The Claddagh Ring

Schrok12 · December 2011

Recently, my SO and I were discussing Claddagh rings. I have one that I wear on my right hand that my mother bought me over 3 years ago that I wear in the "heart is taken" setting. My question for you girls is using a Claddagh as an engagement ring.

Do any of you have Claddaghs as engagement rings? Would you be one to wear it heart facing out on your left hand for engagement then just turn it for marriage or buy a wedding band that goes along with it?

My SO and I were playing with this idea because depending on the Claddagh, it is cheaper than a diamond and I don't want him spending tons of money. We're young and don't really have the budget for a $2k diamond and I don't really want it anyways. I would get way too nervous about bumping it or something.

lunarsongbird · December 2011

I would probably buy a wedding band. There are some nice sets you can get.
You could most likely just buy the wedding band.

Exactly how old are you?

ETA: Also- You aren't engaged but have set a wedding date??

Also- you don't have to worry about bumping a diamond- it is one of the hardest substances known to man.

Ollie08 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_claddagh-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:fbc65ccd-31bd-4acf-86a0-063e74465670Post:94431314-5716-4dbe-adfd-1fa3f2ce99ea">Re: The Claddagh Ring</a>:
[QUOTE]I would probably buy a wedding band. There are some nice sets you can get. You could most likely just buy the wedding band. Exactly how old are you? ETA:<strong> Also- You aren't engaged but have set a wedding date??</strong> Also- you don't have to worry about bumping a diamond- it is one of the hardest substances known to man.
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

Out of the whole post, this is what I focused on. Maybe that's because I have no opinion on a Claddagh ring...

lunarsongbird · December 2011

Also- OP, you'll drive yourself CRAZY if you start planning a wedding 3 years out!

Do you have your parents support for your early engagement?

tuarceatha · December 2011

I don't know of any one with one as an engagement ring, but you two can use whatever you want to symbolize your engagement... once you are engaged?

You can have whatever you liiiike.... T.I., anyone?

Schrok12 · December 2011

I am engaged. We have set things up. However, we just don't have a ring yet. I'm 20 and we're both in school. The committment has been made and it's been made for after graduation. The proposal happened. Just not with a ring hence the ring talk.

Schrok12 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_claddagh-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:fbc65ccd-31bd-4acf-86a0-063e74465670Post:275e150f-dbe2-48a3-86b1-dad242ba0471">Re: The Claddagh Ring</a>:
[QUOTE]Also- OP, you'll drive yourself CRAZY if you start planning a wedding 3 years out! Do you have your parents support for your early engagement?
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

<div>Really, I've just been looking at ideas and browsing. Lurking on the boards on here. There's no serious planning besides for a tentative date.</div><div>
</div><div>We have my parents' support, but not really his yet but that is for other more complicated reasons with his mother that I'd rather not go into.</div>

lunarsongbird · December 2011

However- it does look like you got some pretty good advice overe here- <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_students_sophomore-college-newly-engaged-ish">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_students_sophomore-college-newly-engaged-ish</a>

ETA:
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_students_sophomore-college-newly-engaged-ish?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:684Discussion:0c9ce4ae-42f8-4505-9d2c-aae8793d67e4Post:71ed95b1-d0c1-4fbf-bedc-83c1832fc2b2">Re: Sophomore in college and newly engaged (ish)</a>:
[QUOTE]I think I need to clear something up. The only reason I say we are not "officially" engaged is because I don't a ring. However, I guess it all depends on your definition of engagement because to me, engaged is the promise that we will be married. And that has happened. <strong>He has asked me to marry him so therefore I'm <em>pretty </em>sure we're engaged.</strong> I just don't have the shiny ring to show for it yet.
Posted by Schrok12[/QUOTE]

My FI told me that he wanted to marry me someday...but then didn't actually propose to me until almost a year later. So you'll just want to make sure that you are both on the same page- and that he considers you both engaged, as well.

swhite2012 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_claddagh-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:fbc65ccd-31bd-4acf-86a0-063e74465670Post:9e1e08c5-0882-4ab2-9182-adc12508dbb4">Re: The Claddagh Ring</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't know of any one with one as an engagement ring, but you two can use whatever you want to symbolize your engagement... once you are engaged? <strong>You can have whatever you liiiike.</strong>... T.I., anyone?
Posted by jenjenniferf[/QUOTE]

<div>yeahhhhhhhhhhhhh. lol. So obnoxious.</div><div>
</div><div>Anyways, OP. Like others have said, focus on your relationship in the now before planning a wedding. You're not even engaged yet. As for your question, I think that using a Claddagh for your engagement is great if that's what you want. Like Lunar showed, there's a lot of blinged up ones out there with bands.</div>

Ollie08 · December 2011

Couple of things...

1. Don't plan your wedding now. Enjoy your relationship and finish school.

2. You can have whatever you'd like for an engagement ring. I see nothing wrong with adding a wedding band, or just turning it around. That is solely up to you.

3. You're either engaged or you're not. And you both need to be on the same page. FI and I talked about marriage a lot before he actually proposed. It wouldn't have mattered if he didn't have a ring, but I wouldn't consider myself engaged until he asked me and I said yes.

cu97tiger · December 2011

[QUOTE] <span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;">Things just started falling into place and as much as we've talked about it and considered it, we're waiting to be "officially" engaged until next fall when we will have been going out a year.</span><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;">[/QUOTE]</span></div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;">
</span></div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;">OP - In the same thread as the quote above, you say you won't be 20 until next month. You also have only been with this man for a few months at the most. Please please slow your roll. Enjoy your relationship as it is now, without trying to make it something it isn't. You are teenagers that are dating, there are many wonderful things that go along with that, without moving to the next stage so soon.</span></div>

swhite2012 · December 2011

Also, after reading the link to your other post: You really should slow it down on the planning. Even if you ARE engaged, a wedding may not be what you can handle in the next couple of years. You say your SO will be doing his Master's in Architecture? You are not going to want to have a wedding during that. Grad school is a lot of work. Architecture grad school is ten times that amount. Trust me. Your relationship will have to deal with a lot during that time. I'm not saying you can't handle it, but its tough.

You should probably slow down a little bit. Know more about where your lives are going before you try and squeeze a wedding in there. In the grand scheme of things, you really haven't know each other that long and you're young, so waiting a little longer won't kill you.

polkadot111 · December 2011

Hi my name is Hope and at 19 I decided I would get engaged. And ended up with a 3 year engagement. It is not a good plan to get engaged for THREE years. Not a good plan at all. After a year in you'll probably be bored and frustrated with wedding planning. After 3 years you'll be SOOO done with it. It's just a horrible idea. It does not take 3 years to plan a wedding. 6 months is more than enough. A year tops. That's all the time you need. With you both in school, it's a bad plan. I'm 22 now, and I totally regret this decision I made.

TheMutleys · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_claddagh-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:fbc65ccd-31bd-4acf-86a0-063e74465670Post:7974b068-7c70-4c2e-8ec6-2e6f029f3188">The Claddagh Ring</a>:
[QUOTE]Recently, my SO and I were discussing Claddagh rings. I have one that I wear on my right hand that my mother bought me over 3 years ago that I wear in the "heart is taken" setting. My question for you girls is using a Claddagh as an engagement ring.

Do any of you have Claddaghs as engagement rings? Would you be one to wear it heart facing out on your left hand for engagement then just turn it for marriage or buy a wedding band that goes along with it?

My SO and I were playing with this idea because depending on the Claddagh, it is cheaper than a diamond and I don't want him spending tons of money. We're young and don't really have the budget for a $2k diamond and I don't really want it anyways. I would get way too nervous about bumping it or something.
Posted by Schrok12[/QUOTE]

1) Why are you asking this question here? If you are engaged, then this would be a question for Just Engaged or somewhere else. Yes, there are lots of engaged and married ladies here. However, your question is out of place.

2) Why were you posting on TK in June when you didn't even get together with your "boy" until September?

This was posted 6/26/11. (Then again you joined in 2009, when you were 17!)
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_rough-day-high-anxiety?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee227d7-8936-4e35-a2ac-84f20c9edc38Post:c8a6d950-0a77-4481-a41f-f8021a329cce">Re: Rough day = high anxiety</a>:
[QUOTE]aww hugs! I'm very glad he's ok though!
Posted by Schrok12[/QUOTE]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_students_sophomore-college-newly-engaged-ish?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:684Discussion:0c9ce4ae-42f8-4505-9d2c-aae8793d67e4Post:e88a7609-3b42-4fa7-8489-ba50b4f46eed">Sophomore in college and newly engaged (ish)</a>:
[QUOTE]Hey fellow student brides! I thought I'd introduce myself. I'm a sophomore in college (20 in less than a month!) and so is my boy. <strong>Him and I were best friends all freshmen years (same college, he is just 3 months younger than me.) and <u>finally came together this past September. </u></strong>

Things just started falling into place and as much as we've talked about it and considered it, we're waiting to be<em><strong> "officially" engaged</strong></em> until next fall when we will have been going out a year. Reasons for that being financially we're just starting to save and<font color="#FF0000"><strong> talk about how we each handle finances and <u>making sure we're compatible</u></strong></font> and also because of social norms.

Did anyone have issues with parents? Right now we're worrying that even after a year that parents won't be 100% supportive. We're confident in ourselves and what we are doing. We aren't getting married until end of September 2014 when we both will have our undergraduate degrees and he will be working part time while also doing his Architecture Masters program. We're just saving and planning. Anyone in a similiar situation? I'm open to all advice and opinions.
Posted by Schrok12[/QUOTE]

3) If you are still figuring out if you are compatible, do you see how crazypants it is to be even <em>unofficially</em> engaged? An engagement means that you KNOW that you are compatible and have decided to marry one another. You don't decide to marry a person and then see if you are compatible.

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_students_sophomore-college-newly-engaged-ish?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:684Discussion:0c9ce4ae-42f8-4505-9d2c-aae8793d67e4Post:71ed95b1-d0c1-4fbf-bedc-83c1832fc2b2">Re: Sophomore in college and newly engaged (ish)</a>:
[QUOTE]I think I need to clear something up. <strong>The only reason I say we are not "officially" engaged is because I don't a ring. However, I guess it all depends on your definition of engagement because to me, engaged is the promise that we will be married. And that has happened. He has asked me to marry him so therefore<font color="#FF0000"> I'm pretty sure we're engaged</font>.</strong> I just don't have the shiny ring to show for it yet.
Posted by Schrok12[/QUOTE]

4) If even YOU are not sure that you are engaged, then I would err towards you not actually being engaged. <a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/11/13/db319725-ae9d-4b24-9dc9-089b4a745a98.large.gif" title="Click to view a larger photo" class="PhotoLink"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/11/13/db319725-ae9d-4b24-9dc9-089b4a745a98.medium.gif" alt="" /></a>

NurseyK · December 2011

Sherlock Mutley does it again!

thejucheidea · December 2011

I am loving this. LOVING THIS.

kellyt89 · December 2011

Just wear the claddagh as a regular ring and stop putting the cart before the horse. What is so horrible about just dating and being happy? Especially if you're still "figuring our if your compatible."

Talking about marriage =/= being engaged. BF and I started talking about marriage and kids after only a few months, we won't be engaged for probably another 2 years or so.

Then again, this is basically what I said on the students board...it makes my head hurt

swhite2012 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_claddagh-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:fbc65ccd-31bd-4acf-86a0-063e74465670Post:ca968fb6-f3a4-4736-96f8-e12c2b01f62d">Re: The Claddagh Ring</a>:
[QUOTE]Sherlock Mutley does it again!
Posted by NurseyK[/QUOTE]

<div>I want to know her secret! I'm so bad at sleuthing, whenever I try it just says posts are private!</div>

ravenray · December 2011

Here is a quick test to see if you are engaged. ***Warning: This test is not proven and not totally true. Make sure you have an actually conversation with you SO discussing if you are engaged before proclaiming this to the world*****

Does you SO call you his FI?

If Yes, then you might be engaged. See the warning label above.
If No, then you are NOT engaged. See warning label above.

lennonkdc · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_claddagh-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:fbc65ccd-31bd-4acf-86a0-063e74465670Post:3c36fe2e-17f8-4e16-9379-bf35e526697f">Re: The Claddagh Ring</a>:
[QUOTE]I am loving this. LOVING THIS.
Posted by ahstillwell[/QUOTE]

<div>this</div>

kaitlynmichelle · December 2011

This is amazing to come home to after a long day at work.

OP - seriously, you've been dating him a few months and you are thinking about marriage? Relax and just enjoy your relationship.

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