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Wedding nightmare stories.tell me!

I'll tell one. I've never been married and I am not married now, but boy do I remember the whole process of my brother's wedding. Talk about a nightmare. To start it all off, my sister-in-law was very very sheltered as a child so her parents pretty much chose and did everything for her. Dont get me wrong, she's very nice, I just pictured my brother marrying someone different. But once they got engaged it got crazy. First of all, her mom is sort of a control freak. She tends to sweet talk her way into persuading and it works. My brother would've proposed earlier, only, her mom knew he was going to propose and pretty much suggested when he should. And not long after that, their engagement was only for 3 months which totally made my mom not happy and to be honest i wasnt either. First of all,the whole tradition of the bride's family paying and doing everything, SO not instigated for this wedding which made all of us mad and stressed. Her mom didnt throw the bridal shower...my mom and my sister and I did and paid for pretty much everything!. We created the bridal shower invitations, when it came time for the wedding, we decided light snacks would work because they were just having a very intimate and small wedding amongst close family. Second, her mom and her bought a very old vintage wedding dress that didnt fit her at all and made her look like an old woman. My mom, my sister and I had to decorate the church the night before the wedding and we bought all the decor. We made all the food for the wedding and bought all the food minus the cake. We did everything! This pretty much infuriated my mom because when we were decorating the reception area, we thought that round tables would look best, well when we got there..there were rectangular ones set up! My SIL mother being the control person she is...told them to use the long tables and she wasnt even helping with the wedding like at all!. Needless to say my mom had to hold her tongue alot that day to keep the mood up. The only thing my SIL mom did was decorate the pews..with the ugliest bows you've ever seen. All in all..the wedding planning itself was a nightmare, but if it made my brother happy then i guess it was worth it. Its funny though..he was kind of ticked off too about the whole planning process cause he knew what we did to make his wedding go off without a hitch. When my wedding day comes, I am going to use anyone I can to help and help myself as well.

Re: Wedding nightmare stories.tell me!

  •  First of all,the whole tradition of the bride's family paying and doing everything, SO not instigated for this wedding which made all of us mad and stressed. Her mom didnt throw the bridal shower...my mom and my sister and I did and paid for pretty much everything!.

    Even though your brother's MIL doesn't sound like a nice person, her family is not obligated in any way to pay for anything, her daughter and your brother are. If your family paid for stuff, that's your choice. She doesn't have to throw a bridal shower either.

     

  • psychbabe314psychbabe314 member
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    edited August 2013
    I am NYE, so I usually just lurk on these boards but there are a few things from weddings I have been too that I have made a point to put aside in my mind as a "DO NOT COPY" for future ideas. These include:

    1. Pitching a fit when parents don't give enough to plan a wedding (I do not even expect parents to pitch in at all! I would love if they did :-) but this is something I will plan around what me and future FI can scrape together unless someone else OFFERS!)
    2. Having a high school boy be the DJ using just his i-pod... Strange music and long... silent... transitions...
    3. Never doing any tastings for food/cake and discovering that the food tasted terrible the day of the wedding.
    4. No alcohol at all (bride/groom were both under 21)
    5. Ask wedding party and bride's mom and dad to stay and clean up after the reception
    6. Having FMIL donate a wedding dress from the arc and then having to lose 30 lbs to fit into it. Very sweet thought but this was a nightmare because the day of, it still did not fit. 30 minutes before the ceremony I had to make an extension for the skirt, add fabric to cover the gap, sew extra fabric into the lace up back so I could change out the ribbon and put in a longer piece, and rub white chalk over some small brown stains in the skirt. Luckily, I was the oldest bridesmaid so I took it upon myself to have an emergency wedding kit for the occasion. I had to use almost the entire kit because no one else in the entire wedding party thought to bring one.
    7. no inviting SO's
  • I'll tell one. I've never been married and I am not married now, but boy do I remember the whole process of my brother's wedding. Talk about a nightmare. To start it all off, my sister-in-law was very very sheltered as a child so her parents pretty much chose and did everything for her. Dont get me wrong, she's very nice, I just pictured my brother marrying someone different. But once they got engaged it got crazy. First of all, her mom is sort of a control freak. She tends to sweet talk her way into persuading and it works. My brother would've proposed earlier, only, her mom knew he was going to propose and pretty much suggested when he should. And not long after that, their engagement was only for 3 months which totally made my mom not happy and to be honest i wasnt either. First of all,the whole tradition of the bride's family paying and doing everything, SO not instigated for this wedding which made all of us mad and stressed. Her mom didnt throw the bridal shower...my mom and my sister and I did and paid for pretty much everything!. We created the bridal shower invitations, when it came time for the wedding, we decided light snacks would work because they were just having a very intimate and small wedding amongst close family. Second, her mom and her bought a very old vintage wedding dress that didnt fit her at all and made her look like an old woman. My mom, my sister and I had to decorate the church the night before the wedding and we bought all the decor. We made all the food for the wedding and bought all the food minus the cake. We did everything! This pretty much infuriated my mom because when we were decorating the reception area, we thought that round tables would look best, well when we got there..there were rectangular ones set up! My SIL mother being the control person she is...told them to use the long tables and she wasnt even helping with the wedding like at all!. Needless to say my mom had to hold her tongue alot that day to keep the mood up. The only thing my SIL mom did was decorate the pews..with the ugliest bows you've ever seen. All in all..the wedding planning itself was a nightmare, but if it made my brother happy then i guess it was worth it. Its funny though..he was kind of ticked off too about the whole planning process cause he knew what we did to make his wedding go off without a hitch. When my wedding day comes, I am going to use anyone I can to help and help myself as well.
    Why did you plan your brother's wedding? The bride's mom isn't supposed to throw the bridal shower. And no one HAS to. If you chose to, then you are responsible for it, including the invitations. Why would you judge her dress? Or pew bows? Why would you buy the decor and decorate the venue?

    There is so much ridiculousness here.
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