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Very small wedding - aisle walking?

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Hi all, I'm having a very small (22 guests) wedding in a couple of weeks. We're hoping to be outdoors for the ceremony with the chairs arranged in a semi-circle, two rows, with a (very mini) 'aisle' in the center. It's in the middle of a large hotel courtyard and we'd feel awkward about having a long walk through the courtyard with everyone watching us. 

I'm also not as close with my father as I am with my mother, and they're separated. On my fiancé's side, he's close with his father and sister, and his father has recently remarried after his mother passed away a while back. He likes he's Dad's new wife, but nobody considers her to be a mother-figure for my fiancé. 

So I'm wondering what to do for 'walking down the aisle' or whether we should skip this? We're not Jewish but we saw a nice Jewish tradition where all parents walk the bride AND groom. We have our sisters and a few grandparents coming as well (5 more family members in total) and I'm wondering if it'd be crazy to have this whole family group walk in with us? That would mean that just under half the guests would be watching, just over half would be walking in with us. 

Maybe simpler would be for my fiancé to walk in on his own (avoiding the step-parent issue) and for me to come in with one parent on each side? 

OR maybe no walk at all? I've also seen it where you just mingle, ask everyone to sit, and start. 

Any thoughts? Thanks so much!
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    itzMSitzMS member
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    L0 said:
    Hi all, I'm having a very small (22 guests) wedding in a couple of weeks. We're hoping to be outdoors for the ceremony with the chairs arranged in a semi-circle, two rows, with a (very mini) 'aisle' in the center. It's in the middle of a large hotel courtyard and we'd feel awkward about having a long walk through the courtyard with everyone watching us. 

    I'm also not as close with my father as I am with my mother, and they're separated. On my fiancé's side, he's close with his father and sister, and his father has recently remarried after his mother passed away a while back. He likes he's Dad's new wife, but nobody considers her to be a mother-figure for my fiancé. 

    So I'm wondering what to do for 'walking down the aisle' or whether we should skip this? We're not Jewish but we saw a nice Jewish tradition where all parents walk the bride AND groom. We have our sisters and a few grandparents coming as well (5 more family members in total) and I'm wondering if it'd be crazy to have this whole family group walk in with us? That would mean that just under half the guests would be watching, just over half would be walking in with us. 

    Maybe simpler would be for my fiancé to walk in on his own (avoiding the step-parent issue) and for me to come in with one parent on each side? 

    OR maybe no walk at all? I've also seen it where you just mingle, ask everyone to sit, and start. 

    Any thoughts? Thanks so much!


    Why not just enter with your FI?

     

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    doeydodoeydo member
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    Your FI and yourself could walk in together, you could be walk with your mother, walk in with both your parents, or walk by yourself.  You FI could with just stand there waiting for you or walk down the aisle before you alone, with his father, or with his sister.  It's up to you and your FI.
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    JaneAustensGhostJaneAustensGhost member
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    I think having most of the guests walking in with you (as family) is a bit much.  But there's no reason you should deprive yourself of the walk.   If you don't want to walk alone, you could enter with your FI.

    Like you, I'm having a small wedding (14 people, including myself and my FI).  I am walking through some French doors, directly up some steps, to a terrace.  It's only a few steps, but I'm taking them alone and I'm going to enjoy them.   
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    For a small wedding, too many people walking in doesn't work, and I'd limit it to just you and your own escort.  That could be your FI.
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    jenn77bjenn77b member
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    I'd say keep it simple and walk by yourself all the way or part way with your FI meeting you part way and walking with you.
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    SP29SP29 member
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    Lots of ways you could do this.

    I have seen weddings were the B&Gs families are seated separately as part of the processional. I think though having them all walk WITH you is too much (would they all fit in the aisle?).

    You could walk in by yourself, with your mom, with your dad, with your mom and dad, with an uncle, a brother, or with your fiance. 
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    WedReMix13WedReMix13 member
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    Im walking by myself. Not my choice but im making it work. 
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