings

Bubblies · July 2013

I'm sure this question has been done to death but feel like chiming in if you want!

my favorite thing is when the couple is really in love and you can see it on their faces.

least favorite is bad 'wedding' food

Just curious because it gives me things to think about while planning my own wedding

WinstonsGirl · July 2013

Favorite thing - Dancing!! Which funnily enough, we didn't do at my wedding.

Least favourite - bad food, long speeches especially when you don't know the couple as well. I don't mind it for immediate family, but you tend to get all of the inside jokes then

JoanE2012 · July 2013

Favorite - cocktail hour!

Least favorite - Gaps and cash bars

Angusaur · July 2013

Favorite - Dancing, Open Bar, Fun crowd

Least favorite - Dollar Dances, Bad food, Bad music, Cash bars

Blue & White · July 2013

Favorite: food - I especially love mini desserts instead of (or in addition to) cake

Least favorite: I once had to pay for soda. Actually, my fiance's mom had to pay for my soda because she went up to the bar to get it for me. Awkward. At this same wedding, both the groom's mom and dad came up to fiance and told him they though their son was making the biggest mistake of his life. The whole thing was super awkward.

Additional note: We're not close to either of the above couples anymore. So I also severely dislike alienating your unmarried or friends without kids after the wedding/kids.

manateehugger · July 2013

Favorite: I'm not the mushy type, but I do like watching faces during the "aisle moment." And I love a couple that's just happy to be there. It is the biggest downer when the bride or groom decides to be tired/pissy or whatever at the reception.

Least Favorite: Cash bars, awkward dances

Maggie0829 · July 2013

Favorite: looking at the groom while everyone else is starring at the bride as she walks down the aisle...their face is one of complete and utter happiness.

Least Favorite: Can I have more then one? Garter/bouquet toss, bad food, extended cocktail hours, wedding party dances (awkward!), overly-personal speeches and dry wedding cake.

daria24 · July 2013

Favorite: seeing the dress, the vows, good dessert-bonus points for a Viennese hour

Least Favorite: cocktail hours without enough food, long buffet lines that take forever and the food is cold by the time you get to it, terrible wedding cake (I've been to at least 3 weddings where the cake was inedible), and any sort of "audience participation" things, like the tosses

QueerFemme · July 2013

Favorites - the ceremony and the same as @PDKH , I love that "aisle moment" also. And cake. I love wedding cake.

Least favorite: choreographed wedding party dances; cash bars and a crappy DJ that talks toooo much. I'd rather have simple background music than someone who talks through the whole reception.

ZeroOrchestra · July 2013

Favorite: the "aisle momemnt", cocktail hour, cake. I also like looking at little touches done in the decorations and the overall vibe of the reception.

Least favorite: not being able to hear at the ceremony or during toasts, etc at the reception, too many spotlight dances, performances by the bride or groom, not enough food, dinner being too long.

thejucheidea · July 2013

Favorite: The ceremony! I love seeing the personal touches.

Least favorite: Spotlight dances, speeches, bouquet/garter tosses, anything resembling a dollar dance.

harper0813 · July 2013

Favorite: the bride's dress, when most of the guests are up and dancing, and really great food

Least favorite: dollar dance, the cliché wedding songs no one dances to (Carwash, Celebration), gaps

Angusaur · July 2013

Carwash is a typical wedding song? haha

Peaseblossom55 · July 2013

Favorites: cake of course, open bar, the look on the groom's face when he sees his bride for the first time.

Least favorites- garter/bouquet toss, lots of speeches, bad food

nsweare · July 2013

Favorite- Cake!!!

Least favorite- I hope I don't get flamed for his, but the ceremony is always my least favorite part. However, every ceremony I have ever been to has been a religious ceremony and frankly, I get bored. I like the actual vows part, but the readings and prayers and stuff I can do without. I'm not religious, so those things really have no meaning to me.

lyndsay782 · July 2013

Favorite: The look on the grooms face when he first sees the bride, and when they are exchanging vows. Especially when the couple is so completely in love it glows.

Least Favorite: Watching the above moment at my sisters' wedding, knowing she had found out he went to a male bath house of ill repute three days before the wedding. It was very awkward.

Also, bad food, like when they pre-toss italian salad dressing onto the salad, and over dress it. Soggy, oily lettuce is never good.

GypsyWife_ · July 2013

Favorite: good food, open bar, club music fun crowd.
Bad: chickenn dance hokey pokey. Mother son father daughter dance. Long speeches. Bad food. In my culture buffets are the worst because all the girls have to be waitresses.

hordol · July 2013

lyndsay782 said:

Favorite: The look on the grooms face when he first sees the bride, and when they are exchanging vows. Especially when the couple is so completely in love it glows.

Least Favorite: Watching the above moment at my sisters' wedding, knowing she had found out he went to a male bath house of ill repute three days before the wedding. It was very awkward.

Also, bad food, like when they pre-toss italian salad dressing onto the salad, and over dress it. Soggy, oily lettuce is never good.

What is a male bath house? I could probably google this I guess...

Favorite: Free alcohol (Cash bars are so common around here that I have to put this on the favorites list, even though it's something that SHOULD happen if there is alcohol being served. Little side note: At my wedding, all of my cousins grabbed like 10 beers at a time and had them sitting on the table and my sister asked them why they needed so many. They said they wanted to stock up for the night before the bar starts charging, haha. They had never been to a wedding where the alcohol was free all night, just two hour windows so they just assumed they needed to stock up. My sister set them straight.)

Least favorite: Gaps, garter toss...gross cake (seriously, that is the worst! Cake is one of my favorite things!) But overall I'm pretty accepting of most wedding things so I don't get worked up over much.

MuppetOverlord · July 2013

favorite: cake
blech: paying for softdrinks

lyndsay782 · July 2013

hordol It's apparently the place her husband went to solicit men for certain activities that a man in a monogamous relationship shouldn't do with other people.

No need to google it. He basically met up with some guy on craigslist there.

EDT: I accidentally typed should instead of shouldn't

AJuliaNJ · July 2013

Favorite:

the bar

cocktail hour food

photo booths

Least favorite

not enough seats

vegetarian options that are really just the sides from other options. Who wants a plate of potatoes and vegetable medley?

cakes with compote in them

SMarie89 · July 2013

Favorite: Cake, drinks, and dancing! I also love the vows.

Least favorite: When you can't hear during the ceremony, cash bar (or hosted bar that all of a sudden becomes cash bar without notice*), garter toss, bouquet toss, bad food, open seating.

*We had this happen at a wedding last weekend. Well, a few people at our table did. The hosted bar was supposed to open at 4:30 and go until 5:30. We only knew this because the groom told us. A couple from our table went up to get a last round of drinks around 5:25. They were charged fully for the drinks after ordering them (because the bar opened 5 minutes early, they closed down 5 minutes early...). Neither the bartender nor the DJ said anything about the hosted bar ending. It just magically changed over to cash bar basically whenever the bartender decided. Also, they were charging damn near $7 for a vodka cocktail with fucking White Eagle vodka. ...tha fuck?

hordol · July 2013

lyndsay782 said:

hordol It's apparently the place her husband went to solicit men for certain activities that a man in a monogamous relationship shouldn't do with other people.

No need to google it. He basically met up with some guy on craigslist there.

EDT: I accidentally typed should instead of shouldn't

Oh! Thanks for filling me in!

Well now I certainly see why it could make watching the ceremony a little more awkward.

Bubbles2014 · July 2013

Favourite - Seeing the dress, the vows, celebrating with the couple

Least - 7 hour gap, cash bar for everything including soft drinks, finger food at a 7 pm reception (this was all at the same wedding, BTW), fruit cake as the wedding cake (I know, it's their choice, but I hate fruit cake. It's false cake hope to be promised cake then have it be a flavour that you hate).

efmcc67 · July 2013

Favorite: the vows, the happiness on the couple's faces, seeing friends and family I rarely see, free drinks! (I've never been to a wedding with a cash bar), yummy cake

Least favorite: ceremonies with 5,000 readings, bad cake, the tosses, annoying DJs, too many spotlight dances

[Deleted User] · July 2013

lyndsay782 said:

hordol It's apparently the place her husband went to solicit men for certain activities that a man in a monogamous relationship shouldn't do with other people.

No need to google it. He basically met up with some guy on craigslist there.

EDT: I accidentally typed should instead of shouldn't

Uhhhh.. what was the end result? She didn't know? Or she just decided to stay?

monkeysip · July 2013

Harry87 said:

Favorite - watching the bride interact with all their friends and loved ones. So happy, so excited, just enjoying the day so much.

Least favorite - currently it has been music. I'm so sick of the same songs at every single wedding, with a couple of the current top 40 rolled in there. Oh good, another night of Love Shack, Celebrate, YMCA, Lady Gaga, Cupid Shuffle (or Chacha slide) a country song about fathers and daughters, Nat King Cole, need I go on?

Ugh, yes, this!

I argued with my DJ company about this. I wanted what I feel is better music, and they kept suggesting the same crap. It turned out to be a good blend. I chose a lot of music that H and I like and isn't "typical" (and actually got some compliments on our music). But we also had some of the cheesy stuff. The kids at the wedding wanted to do the chacha slide, and my dad demanded the cotton-eyed joe (@#!$%). I wanted my guests to be happy with a few of these songs, but overall I was so glad we at least had some good music that night!

blueobsidian · July 2013

Favorites: The couple saying their vows, when the food is delicious and plentiful, and unique touches that are really special to the couple. At the last wedding I went to, the couple were huge fans of fantasy books and movies, so their string quartet actually played themes from some of the films they love.

Least favorites: Like other posters mentioned, generic music and bad cake. I was a baker and did wedding cakes for a few years. Inedible desserts annoy me. Why even pay for them?

LizM61409 · July 2013

Favorites: hearing the bride and groom's voices as they tear up while reciting their vows

Least favorite: ceremony and reception an hour's drive apart with a 6 hour gap (though we made the most of it, as it we drove to the reception site, checked into the hotel, opened a bottle of wine and watched football)

Also a 1.5 hour cocktail hour in the 90+ degree heat in black tie attire- it was fine to sit outside in the shade for 20 minutes for the ceremony but standing in grass in that heat for so long was too much... I started feeling faint and had to sneak my way into some AC!

NYCBruin · July 2013

Favorites:

The ceremony (basically everything about it, but the vows are my absolute favorite part)

Late night snacks

Dancing (to non-cheesy music)

Seeing all the people most important to the couple in one place. It's a really cool look into the couple's lives to see all their friends and family together.

Open bars, for obvious reasons.

Least Favorites:

Tosses. I basically run away and hide. I don't like participating and watching is even worse.

Wedding speeches. I don't know when the toast morphed into a 10 minute speech about how you know the bride/groom and telling really long stories, but I wish we could go back to short and sweet toasts that last less than a minute.

Fortunately I've never been to a wedding with a cash bar, dollar dance, or not enough seats, although those would all make my list of "hates" if I had.

doeydo · July 2013

Favourite: The vows and first dance

Least favourite: Long speeches and not being able to eat some of the food due to allergies

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