I need to be talked off a proverbial ledge...

hardlyhannah · August 2013

So we got our first RSVP where they wrote kids in.

Here's the situation:

My parent's neighbors. They were invited, their two daughters were not. They talked to my father and said that their babysitter is at college and they don't have anyone else to watch the kids and asked if the kids were invited. My father told them that no, they are not invited.

They wrote them in anyway.

However, the way that they did it was write just the two of their names on the 'M' line, they wrote their own names by the food, then also wrote '2 children's meals' on the allergy/children's meal line.

I really really really want to message them and ask for clarification on which meals they are looking for themselves - the adult meals or kids meals.

I want to do it so bad.

So... so... bad.

I know I should be the better person and explain straight up that unfortunately we can't accommodate their kids but...

THE SNARK

MairePoppy · August 2013

Do it!

Simply Fated · August 2013

Jump! Jump! Jump!

AlexisA01 · August 2013

I kinda want you to do it, you can call them and play it off in a way. I can't believe they did that. It was so rude how they asked and then wrote the names.. What really gets me is that they are using the excuse of their baby sitter is away.

Simply Fated · August 2013

AlexisA01 said:
I kinda want you to do it, you can call them and play it off in a way. I can't believe they did that. It was so rude how they asked and then wrote the names.. What really gets me is that they are using the excuse of their baby sitter is away.

INORITE? Worse excuse ever!
The baby-sitter is away at college aka she/he will be away for months at a time. Months. You'd think they'd get another baby-sitter for these school semesters, KWIM?

hardlyhannah · August 2013

I know for a fact that they send them away to grandparents all the time. And there are other kids of babysitting age in the neighborhood - but no one but the one babysitter can be trusted.

These kids aren't even that little - they're both grade school aged.

But you are supposed to be good influences and talk me OUT of it!

Simply Fated · August 2013

hardlyhannah said:
I know for a fact that they send them away to grandparents all the time. And there are other kids of babysitting age in the neighborhood - but no one but the one babysitter can be trusted.

These kids aren't even that little - they're both grade school aged.

But you are supposed to be good influences and talk me OUT of it!

You're right. I'm sorry. Let's try this again...

No. Don't do it.

Was that believable enough? I tried.

AlexisA01 · August 2013

Simply Fated said:

I kinda want you to do it, you can call them and play it off in a way. I can't believe they did that. It was so rude how they asked and then wrote the names.. What really gets me is that they are using the excuse of their baby sitter is away.
INORITE? Worse excuse ever! The baby-sitter is away at college aka she/he will be away for months at a time. Months. You'd think they'd get another baby-sitter for these school semesters, KWIM?

I was going to right in:what happens if they want a date night or a night out!? They can't go anywhere AT all because their baby sitter is at school. That needs its on facebook WTF page.

MobKaz · August 2013

They sound like bullies! I should know....I see bullies here everyday on TK! Bullying cannot and should not be tolerated! I suggest you flood their yard with flags.

NYCBruin · August 2013

I say do it! I mean you have to call and tell them their kids aren't invited anyways. You could play it off like you were really confused why they requested children's meals for themselves.

And seriously WTF to the babysitter thing. Ummm if their babysitter went to college, do they just never go out except when there's a semester break?? Time to find a new babysitter!

Dreamergirl8812 · August 2013

Jump! Jump! Jump!

Come on, there's no way they are this rude. They must just want the kids meal. But you better contact them to be sure.

nebullama · August 2013

AlexisA01 said:

I was going to right in:what happens if they want a date night or a night out!? They can't go anywhere AT all because their baby sitter is at school. That needs its on facebook WTF page.

This is what I was thinking. And what are they going to do when the babysitter graduates and starts her own life somewhere?

KeptInStitches · August 2013

No. Stop. Don't.

Well, I tried.

[/apathy]

kmcclelland7 · August 2013

Don't call them at all and order the kids meals for them. Then we they are at the reception with weird looks on their faces, just pull out the RSVP and say "Ohhh I'm so sorry. But you did write on the kids meal line so that's what we ordered you".

Ok, maybe don't do that.

But do it so we can laugh about it?

APDSS22 · August 2013

Don't do it...until you've had a couple glasses of wine? *evil little voice on the shoulder*

WinstonsGirl · August 2013

Do it!! And then come back here to tell us all about it!!

NavyWife777 · August 2013

Please do and tell us so we can live vicariously through you

WildMagelet · August 2013

Wow, the nerve of some people. Call to ask and are told no and STILL try and slide by anyways. Special neighbors your folks have right there.

Let us know what you decide

mobkaz said:

They sound like bullies! I should know....I see bullies here everyday on TK! Bullying cannot and should not be tolerated! I suggest you flood their yard with flags.

hardlyhannah · August 2013

I'll let you know how the convo goes :-)

NYCBruin · August 2013

mobkaz said:

They sound like bullies! I should know....I see bullies here everyday on TK! Bullying cannot and should not be tolerated! I suggest you flood their yard with flags.

We should probably get some secret gestapo type group to take care of the bullies. It would definitely solve the "bullying" problem and definitely wouldn't cause more problems.

Thread jack over. Sorry OP!

hardlyhannah · August 2013

I spoke with them - they 'thought they could bring them because there was a kids meal option'. *eye roll*

I told them that we cannot accommodate the kids due to space.

They said 'oh, ok, we may not be able to come then i'll let you know if we can find a babysitter by your RSVP day'

Rather uneventful conclusion.

APDSS22 · August 2013

At least they didn't scream and throw things?

WildMagelet · August 2013

hardlyhannah said:

I spoke with them - they 'thought they could bring them because there was a kids meal option'. *eye roll*

I told them that we cannot accommodate the kids due to space.

They said 'oh, ok, we may not be able to come then i'll let you know if we can find a babysitter by your RSVP day'

Rather uneventful conclusion.

Uhm yeah, a kid's meal option is available for kids that are invited.

Good for you for not calling him out on his lie.

Ajuliana · August 2013

I might be confused by that honestly. It just makes people who's kids aren't invited feel like shit.

NYCBruin · August 2013

Ajuliana said:

I might be confused by that honestly. It just makes people who's kids aren't invited feel like shit.

Eh I disagree with the "well some kids got invited, so it's SO UNFAIR that mine didn't. Huff." viewpoint.

But I agree it may cause some confusion so I guess note to lurkers: if you're inviting some children but not all children, maybe don't put a kid's meal option on the RSVP card! Instead just handwrite a note or print an informal insert into put invitations with children invited telling them to handwrite in their children's menu choices.

GypsyWife_ · August 2013

NYCBruin said:

Ajuliana said:

I might be confused by that honestly. It just makes people who's kids aren't invited feel like shit.

Eh I disagree with the "well some kids got invited, so it's SO UNFAIR that mine didn't. Huff." viewpoint.

But I agree it may cause some confusion so I guess note to lurkers: if you're inviting some children but not all children, maybe don't put a kid's meal option on the RSVP card! Instead just handwrite a note or print an informal insert into put invitations with children invited telling them to handwrite in their children's menu choices.

i like how you put this for lurkers. it really helped me. thanks.

LDubHawksFan · August 2013

NYCBruin said:

Ajuliana said:

I might be confused by that honestly. It just makes people who's kids aren't invited feel like shit.

Eh I disagree with the "well some kids got invited, so it's SO UNFAIR that mine didn't. Huff." viewpoint.

But I agree it may cause some confusion so I guess note to lurkers: if you're inviting some children but not all children, maybe don't put a kid's meal option on the RSVP card! Instead just handwrite a note or print an informal insert into put invitations with children invited telling them to handwrite in their children's menu choices.

Yep, this is exactly what we did. It almost was 100% effective, but alas, we still had one bold couple write a kid's meal in. It took care of most though.

hardlyhannah · August 2013

It was more for my adult friends/cousins who are really picky eaters and would prefer chicken tenders to steak or salmon. :-)

But whats done is done, and it's hopefully resolved.

Jen4948 · August 2013

hardlyhannah said:

It was more for my adult friends/cousins who are really picky eaters and would prefer chicken tenders to steak or salmon. :-)

But whats done is done, and it's hopefully resolved.

Be prepared for them to show up with their kids anyway.

phira · August 2013

hardlyhannah said:

It was more for my adult friends/cousins who are really picky eaters and would prefer chicken tenders to steak or salmon. :-)

But whats done is done, and it's hopefully resolved.

Ahaha, so you must be inviting my brother to your wedding.

Abbyjensen · August 2013

Well, they sound a little ignorant of invite etiquette, but at least it sounds like they weren't trying to be intentionally rude.

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