My day (four days before my wedding) in GIFS

HisGirlFriday13 · October 2013

When the photographer called FI and said, "Dude, is it OK if my wife tags along to the ceremony and reception? She wants to see a Catholic Mass wedding."

Followed immediately by:

Then, after ANOTHER e-mail from my organist, informing me YET AGAIN, that he doesn't like my musical selections:

And then my stylist telling me she "forgot" to write the mani/pedi appointment for me and my mom in the book and now they're all booked up, and she can probably fit me in, but my mom doesn't need a mani/pedi anyway (I am paying for this as a treat for my mom, who NEVER splurges on herself, ever):

Followed by:

But then my BFF stepped in and called a bunch of salons in my hometown area and made me an appointment, and I'm all like:

And then I talked to FI, who reminded me that in four days we'll be married, and to:

And now I'm going to have more coffee.

grumbledore · October 2013

I would definitely go to a different salon that appreciates your business - there's a nail place on ever corner here!

Take a deep breath, it's going to be awesome.

PrettyGirlLost · October 2013

HisGirlFriday13 said:

When the photographer called FI and said, "Dude, is it OK if my wife tags along to the ceremony and reception? She wants to see a Catholic Mass wedding."

It actually is ok if his wife comes to your ceremony. . . Catholic Masses are public masses, same as Sunday mass or any other mass during the week. Any member of your church or anyone off the street can walk in and attend your wedding mass.

So if she wants to see a Catholic Mass, I'd tell your photog that is no problem. The issue is that she is not invited to the reception, and he shouldn't have put you on the spot and asked to invite her.

HisGirlFriday13 · October 2013

PrettyGirlLost said:

HisGirlFriday13 said:

When the photographer called FI and said, "Dude, is it OK if my wife tags along to the ceremony and reception? She wants to see a Catholic Mass wedding."

It actually is ok if his wife comes to your ceremony. . . Catholic Masses are public masses, same as Sunday mass or any other mass during the week. Any member of your church or anyone off the street can walk in and attend your wedding mass.

So if she wants to see a Catholic Mass, I'd tell your photog that is no problem. The issue is that she is not invited to the reception, and he shouldn't have put you on the spot and asked to invite her.

This is totally true, and I have no problem with her coming to the ceremony. It's the bit about him wanting to bring her to the reception I have a problem with. And since our wedding is 2.5 hours from where our photographer lives, it's not like she can just come for the ceremony and leave. (Well. I suppose she could, but driving five hours round-trip for a one-hour Mass is kind of stupid.)

I just did not at all appreciate him inviting his wife to the reception, which my parents are hosting. That's where I got testy.

erinlin25 · October 2013

Happy Wedding Week!

Dreamergirl8812 · October 2013

HisGirlFriday13 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

HisGirlFriday13 said:

When the photographer called FI and said, "Dude, is it OK if my wife tags along to the ceremony and reception? She wants to see a Catholic Mass wedding."

It actually is ok if his wife comes to your ceremony. . . Catholic Masses are public masses, same as Sunday mass or any other mass during the week. Any member of your church or anyone off the street can walk in and attend your wedding mass.

So if she wants to see a Catholic Mass, I'd tell your photog that is no problem. The issue is that she is not invited to the reception, and he shouldn't have put you on the spot and asked to invite her.

This is totally true, and I have no problem with her coming to the ceremony. It's the bit about him wanting to bring her to the reception I have a problem with. And since our wedding is 2.5 hours from where our photographer lives, it's not like she can just come for the ceremony and leave. (Well. I suppose she could, but driving five hours round-trip for a one-hour Mass is kind of stupid.)

I just did not at all appreciate him inviting his wife to the reception, which my parents are hosting. That's where I got testy.

I would question why someone wants to see a random Catholic Mass wedding. It's not a freaking zoo.

GypsyWife_ · October 2013

but she will be attending your wedding as a vendor who you do not have to fully host. you could provide a sack lunch as a meal. In my opinion if my vendors are happy they will do a better job.

HisGirlFriday13 · October 2013

GypsyWife_ said:

but she will be attending your wedding as a vendor who you do not have to fully host. you could provide a sack lunch as a meal. In my opinion if my vendors are happy they will do a better job.

No; she's not a photographer. She wants to attend the ceremony/reception as a guest while her husband is my vendor. Sorry, not happening. Not four days before my wedding, not when I have already finalised my seating chart and escort cards and venue set-up.

Also, maybe this makes me rude, but the vendor, while an acquaintance, is not a friend. If he weren't a vendor, he wouldn't have been invited to the wedding at all. That means, he's just a vendor, not one-half of a social unit I have to invite together. Same deal with my DJ. Good acquaintance, but not a close enough friend to have gotten an invite if he weren't a vendor, so he's coming without his GF.

GypsyWife_ · October 2013

you said tag a long with a vendor. so i assumed she would be considered a vendor. i had no idea there was a realtionship between you and the photographer. that makes a diffrence.

HisGirlFriday13 · October 2013

GypsyWife_ said:

you said tag a long with a vendor. so i assumed she would be considered a vendor. i had no idea there was a realtionship between you and the photographer. that makes a diffrence.

Sorry, my bad. He's our vendor, she's his wife. No additional photography services provided by her, just another meal I'd have to provide.

Pepper6 · October 2013

HisGirlFriday13 said:

GypsyWife_ said:

you said tag a long with a vendor. so i assumed she would be considered a vendor. i had no idea there was a realtionship between you and the photographer. that makes a diffrence.

Sorry, my bad. He's our vendor, she's his wife. No additional photography services provided by her, just another meal I'd have to provide.

I'd tell him "sure, she can come, but I'm not rearranging my seating chart, nor will I be providing her a meal, so if she's cool with having a random chair in the corner and running to McDonalds while you are working, then by all means." Then I'd probably seriously dock his tip, because that's such an incredibly rude and unprofessional thing to do.

cowgirl8238 · October 2013

Pepper6 said:

HisGirlFriday13 said:

GypsyWife_ said:

you said tag a long with a vendor. so i assumed she would be considered a vendor. i had no idea there was a realtionship between you and the photographer. that makes a diffrence.

Sorry, my bad. He's our vendor, she's his wife. No additional photography services provided by her, just another meal I'd have to provide.

I'd tell him "sure, she can come, but I'm not rearranging my seating chart, nor will I be providing her a meal, so if she's cool with having a random chair in the corner and running to McDonalds while you are working, then by all means." Then I'd probably seriously dock his tip, because that's such an incredibly rude and unprofessional thing to do.

Love that...may not be the most proper way to put it but that is how I would feel too! GL!

PrettyGirlLost · October 2013

Pepper6 said:

I'd tell him "sure, she can come, but I'm not rearranging my seating chart, nor will I be providing her a meal, so if she's cool with having a random chair in the corner and running to McDonalds while you are working, then by all means." Then I'd probably seriously dock his tip, because that's such an incredibly rude and unprofessional thing to do.

Two wrongs don't make a right, though. No need to be this harsh, imo.

I would handle it one of two ways:

Tell the photographer that his wife is welcomed to attend the wedding mass, as Catholic masses are open to the public, but that I am very sorry that I cannot accommodate her at the reception.
Or do as Gypsy suggested and invite her to the reception but offer her a vendor meal like what you will serve her husband.

HisGirlFriday13 said:

This is totally true, and I have no problem with her coming to the ceremony. It's the bit about him wanting to bring her to the reception I have a problem with. And since our wedding is 2.5 hours from where our photographer lives, it's not like she can just come for the ceremony and leave. (Well. I suppose she could, but driving five hours round-trip for a one-hour Mass is kind of stupid.)

@hisgirlfriday13 Hun, that's not your problem to worry about- so don't! If she wants to drive 5 hours in one day to attend your wedding mass, that's on her and it's on her and her husband to figure out how she is getting there and home w/o tagging along to your reception.

southernbelle0915 · October 2013

PrettyGirlLost said:

HisGirlFriday13 said:

When the photographer called FI and said, "Dude, is it OK if my wife tags along to the ceremony and reception? She wants to see a Catholic Mass wedding."

It actually is ok if his wife comes to your ceremony. . . Catholic Masses are public masses, same as Sunday mass or any other mass during the week. Any member of your church or anyone off the street can walk in and attend your wedding mass.

So if she wants to see a Catholic Mass, I'd tell your photog that is no problem. The issue is that she is not invited to the reception, and he shouldn't have put you on the spot and asked to invite her.

I couldn't get past the fact that her photographer addressed her with "Dude..."

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