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Number of Guests are Shrinking... best way to invite more?

blynch5blynch5
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I am getting married in a little over a month. When I began planning, my mother encouraged me to keep my guest list small which meant that I invited a lot of relatives and not a lot of friends. We were anticipating 100 even after declines but were horribly wrong. Now that we are getting responses to our invitations it seems that none of those relatives are going to be coming which means that I might not even reach our 85 person minimum. Most of the friends I would like to invite live in other states (I moved at the end of last year). I feel that the fastest way to invite them would be via facebook or email but I'm conflicted because I think people will believe it is rude or be upset that I didn't invite them in the first place. I also don't have enough guts to call them on the phone and invite them as I'm already mortified that I don't have enough people to meet my minimum guest. Any suggestions?
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    blynch5 said:
    I am getting married in a little over a month. When I began planning, my mother encouraged me to keep my guest list small which meant that I invited a lot of relatives and not a lot of friends. We were anticipating 100 even after declines but were horribly wrong. Now that we are getting responses to our invitations it seems that none of those relatives are going to be coming which means that I might not even reach our 85 person minimum. Most of the friends I would like to invite live in other states (I moved at the end of last year). I feel that the fastest way to invite them would be via facebook or email but I'm conflicted because I think people will believe it is rude or be upset that I didn't invite them in the first place. I also don't have enough guts to call them on the phone and invite them as I'm already mortified that I don't have enough people to meet my minimum guest. Any suggestions?
    If you think people will think it's rude (hint, you're right.  It does say "hey, you're good enough, but not a top tier friend!".  May not be the intened message, but it will ring through, loud and clear) AND these people live far away, the solution isn't more people.
    THe solution is, call your vendors say "life happened--what can we do if we don't hit our minimum?" and see what solutions you can come up with. 
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  • Bubbles2014Bubbles2014 member
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    Don't invite people just to hit your minimum. It's called being on the B list. I've been a B lister, and it sucks. Call your venue and ask what you can do if you don't hit the minimum. Can you upgrade your menu, host more alcohol, have more apps choices, etc? Hopefully your venue can give you some ideas!

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  • Ven&RadioVen&Radio member
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    Bubbles has the right idea. Don't B-list your friends. It's rude and hurtful to do this to them.
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  • ezza671ezza671 member
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    I agree it's rude, we did invite 2 couples at a month out. We are far closer to them now than we were when we sent out STD. They also live within 2 miles of the wedding, so they won't be put out with travel expenses. I text-ed them apologizing for the late notice, but if they were open on the day, could they please send me the address so I could mail them an invitation?
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