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This wedding cost $1.56. You can guess what that means...

http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/couple-spent--1-56-on-their-wedding-—-could-you--181747605.html

Read this article... and it talks all about all the cost saving this couple did for their wedding.  Used their own barn, dad played music, mom officiated (although a local reverend had to make it "official" since mom isn't ordained), made their own rings, groom wore an old suit, bride bought her dress for $1.56, they traded services with a local photographer to shoot the wedding, and ....YOU GUESSED IT....THEY HAD A POTLUCK RECEPTION!

Ugh.  

I think all the money saving is great.  But couldn't they have shelled out a couple hundred dollars to pay for some snack trays, cake, and punch?  WHY do people think this is okay to ask?

Sorry, vent over!

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Re: This wedding cost $1.56. You can guess what that means...

  • And on top of the etiquette violations, it's a lie - unless the cost of the gorram marriage license is no longer included in wedding budgets. Lies. Lies and slander. You don't get to use accounting that way.
  • I agree- what about the cost to the "local reverend" to make it official? Marriage license? 

    Where does one find a dress for $1.56? 
  • I can't believe she found it on freecycle. I mean, I usually get my clothes from consignment stores, and I know there's no way you could turn up a white dress - forget a wedding dress - for $1.56.
  • The article does point out that they had to pay $100-something dollars for the marriage license.  But they didn't include that in the cost of the wedding.  You're right, that's deceptive.

    Also, I feel like the wedding did cost more than $1.56, but to other people.  They may have only paid $1.56, but the wedding actually cost much more than that if you include the food and drink provided by guests.  There is no such thing as a free lunch!

    The dress came from some used clothing exchange.

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  • The reverend donated his services.  Which I guess is fine if they know him, and he voluntarily did that.  But I hope they didn't ask for his services for free like they asked their guests for food and drink!

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  • Oh, absolutely, but if the B&G are saying the wedding only cost $1.56 to them, they're sitll lying to themselves.

  • Oh, absolutely, but if the B&G are saying the wedding only cost $1.56 to them, they're sitll lying to themselves.
    Exactly.
    They had to pay for the license, but the article wouldn't have as big of a draw if it said, "Couple spent $101.56 on Their Wedding."
    We would have liked it because we have brains and use logic, but a huge portion of other readers would have passed it by it.
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  • On the comments there was a battle about the reception being for the guests, or a party for the bride and groom. Some people get it, some people never will.

    If they had grown their own food, and served it to their guests, THEN it would be a budget wedding for 1.56. (Or 101.56 for the license)
  • People always defend potluck by saying "well its better than buying the B&G another unnecessary item like a gravy boat"

    But the difference is... the couple shouldn't ask you for any gift.  You wouldn't ask all your guests to bring you a gift, so why is it okay to ask them to bring a dish?  

    You're right.  Some people just won't ever get it.

    And since this couple seems so thrifty and crafty, I was really hoping the article was going to say that they grew and cooked all the food for the wedding!  That would've be awesome!  But no...

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  • monkeysip said:
    People always defend potluck by saying "well its better than buying the B&G another unnecessary item like a gravy boat"

    But the difference is... the couple shouldn't ask you for any gift.  You wouldn't ask all your guests to bring you a gift, so why is it okay to ask them to bring a dish?  

    You're right.  Some people just won't ever get it.

    And since this couple seems so thrifty and crafty, I was really hoping the article was going to say that they grew and cooked all the food for the wedding!  That would've be awesome!  But no...
    Or my other favorite fail!logic reasoning...
    "What if they offer the bring a dish?"
    Well, who the hell would randomly offer to bring a dish to a reception? It first has to be a potluck for someone to offer, now doesn't it.
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  • I think they asked everyone to donate their services to see how free a wedding could be. They probably knew they were going to get a lot of publicity. But honestly, IF my parents paid for the whole wedding my wedding would be free too! (i know it's more about the lack of money exchange, but still)
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  • monkeysip said:
    People always defend potluck by saying "well its better than buying the B&G another unnecessary item like a gravy boat"

    But the difference is... the couple shouldn't ask you for any gift.  You wouldn't ask all your guests to bring you a gift, so why is it okay to ask them to bring a dish?  

    You're right.  Some people just won't ever get it.

    And since this couple seems so thrifty and crafty, I was really hoping the article was going to say that they grew and cooked all the food for the wedding!  That would've be awesome!  But no...
    Even better when they ask you on the invitation to bring a dish (not necessarily side) AND a present.  /sarcasm font



  • I highly doubt all those people donated or offered their services without being asked.
  • This came up on TK app too. As I said there, the wedding may have cost them only $1.56 (or $101.56) but it cost their guests more than that. crappy

    After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!

  • YEAH! I read the title for this article and said, "Impossible (rolling eyes)," before I even read it. Even if they had grown their own food and slaughtered their own cows (which they did none of that) those would still be costs. My favorite comment in the forum after the article as someone who said something like, "My father paid for my entire wedding so it was free! Where is my Yahoo article?" lol.

    Not that there weren't good ideas to keep costs down, but a potluck reception is NOT something to brag about.  Ugh, geez!

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