I got a question for the parents getting married. FI and I have 8 kids between us from previous marriages ranging in every age group. I have mentioned to him possibly doing a destination wedding and he likes the idea a lot. My question is, is it bad to leave or even want to leave your kids behind to get married?
My extended family is HUGE and after writing my guest list down, there isn't too many people on the list that I just gotta have at my wedding other then my parents, my kids, and my wedding party who are my dearest friends and sister (4 ladies total). He feels the same way. Why spend all this money to feed people that we really don't like or they don't like us to begin with. Why go through all the hassel for people who ain't really gonna care 1 way or the other. When instead we can do something smaller with the people who we love and support us. We we're going to Aruba already for our honeymoon. I did a search and found a hotel that I like. Most of our guest would have had to travel to Kentucky, so why not just head to Aruba? I don't mind leaving mine behind to take a honeymoon, and he doesn't mind leaving his kids behind at all (ex wife issues), but would I be wrong if I left them out of the wedding? Like are they missing out? He wants to take a big family trip later on in the fall or over spring break with all 8 of the kids. I just don't want them feel left out. I'm becoming overwhelmed...
Oh just in case you all wanna know, the kids ages are:
22, 20, 14, 12, and 2 his
18, 8, and 5 mine
They will all be 2 years older or almost by the time this wedding happens.