Burlap + Lace = Vomit

KeptInStitches · August 2013

wajohnson09 · August 2013

emilygardensname said:
I definitely know what you mean about the awkward rustic ascetic you see around these days. It's almost like people are trying to be lazy and not adopt good taste! lol! I once received an invitation made of purse mouse leather! I'm an old fashion kind of gal that loves a good solid color graphic design draped in pastels. Unfortunately my hubby insisted that we used some strange organic squid ink and 100% recycled paper for our invitations (yuck! I hate bugs!) He even ate one to show me how natural it was. Gross! He even ate the mouse leather invitation! Anyway, when I remarry I'm definitely going to dominate the theme! No corn-oil cups that melt in your hand, no duck feather party favors, no macaroni sculptures, and most of all no bird seed! lol men, am I right? Can't live with em!

What is purse mouse leather? Actually not sure if I want to know...

emilygardensname · August 2013

lol I meant pure

Dreamergirl8812 · August 2013

emilygardensname said:

I definitely know what you mean about the awkward rustic ascetic you see around these days. It's almost like people are trying to be lazy and not adopt good taste! lol! I once received an invitation made of purse mouse leather! I'm an old fashion kind of gal that loves a good solid color graphic design draped in pastels. Unfortunately my hubby insisted that we used some strange organic squid ink and 100% recycled paper for our invitations (yuck! I hate bugs!) He even ate one to show me how natural it was. Gross! He even ate the mouse leather invitation! Anyway, when I remarry I'm definitely going to dominate the theme! No corn-oil cups that melt in your hand, no ty favorduck feather pars, no macaroni sculptures, and most of all no bird seed! lol men, am I right? Can't live with em!

thisismynickname2 · August 2013

SouthernBelle and Ashley that one dress has uniform pickups... I like those fine; more of what I mean is what Kristin Cavallari wore (I'm on my phone otherwise I'd link a pic). When pickups are haphazard it looks strange to me- like a wrapped up bedsheet. And I really adore illusion necklines, I do! It's a welcome alternative for those of us less comfortable with the mostly-strapless styles dominating the last ten years of fashion. I HOPE I won't hate it in another 3-5 years. I hope it's a timeless fashion

In the end... All brides look glowing and beautiful no matter anyone else's personal opinion of the garment.

And p.s. I currently adore the "Gatsby" theme not for the story but for the art deco jewelry and other '20's decor. Carey Mulligan's costumes (including headpieces) in the movie were to die for in my book!

shannyb41 · August 2013

I'm using some burlap and some lace but it suits our style and the venue we are using. But it's not the main focus. The rest is fall stuff...pumpkins, leaves, mums etc. My invitations had embossed lace trim (not a graphic that was printed on, it was done by hand) and the belly band was burlap with a red chiffon rose in the center with a pearl. We don't have a "theme"...I don't get that...it's not a birthday party.

Our venue is rustic and that's our style so we are using it. The lace matches my dress so we are using it. I think there is a nice, subtle way to do something and then an over the top tack way to do it.

One thing I don't like is that cake topper I see all over with the bride dragging the groom. Thats kind of the opposite of a happy wedding to me. I get the "joke" but I'm not a fan.

robinwinegirl · August 2013

Now that I know about this trend I see it EVERYWHERE! Yuck!

SP29 · August 2013

At first I thought a bunch of you were just being over the top hating on the burlap and lace. I always thought it could be done quite tastefully. But, since it was mentioned, I started paying attention on pinterest.... and WOW.

I saw one that had burlap table "linens" (as burlap isn't linen

)! That was too much for me.

I still think burlap can be done tastefully (I will always love anything lace), but I think it turns a corner when EVERYTHING is burlap+lace+mason jars and it is more about following some "theme" than appropriately styling your venue.

I agree about the pretty pink princess "theme". I watched an episode of Rich Bride, Poor Bride where the colours were (white) and pink, and the cake was a Cinderella castle (with pink detailing) on top of a couple white round layers. The groom definitely didn't want any part of the pink, but his opinion got overturned.

FiancB · August 2013

Aw, I like the rustic thing. I was originally looking for some sort of barn venue but ended up falling in love with a hotel on a golf course, go figure. But then I actually am a country girl and a horse trainer, so the country rustic thing actually is something "me", not just a fad. But it's gotten so damn popular that I'm less interested in doing it.

I agree that burlap is a bit ugly. When I think burlap, I think wool sacks, which are stinky and dirty, lol. A little bit to wrap your bouquet in is fine. A table or aisle runner is too much.

I have to agree with the cutesy poem thing though.

kefryar · August 2013

gillespietjg said:

I agree. I think the "shabby chic" look is way overdone. Burlap and weddings don't mix - unless you are getting married in a barn.

I'm getting married in a barn. "Traditional" wedding decorations would look pretty stupid. It all depends on personal taste. I think that water beads and mirrored centerpieces are terrible, but that doesn't mean that they wouldn't look beautiful in the right setting. People are way too critical of other people's choices, and let's face it, in 30 years all of our weddings are going to look dated.

ashleyep · August 2013

FiancB said:

Aw, I like the rustic thing. I was originally looking for some sort of barn venue but ended up falling in love with a hotel on a golf course, go figure. But then I actually am a country girl and a horse trainer, so the country rustic thing actually is something "me", not just a fad. But it's gotten so damn popular that I'm less interested in doing it.

I agree that burlap is a bit ugly. When I think burlap, I think wool sacks, which are stinky and dirty, lol. A little bit to wrap your bouquet in is fine. A table or aisle runner is too much.

I have to agree with the cutesy poem thing though.

The rustic thing can work in the right venue - but I don't think you can pull it off in a golf club.

SP29 · August 2013

Depends on how the golf club looks. I was looking into a golf club as an option for our ceremony and reception. One of the buildings is fairly old and had a fairly rustic feel- stone fireplace, lots of wood detailing etc... rustic would have worked.

FiancB- my MOH also dreams of getting married in a barn but is kind of put off by it now since "everyone" is doing it (if I had the money, I'd do it). However, she isn't planning on getting married until two summer's from now, so is hoping that barns won't be "cool" then, and then she can do it.

FiancB · August 2013

Oh yeah, I'm not planning on doing the rustic thing in the golf course. Maybe a little tiny dose of it here and there, but I think it'll end up being more modern than anything. Funny how weddings end up taking on a life of their own.

I will be wearing cowboy boots, but no one will be able to see them unless I lift my dress. It's a nod to my background, it's comfy, and I won't tower over my fiance who is just a hair or two taller than me. Of course, the cowboy boots thing is a bit of a fad too these days. Bah humbug. When I was engaged to someone else a few years ago I mentioned that idea and people looked at me like I'd lost my mind. Now it's so last season.

nellybellycat · August 2013

Hey now! I'm using burlap. Simple burlap though, only table runners. No lace though because I didn't want to look to rustic because I am not getting married in a barn.

WonderRed · August 2013

We're getting married in an adobe, santa fe style venue with rustic exposed brick walls, raw viga beams, saltillo tile floors, wrought iron fixtures, and tons of southwestern and native american art work. "Traditional" decorations would look down right ridiculous and out of place in our room. Yes, our table runners are burlap. It fits with everything else in the room. No lace though.

kaesuze · August 2013

Not that I love the burlap/lace thing, but I think sometimes it might be used to reflect the merging styles of the bride and groom. Not that it's exactly the same, but our living room is a combination of modern and antique (as I prefer more vintage and my hubs to be prefers more modern).

I can agree that themes can be rather tacky or over the top when presented the wrong wayews (I saw a Disney Princess one recently and I couldn't tell if it was a joke or for real). However, I also think it can be a really creative way to tell the story of the bride and groom. We are incorporating little details that others might find silly or odd, but are significant to us as a couple. Our wedding cake topper is a pair of otters, which I'm sure sounds really odd and probably nuts to some, but it's sort of mine and his thing.

FiancB · August 2013

Our cake topper will be a pair of ferrets, so close! LOL! (We have two). That's really cute!

msdds51 · September 2013

I actually like the burlap and lace, BUT I would NEVER do that for my wedding because everyone on earth that is getting married these days seems to do it. Same goes for that lace, cap sleeve, trumpet style, sweetheart neckline dress. Love it! Beautiful! But I'd never get one because everyone else is. I get really mad when people pick a dress like that on SYTD etc.

OH, and one trend I actually do really DESPISE is the stripper wedding dress! You know.... the see-through Pnina Tornai dress? Um... for real? You going to the church like that?

AcrophobicPixie · September 2013

My FI actually ordered a modified version of that kind of topper, where he's playing a video game with both of our characters on the tv screen. My gaming group jokes that it should be reversed (him dragging me off) since I play that game more than he does. It's going to go on the groom's cake if we have a big reception, else it is just going to be a decoration somewhere, like on the cookie table (Pittsburgh tradition).

My sister got on the pinterest bandwagon shortly after it launched, I think, so her wedding ideas she got for the rustic wedding decor were fresh, and fit her venue perfectly (a barn/shelter thing at an archery range), and since it was 2+ years ago, she escaped the "That's so overdone" curse.

I like the burlap and lace treatment, when done right. It's just not my style, in addition to so many instances of poor execution. Now, some of the wedding decor ideas they have on pinterest are cute as hell. Others? *falls over laughing* It is just like, you're getting married, and you want the thing your guests to remember it by as *that*?!? My humor board is starting to look like the wedding board for the tackiness, most ridiculous wedding to ever be seen on the face of this planet (in between funny cat pics & someecards). If my family didn't know that I want a small, simple "theme" just based on my wedding colors, I think I'd be victim to a wedding intervention!

pengwinn · September 2013

I was going to maybe use burlap and lace. And we were thinking of a barn wedding. Now I'm not so sure.

Also, I don't consider that a theme.

katieg520 · October 2013

erinr26 said:

I hate any "trend" that implies the groom doesn't want to get married. Like cake toppers where the bride is dragging the groom by the collar.

OMG I agree! It's annoying!!!!!

Majelin86 · October 2013

I don't mind the burlap and lace thing if it's done tastefully.

The thing that annoys me is the "I said yes!" engagement photo where the girl is holding a piece of paper that says that on it. Well obviously you said yes, you're wearing an engagement ring and having engagement pictures taken!

The choreographed dances are also getting annoying now that everyone is doing them.

I also hate the pictures where the bride and groom are forming a heart with their hands, sooo cheesy!

One more thing - CAMO! Hate it in weddings, it screams redneck. Not a fan at all.

maryemoo · October 2013

I HATE PINTEREST FOR THIS. DAMN YOU, PINTEREST! NO to burlap. NO to twine. NO to FRIGGIN MASON JARS. NO to crappy looking driftwood signs. NO NO NO.

crltx · October 2013

gillespietjg said:

I agree. I think the "shabby chic" look is way overdone. Burlap and weddings don't mix - unless you are getting married in a barn.

I am having burlap, lace and mason jars at my wedding. Because it is in TX, in a barn and all country. Here is the kicker...I am having BBQ too. I bet you guys cant stand that. I am sure all of your weddings are better than anyone's out there lol. Go find something else to be judgmental about now

Inkdancer · October 2013

In June, my friend and her hubs got married. Their vows were rhyming poems about how they promised to love each other and also take out the garbage. I wanted to hurl.

CLI242009 · October 2013

I was browsing the forums and saw this. I had no idea this was "IN". I just went and looked up pics on google.....why the hell would anyone want their cake sitting on a burlap sack?!?!?!?

kitty8403 · October 2013

I agree with the earlier comment on "fauxhemian" decor and attire -- here, we call it "Big and Rich Cowboy."
I live in the country. I am marrying a real-life former cowboy (rodeo, rodeo school, ranch hand, great with horses). We are having our reception in a purpose-built events "barn." I'm STILL sick of mason jars and burlap, sunflowers, hay bale seating, camo, and cowboy cutouts. This is a wedding, damn it!
But I agree that decorating for these venues is tough--traditional decor tends to look silly.

[Deleted User] · October 2013

Pretty dang happy I stumbled on this post- I thought I was going crazy when a ton of people kept asking me "what's your theme" for my wedding....um marriage? Spending the rest of our lives together?...I get that it's easier to plan with a little cohesion but a full blown everything coordinated theme just seems over the top!

PolarBearFitz · October 2013

kitty8403 said:

I agree with the earlier comment on "fauxhemian" decor and attire -- here, we call it "Big and Rich Cowboy." I live in the country. I am marrying a real-life former cowboy (rodeo, rodeo school, ranch hand, great with horses). We are having our reception in a purpose-built events "barn." I'm STILL sick of mason jars and burlap, sunflowers, hay bale seating, camo, and cowboy cutouts. This is a wedding, damn it! But I agree that decorating for these venues is tough--traditional decor tends to look silly.

awwwwwww maaaaaaan I love sunflowers...the rest I agree with.

The FI gave me a bouquet of sunflowers before we started dating so they are completely sentimental to me.

chkmeowt · November 2013

I actually like burlap and lace, wrapped around mason jars (the horror!). But not burlap as table linens, too scratchy!

I don't think I'll be using any of those though, wouldn't go along with my carnival theme... (o.O)

It's all good though. Good food, good fun, good booze. No one will mind my crazy sauce ideas.

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