I have a large family and am close to many of my cousins, but my groom is not close to his extended family and wants a small wedding. The only compromise I can think of is to not have children at the wedding or reception, but I know that one of my aunts did not go to her own brother's wedding because there was no kids. My groom is also not willing to pay for care, how do I not offend my family and friends that have children?