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Do vendors get wedding invitation?

clharrison2clharrison2 member
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I am just a little confused on this. My calligrapher told us to go ahead and start putting our guest list together, do all my vendors (florist, caterer, dj, etc.) get a wedding invitation, or is it just understood they are invited to ceremony/reception?
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    No. They are vendors, not friends or family. They're hired. I would email the vendors that will be around for the reception (DJ, coordinator, photog) and ask them what they want for meals (hungry photog= crappy pictures) but that's it. 
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  • MayDay513MayDay513 member
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    clharrison2 said:
    I am just a little confused on this. My calligrapher told us to go ahead and start putting our guest list together, do all my vendors (florist, caterer, dj, etc.) get a wedding invitation, or is it just understood they are invited to ceremony/reception?
    They are vendors. Not guests. They will not rsvp. They aren't invited, they are paid to work your event. Our florist did not come to our ceremony or reception, she came set up and left. It would be so weird to have her at the ceremony, to do what? or at the reception so you have another mouth to feed and to figure out where she should sit? Skip it.

    Check your contracts you may be required to provide a meal for photog and dj, but what we did was added them to head count and they went through our buffet line.
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  • melbelleupmelbelleup member
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    No they don't get a invention, but you DO have to count them for a meal.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Certain vendors will not be at your wedding at all once the ceremony starts, such as the florist, MUA, hairstylist, baker, etc.  Basically the only vendors who will need to be at both the ceremony and reception are the DJ and Photographer and wedding planner/DOC if you are having one.

    Also, ditto what everyone else said.


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  • tammym1001tammym1001 member
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    I am sending an invitation to our Priest, but it's because we want him to come to the reception after the ceremony. Other than that, no I wouldn't send invitations to any other vendors. They are under contract to provide services at your wedding so they know they need to be there and you already know they will be there.
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  • MuppetOverlordMuppetOverlord member
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    Only send your guests invites.
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  • GlassButtonGlassButton member
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    edited August 2013
    Other than our officiant (in my case pastor) we will not be sending any vendors any invitation. I will be providing them with a meal, piece of cake, and access to dessert and candy bar. This will only be to vendors that are part of the reception.
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  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    edited August 2013
    Priests and pastors are not vendors. It is proper etiquette to invite them and their spouses, if they have them. Vendors do not get invitations.
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  • SomethingBeautiful08SomethingBeautiful08 member
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    Priests / pastors or other officiants due to the personal nature of their role should get an invite along with their spouse / SO (yes pastors date). An officiants that you don't know and are paying should be treated as another vendor. Often times wedding planner / DOCs might appreciate an invite for their files.  You should have a spare invite around on wedding day for the photographer to photograph.  Otherwise vendors should have all the info they need from their contract.
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  • WinstonsGirlWinstonsGirl member
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    Your venue should offer a vendor meal, which is often cheaper than what you are offering as well, for feeding vendors.  Most will have a clause in their contract about meals.  We only had our photographers, and since we know them from outside of the wedding (they are good friends with my Bro/SIL) we decided to offer them the same choice for meals as our other guests.  She said they were actually really excited about the choice of meals, as they didn't often get asked, and really, the 2 extra meals cost us very little in the grand scheme.  We just asked for their preference over e-mail.  They didn't receive an invite

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  • Sharpschruter22Sharpschruter22 member
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    I sent an invite to my photographer and she wrote a lovely note on the RSVP card. I needed to know what entree choice she wanted and felt an invitation was appropriate.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    No, vendors don't get invitations.  But you do need to include them in head counts.
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