This is like the 4chan of wedding forums.

VarunaTT · July 2013

We are nowhere CLOSE to 4chan. DH used to play on there and even he says those guys are terrible. This bride has her panties in a wad.

hmonkey · July 2013

brides love a winner. brides will not tolerate a loser. brides despise cowards. brides play to win all of the time.

NerdyLucy · July 2013

VarunaTT said:

We are nowhere CLOSE to 4chan. DH used to play on there and even he says those guys are terrible. This bride has her panties in a wad.

Fo' sho'.

thejucheidea · July 2013

@Courtpenguin21 : I haven't spoken to her and neither has the other bridesmaid, but her wedding has been the talk of the office because of their classy money begging at the end of the wedding. We're both still just so incredibly pissed at her. I have no idea what we're going to do when she comes back from her honeymoon.

PrimRoseMama · July 2013

well, the violence to your groomsmen/bridesman is unacceptable. That is one thing, but the rest is not a huge deal. She is under no obligation to help you do anything other than show up reasonably attired for the wedding. It does suck that she absented herself from your shower, but an invitation is not a subpoena. She is allowed to have other plans. You get ONE day that she is supposed to be there for you. One. After that the rest is extra icing on the cake. It just is.

Its really really really douchey to try to photo shop her out of pictures. How juvenile, catty and mean can you get, man? Seriously? Are you five? Get a grip.

PrimRoseMama · July 2013

"I'm glib and facetious, sure, and disappointed in a friend, but I'm glad to not be as dogmatic and as full of singleminded vitriol as some of you here. When has launching as hominems on a wedding forum ever helped to change anyone's mind? Courtpenguin21 is the only person who has been reasonable and helped at all... my feelings of disappointment and upset are still valid. Just as the feelings of those in this thread who told me that I was ugly and a terrible friend are valid. Those statements may not be objective facts, but you are entitled to your reactions, opinions, and your personal feelings."

I don't know. I think planning to edit out your depressed friend because she didn't live up to your crazy expectations is plenty full of vitrol. In fact, I don't know how in the world you can call yourself a friend to this poor person. I've had enemies treat me better than you plan to do to your friend. Really. I think its rich that you are advocating reason when you don't seem to be able to be reasonable, thoughtful or compassionate yourself. All you care about is your wedding and your wedding photos. You certainly don't seem to care about your bridesmaid's feelings at all. If she is depressed she will figure it out that you have photo shopped her out. You know that will really devastate her right? It would really hurt my feelings that my bridesmaid took the time or paid someone to "work their magic" to make me disappear from their big day. Especially when I bothered to show up, buy the dress and take my day to stand up beside them. All she is responsible for is showing up. That's it.

You can feel however you feel, but honestly it sounds really really shallow, mean and cruel to your friend. I wouldn't treat someone I disliked that way. I have respect for them as human beings. Its really sad that you want to treat someone you are supposed to like and care for like this. It really is. It speaks to your quality of character and not for the better. You really should be ashamed of yourself. What you are proposing is really really really mean spirited.

So, I hope you enjoy the photos and all...

hockey20 · July 2013

First, you should be supportive of your friend. She's obviously got things tough right now and I'm sorry, but her life, in her mind, is going to trump your wedding, every time. Yes, she agreed to be your MOH, she's your friend (I think, I'm not really sure what you qualify as friend), and she wants to be there for you, but that does not mean that she has to help in every, or any, aspect of your wedding.

Second, DIY, do it yourself, not have your bridal party do it for you. My FI and I are having a very DIY wedding, and the only thing I've asked my MOH or BM to do is give me advice, since both are married, and happily so, and both are people I'm quite close to. My MOH graciously offered to make my ring pillow and I think she's just fantastic for doing it. I would have fumbled it out myself if I had to or just bought one ready to go.

Please, please do not photo shop your 'friend' out of your pictures, that is incredibly petty and shallow. Accept her the way she comes, her only job as MOH is, quite literally, to show up on time in the appropriate attire and sober, or reasonably sober.

SBmini · July 2013

I love it when people run to the thesaurus to help them win arguments in the internet.

This is like the 4chan of wedding forums.

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