So we're sorting out the guest list. My parents are generously paying for a large part of the wedding. FI and I are paying for a part of it. FILs have offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner.
We have requested guest lists from both sets of parents. FILs have included a large number of extended family (about 30 people) who they claim will absolutely NOT come, but they feel they should invite. These guests live about 10 hours away and I have never met them, FI has only met some of them. I'm personally not comfortable inviting people with the assumption that they won't come, but FMIL is very insistent. Our space and budget is limited and I can see this getting quickly out of control. Am I just being paranoid? Should I trust her that these people will be "no's" and just go with it. I don't want to ruffle feathers but I also don't want to end up paying for a large number of unexpected guests. Thoughts?