So I know this has been brought up a few times, but I just need some clarification so please bare with me ladies. Here is some background (sorry for the longness!! My MOH and one bridesmaid picked out a dress this weekend. I know its early, but David's Bridal was discontinuing the color my FI and I had decided on so we jumped it and my other BM is going to get the dress this week. ( FI and I didn't like any other designers variations of the color).
My sister, who is also my MOH, showed my mom a photo of her and my other BM in the dress. My mom said it was too plain and that I'm "lucky she wasn't there." It took a lot to hold back. (for the record, we picked the dresses together, they tried them on, they narrowed it down to their top 5, then their top 2, and we worked together to pick the final dress. don't get me wrong, there were others that my BM and I liked that were a little more dressier, that my sister didn't like and I always said I would never put any of them in a dress that they didn't feel comfortable in). Then my mom went on a tirade about how its not going to look good that all of the girls are going to be in different shoes. The dress is
Kelly Green (click for picture of the dress) and they will be carrying orange flowers, either carnations or roses haven't decided yet. I told the girls that either nude or gold will be fine because I feel that both colors will complete the dress. Well my dad got involved in the conversation and said that I might as well put the girls in different color dresses if they won't be wearing the same shoe. If they all wore the same shoe, then they would all be wearing flats because my sister can not wear heels since she has an issue with her foot and I'm totally ok with the flats.
My question is should I at least narrow it down to a color? Instead of giving them the option of both, just pick either gold or nude? I know that if I require them to wear a specific shoe then I have to pay for it and thats another thing my parents don't understand. They are under the belief and maybe its an old school mentality that the BMs and MOH wear what I say and that its part of their job to buy everything that is required of them. I'm ok with narrowing down the color to one or the other, but I don't feel comfortable with telling them that they have to wear a specific shoe just for a uniform look.