My mother inlaw recently told me that it may not be a good idea to host a rehearsal dinner because our wedding is somewhat a destination wedding. Our wedding is in a different province from which most do not live in. She thinks it would be rude not to invite the out of town guest's to the party, and i agree, although our rehearsal is at 11am. I would love to provide my wedding party with a bit of a meal and drinks after the rehearsal to say thank you for all that you have done and what you mean to me. My mother inlaw doesn't want to exclude everyone else, and i completely understand, i as well would like everyone from out of town around as much as possible. Inlaws want to just give us money in lieu of dinner, i would like to have a dinner and drinks by the pool of their resort and invite out of towners after, i think this would make all happy. what should i do?