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Update (as promised)

To everyone: Thank you for all your support. As promised I am giving you an update. We arrived early to our appointment at 9:15 AM (I was nervous and I just wanted to get there), plus her office is at a hospital, so I figured it couldn't hurt. By 9:45, we were in the examining room. My neighbor was observing (which was a bit awkward, but she helped me get this appointment so I figure that this was the least I could do). I got blood drawn (labs were marked STAT), and the standard urine test. The urine test was positive. Before we left, the doctor talked about our options (adoption, abortion, and parenting). She wasn't judgmental while she spoke about each option (nor did not push for one or the other) and was very professional.  Because the labs were marked stat, we knew that the results would come to us quickly. At 4 PM I got the results of the blood test back and my hCG levels indicate that I am five weeks pregnant. She recommends scheduling an ultrasound appointment soon. FI and I had a long discussion last night. We decided that if all goes well (assuming I won't miscarry) we are going to parent. FI has been amazing in terms of communicating his feelings and supporting me.  We weighed the pros and the cons, looked at it from a logistical perspective, we talked about our feelings, calculated our finances, and made our decision based on those results. I feel good about our decision, because we came to the same conclusion together. Will it be easy? No. Will we get through it? Yes. I am speaking with the dean of my school to see if I can stay. So far, my advisor has told me that they usually allow students a leave of absence for a year, and if they return at the year mark they will continue to receive scholarship. I just hope what she said is accurate. Thanks again ladies :)

Re: Update (as promised)

  • Good luck with the dean of your school! I'd get any promise in writing and signed - otherwise you could end up with a new course catalog and they might not honor the first one. Take care of yourself!
  • Thanks for the update, and we'll be here for you! You're making a tough decision, but it's very exciting that you're going to be a parent!!
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  • I'm gonna go ahead and say congrats! I'm sure your still reeling from all of this but it sounds like your FI is being really awesome and totally being the support you need :)

    I also want to second @KeptInStitches - if you can get whatever your school promises in writing and signed.


  • Thank you @keptinstitches, I didn't think about creating a paper trail! I am going to see the dean tomorrow with my advisor. I will make sure to get that binding contract. The thing is, the earlier I get this done, the better it is for me. The leave takes place as soon as I give birth, and I want to make sure they make good on their end. I posted this at school because I wanted to get work done, I also wanted to make sure that everyone knew what is up. I just got back from the school library to find my FI in the center of our living room, surrounded by a pile of pregnancy books. Apparently he went shopping. That being said I need to go cuddle with him because he is fucking amazing. 
  • I glad you both came to a decision that you both are happy with. Good luck with everything ahead of you, it sounds like he's going to be a great husband and an amazing dad!
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  • Your FI with pregnancy books- just a super AWWWWW moment!

    I'm glad that things are working out so far :-) It sounds like you two will be great parents!
  • congratulations on your "surprise"!  it sounds like your FI is a wonderful man and will be a great co-parent to your new baby.  :) 
  • Congratulations! 



  • Congratulations! I know this is quite the surprise, but you and your FI are being champions at taking it on, and it sounds like you will be wonderful parents. I am wishing you luck with school, since it sounds like their support is more questionable (?). What are you studying?
  • I'm so happy things are working out for you so far - sometimes the best things in life can be the surprises along the way.  Based on the way you are both handling all of this, I think you will be great parents! :)

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  • Congratulations! It seems even though it's a surprise, you guys are handling it so well. The image of your FI getting that many pregnancy books is adorable. You guys will be great parents!

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  • Congratulations! I know this is not what you planned, but sometimes the best things in life happen that way. Your FI really sounds like someone worth marrying, and it sounds like you are both prepared to do what it takes to become great parents.
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  • I "second" that the best things in life come when you least expect them and sometimes in the form you least expect as well.  Congrats and I'm sure you and your FI will be great parents.
  • Sorry I'm late to the party - congratulations! It sounds like you have a good support system and made a rational decision. With parents like you, your kid is already ahead of the game compared to a lot of kids :) 


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