Hey all! I am a bridesmaid in the wedding of one of my best friends. It is in April 2014.
I really want to be a part of it and help her out, but because of nursing school and unexpected financial aid issues, I am not sure I will have enough money or time. Obviously I will need to buy the dress she picks, and I have already saved up enough money to cover something reasonable. I will do my own hair and make-up, use shoes I already own, etc. As far as the other stuff, though, I'm not sure how to "prioritize" whatever money I'll have to spend on the wedding. So my question is, as a bride, would you rather your maids splurge on your bachelorette party, your shower, or a gift?
In fact, if worse comes to worst, would it be incredibly insulting if I ended up turning down the role of bridesmaid? And at what point should I figure this out by (though I can already feel the financial stress falling off of me just thinking about it)? I cannot even guarantee that I won't have a clinical rotation during her wedding at this point. It would be a lot easier and more affordable for me to attend as a guest, but this woman is seriously like my sister. I would love to help her with making centerpieces or addressing invitations or anything (at least on breaks, lol), but during the semester I need to focus on school.