This is probably going to be a bit long, so I apologize in advance, but I really have no idea what I'm doing lol.
1) My family and family friends are all out of state. Do I send save the dates? And if so, do I send them to everyone or only out of state people?
2) A large portion of the people we are inviting are single. How do I word that they are allowed to bring a guest?
3) We are trying to keep our invite list on the smaller side (not working too well so far though). As such we have decided to only invite children of people who are out of state. However, there is one exception. My FI's cousin's daughter is going to be a junior bridesmaid so she and her brother are invited to the wedding. Is this rude? Should we be inviting all children if we are inviting some?
a) Background information: My FI and I are a bit on the older side. Most friends and family that are local have children between the ages of 5 and 17. We are inviting the parents of the friends (grandparents to the children) to the wedding so they do not have easy access to free childcare for the wedding. Should we provide childcare?
4) I am thoroughly lost on how to go about finding my invitations. The theme for our wedding is butterflies, but there aren't very many butterfly invitations that I can find online that I like. Do I order ones online and then get them printed locally or are there sites that do both? And what about the envelopes?
Thanks for any help you can all provide.