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amandaelsenamandaelsen member
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One of my bridesmaids is getting married 3weeks after me. This isn't a problem, except that we share a bridesmaid who has decided that we need to have a joint bridal shower and bachelorette party because it would be easier for her. I'm not into this idea. At all. But everyone else is all for it. Am I super selfish for wanting to be the only bride at my bridal shower and bachelorette party? I'm mostly asking for affirmation that I'm not crazy.
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  • alikatt17alikatt17 member
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    I can understand the joint bachelorette if you all have mutual friends and it's a lot cheaper to attend one party.  That wouldn't bother me at all. 

    With the bridal shower, I don't see how that would work with having family members there.  It'd take twice as long to open gifts and no one enjoys watching that anyway.  Plus, would people feel obligated to bring a gift for the other bride that they don't know? 

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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    I wouldn't like it.  There are few times in life you're given absolute permission to be the center on attention.  I wouldn't want to share it. But, if she can't make it to both, be understanding.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    Yeah, I wouldn't want a joint shower.  Bachelorette wouldn't bother me because that seems to be either a night of party so the more the merrier.
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  • amandaelsenamandaelsen member
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    The problem with the joint bachelorette is they want to go bar hopping (which I hate) in a city on the other side of the state, and my sister/moh isn't invited. And they want to finish the night by crashing on some girl's floor that I don't know. I get that she's trying to make her life a little easier, but I have a kid that I can't ditch for an entire weekend for someone else's convenience. I talked to the other bride, and she doesn't want joint parties either. If she can't make it to both of our parties, we'll miss her, but we can't plan it completely around her schedule.
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  • MNNEBrideMNNEBride member
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    amandaelsen said:
    The problem with the joint bachelorette is they want to go bar hopping (which I hate) in a city on the other side of the state, and my sister/moh isn't invited. And they want to finish the night by crashing on some girl's floor that I don't know. I get that she's trying to make her life a little easier, but I have a kid that I can't ditch for an entire weekend for someone else's convenience. I talked to the other bride, and she doesn't want joint parties either. If she can't make it to both of our parties, we'll miss her, but we can't plan it completely around her schedule.
    If they are planning a bachelorette that includes things you hate, is across the state and most importantly, not including  your MOH/sister, it's not a joint party.  Why doesn't your sister/MOH plan something separate you would enjoy and invite everyone?  It's not about the bridesmaid, it's about the bride.
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  • tawillerstawillers member
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    edited August 2013
    I'm with MNNE.  The party shouldn't be inconvenient and unenjoyable for you.
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