My fiance's cousin was going to be our best "man" (yes, she) Today, she imformed my fiance that she was pulling out, using the dress price as an excuse. Here's her whole explanation:
Hi, I'm dropping out because I cannot afford the dress. I have conveyed the message to ... as he is the one who asked me to be part of the wedding. And from my understanding he is fine with that. I do have issue with the reception as it's a pot luck as you are throwing a party therefore you don't ask people to "pay" (aka bring food) to a wedding. And I do have an issue with purchasing a designer dress for a wedding that is on a tight budget. Read up on some wedding etiquette. Please stop calling me as I have informed Aaron and as being asked to be the best man, I would be on his side of the isle and not part of the bridesmaid group. I have given the two of you plenty of time to find a replacement as the wedding is over a year away. And I have done a wedding on a shoestring budget. We still paid for everyone's food as I was more concerned with people having a good time instead of making sure everyone chipped into help pull it off. We were engaged for over 2 years so we would be able to pay for the wedding we wanted. I wish you and ... much happiness.
Now, let me say that her wedding budget was 10k, ours barely a quarter of that. My fiance is a pastor's son. His father pastor's 2 church and we're going to give an open invitation to them which makes the number of people who will come to the reception uncertain. We were going to have people from the church bring a copy of their favorite recipes and a small sample instead of gifts.
This has completely upset my fiance and I. She could have talked to me about finding a different dress that was within her price range instead of acting like a 5 year old. My fiance looked up whether a potluck was appropriate because I was uncertain of the etiquette and found that it was appropriate.
What should my reaction be to this trantrum thrown by our "best man"?