We're having a private ceremony. Unfortunately before we decided to have it private, my FI talked about what he wanted to do for the ceremony (it's crazy, it involves rock climbing) with my friend and her husband. Even when we first talked about it, she said she wanted to climb and be up on the route with us. I told her it wasn't necessary and that if would just be us climbing.
Last week, all four of us hung out. She asked how the wedding planning was going. I told her had decided to keep the ceremony private - just us, our parents and our MOH and BM (the only people in the wedding party). Again she said she wanted to be there. I think my exact reaction was, "Oh. Uhhhh" and then someone interrupted us.
Sunday night they stopped by our house. We had just visited our reception site earlier so she asked about that. She asked again if we were planning to do the ceremony separately. I said yes and that the ceremony would be private - just us and our parents. I was really trying to convey to her that she wasn't invited without having to come out and say it. Her response was, "But I want to be there too!"
Now, this girl is a good friend. She's not one of my best friends and I'm pretty sure she doesn't consider me a best friend either. She was married last year and while I was invited, I wasn't in her very large BP. We've been friends for a long time, but shit - I'm not even inviting my very closest girlfriends to the ceremony. I know I'm going to have to discuss it with her again and I will have to be firm that she's not invited. But it sucks. Don't put me in this position, you know?
She's also my hairdresser AND my makeup artist so I really can't piss her off :-P