Did anybody fight with their groom in the days leading up to the wedding?

Onceinalovetime · October 2013

Gosh I just don't freaking know what to do right now. Maybe It's stress but I feel like we just don't want to be around each other right now. We are both arguing over little things and I just feel like he hates me. We have never had this problem before. He said to me "I can't wait for this wedding to be over so you will just relax".

SJM7538 · October 2013

I'm ten days out and ready to tell my fiancé to move
Out Til the wedding. Lol he's driving me nuts. I asked him to keep the house somewhat clean so that next week all I have to do is tidy up before we
Go on our honeymoon and our best man stays at
Our house for nine days. Well today... I worked all day, got a bikini wax then went to my moms to finish up favors. I didn't get home Til 830. I walked in to a sink full of dishes and dirty frying pans and grease all over stove. AND he thought he did good bc he set up the new toaster oven yet he left the box and all the styrofoam all over the kitchen table. Top that off with he didn't take out the trash or the recycling... Yeah I have to say I'm happy he's working tonight.

WonderRed · October 2013

It's normal. Planning a wedding is incredibly stressful and it's easy to get caught up in the wedding and forget about the relationship and marriage. I get what he's saying when he says that. It's not that the wedding is something negative you have to "get over with" but getting that stress behind you will allow you both to get on with just being together.

FI and I had a huge fight two weeks ago too after two weeks of snapping at each other and getting on each others nerves. We still love each other more than anything.

Trust your relationship. There will be many many times to come over a lifetime when you don't like each other for hours, days, sometimes a week or more at a time. There will be times when you want and need to spend time away from each other. It's natural.The important thing is trusting and knowing you still love each other anyway and will come back to that good space together and being able to communicate how you're feeling. If this hasn't been a regular thing, you're just fine. Chalk it up to wedding stress on his end too.

(((hugs))) and hang in there.

Jen4948 · October 2013

Have you been spending all your time together in recent weeks doing and talking about nothing that isn't wedding-related? If that's the case, you need to give yourselves a break. Schedule for yourselves time where you have fun together and don't discuss the wedding or try to resolve difficult issues-just have fun or do light things that don't stress you out. Also just spend some time apart and focus on things you enjoy separately.

This doesn't mean to forget about the wedding or any other big issues, obviously-just to give yourselves some time-outs from them and remember why you're getting married in the first place!

Dreamergirl8812 · October 2013

I'm right there with you OP.

smalfrie19 · October 2013

I just asked my FI if he thinks we are going to fight..he said yes...I tend to be hot headed and easily irritated

cowgirl8238 · October 2013

SJM7538 said:

I'm ten days out and ready to tell my fiancé to move Out Til the wedding. Lol he's driving me nuts. I asked him to keep the house somewhat clean so that next week all I have to do is tidy up before we Go on our honeymoon and our best man stays at Our house for nine days. Well today... I worked all day, got a bikini wax then went to my moms to finish up favors. I didn't get home Til 830. I walked in to a sink full of dishes and dirty frying pans and grease all over stove. AND he thought he did good bc he set up the new toaster oven yet he left the box and all the styrofoam all over the kitchen table. Top that off with he didn't take out the trash or the recycling... Yeah I have to say I'm happy he's working tonight.

Spunds like your FI is the long lost twin of my FI...LOL he does the exact same thing and then gets mad if I ask him to clean up...I'm sorry but is it necessary for a man to come home, shed his clothes in the Living Room and sit on the couch in his undewear for twenty minutes on the couch at arms length away without wanting to communicate? Then its into the kitchen where he cooks (admittiably amazing) food and leaves me a sink full of dishes...and don't get me started on the 3 boxes of stuff he has lying around that he will "Get to tomorrow". The one has been on my kitchen table for over a month! I guess that is just the way some people are.

Getting back to the OP, I think it is perfectly normal to be extra stressed at this point. You are very close to the wedding and all of the emotions leading up to are beginning to get to BOTH of you. I would take a little time for just you and your FI to go on a date and ban all wedding talk. Have some wine and just enjoy one anothers company for a few hours. Pretty soon you will be walking down the aisle and all the stresses of planning will be left behind. Enjoy your day!

itzMS · October 2013

DH & I fought at our wedding reception lol :-)
In private, away from the guests, of course.

We were both soooo exhausted (and hungry) and both lost it around the same time. I think the fight was that I was sad I wasn't getting to eat because people wouldn't stop talking to me and DH called me a bridezilla (ohhhh no he didn't!!)

We still laugh about it. :-)

You'll be fine.

smalfrie19 · October 2013

DH & I fought at our wedding reception lol :-) In private, away from the guests, of course. We were both soooo exhausted (and hungry) and both lost it around the same time. I think the fight was that I was sad I wasn't getting to eat because people wouldn't stop talking to me and DH called me a bridezilla (ohhhh no he didn't!!) We still laugh about it. :-) You'll be fine.

----cant get outta the box----

This sounds like something I will probably do.. I frequently get "hangry" (hungry+angry) and if I don't get to eat my favorite meal (turkey dinner) on my wedding day...I will be pissed.

WonderRed · October 2013

itzMS said:

We were both soooo exhausted (and hungry) and both lost it around the same time.

Oh my lord, FI can be the biggest a-hole when he doesn't eat and his blood sugar drops. He's absolutely intolerable. I've joked with him that they made the Snickers commercials specifically about him. I have him under strict strict orders that he will keep snacking all day the day of the wedding so that he doesn't lose his shit right before or after the ceremony and my brother is in charge of making sure he does it.

harper0813 · October 2013

In the months leading up to the wedding we did argue more than we usually do. I think it was due to pressure from our families - wedding-related demands and expectations - and pressure on ourselves to feel "ready" and "perfect". We felt a lot better once the wedding was behind us.

APDSS22 · October 2013

My husband and I got really irritated with each other a couple times leading up to the wedding. It's normal stress from getting all the families together (oh boy) and planning something so large. Also, make sure someone has snacks on wedding day. I had a 1:30 pm ceremony and I did NOT have a chance to eat lunch. My sister (bless her) had a bag of pretzels, fruit snacks, nuts and a few other things that she brought to the church. It was seriously the sweetest thing anyone did for me all day when she pulled out that bag.

MrsMack10612 · October 2013

I had a meltdown at our rehearsal in the Church. I took it out on H (then FI) and walked away. The rehearsal was done by then and everybody was just sorting out the getting to dinner things.

I think that was the only time we had any real fights during the entire process. We were pretty in sync the whole time and we had three years to plan so we didn't have a lot of close to the date stressors.

FutureMrsN3312 · October 2013

WonderRed said:

itzMS said:

We were both soooo exhausted (and hungry) and both lost it around the same time.

Oh my lord, FI can be the biggest a-hole when he doesn't eat and his blood sugar drops. He's absolutely intolerable. I've joked with him that they made the Snickers commercials specifically about him. I have him under strict strict orders that he will keep snacking all day the day of the wedding so that he doesn't lose his shit right before or after the ceremony and my brother is in charge of making sure he does it.

Glad I'm not the only one in this boat. (I will be adult and admit I get like that at times too) If I'm trying to talk to him about something and he's being a hungry ass I usually say you know what lets go feed the bear. Once he's got some food in his belly he's a totally different guy lol

ETA:If my mom calls while I'm with FI and she ask what we're doing. She knows to let me go when I tell her I have to go feed the bear..

I agree with the other girls. Have a date night. Enjoy some wine and go for a massage or pedi. Anything that will relax you.

Iloveshanej · October 2013

We've had little disagreements but I'm sure as things get down to the wire we will probably have a fight or twelve. Right now he is in the basement/garage cleaning it out and organizing it as well as building an archway that he just had to build. He was suppose to do this 3 weeks ago, haha. At least he's getting things done. I'm a planner and list maker and he's a go with the flow kind of person so we see things so totally differently!

wrigleyville · October 2013

I get hangry too. I've already called a deli to set up some brunch platters in our suite (fruit, croissants, cheese, little things like that) so we can snack while everyone's getting their hair and makeup done. It's totally worth the $50.

FI is super chill and just goes with the flow. We had some arguments early on while picking colors and stuff, but it's been pretty relaxed for the past few months. I thought we'd start to freak out right about now, but things are going ok. I have a feeling he'll be picking at me the night before, though. I tend to stress early on, and he tends to stress at the last minute. That's why I'm spending the entire morning and afternoon with my bridal party; he can go be stressed with the guys.

allispain · October 2013

I wanted to snap at DH while I was on my way to our venue leading up to the ceremony. I had gotten ready in our hotel suite (he had been at home all day so he hadn't seen me) and was supposed to show up to our venue at 3:30 to set up a few things before going into the bridal suite to put on the dress and relax a bit. I asked him to please not show up until 4:00 at the earliest, since I would be walking around the ground and didn't want him to see me before the ceremony. Our driver took an alleged short cut to the venue that ended up taking longer than the normal route, which made for a rather stressed out bride (it didn't help that one of my BMs gets car sick, and he was driving really fast on very bumpy roads). Then my mom gets a call from our DOC saying that DH had shown up to the venue - it was only 3:40. I about had a fit (okay, slight exaggeration, but I was not a happy camper). DH was asked to take himself elsewhere until 4:00.

Basically, normally I would never get that upset over something like DH showing up early (usually, in fact, I'd be thrilled about it) but I was feeling stressed and nervous and that energy manifested in me getting angry easily. It happens to the best of us :-)

Onceinalovetime · October 2013

Thank you girls so much for the replies, one more day! We are a lot better now that we worked our last days of work and the wedding is tomorrow. Getting so nervous!

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