THANK YOU CARD ADVICE

itzMS · October 2013

Majelin86 said:
I ordered my thank you cards tonight! I used one of the pics with the photographer's signature on it, but I was able to crop it out and make it fit with it still looking great! I'm so excited! Designing the cards was fun
I'm kind of sad the fun parts of planning are over, picking everything out & designing invitations and stuff was enjoyable! Although I'm reallyyyyy glad the other stuff is done & I'll never have to do it again!

TBH, I would highly suggest you notify your photographer. She had her watermark on the photo for a reason.

It can be illegal to use and print these "teaser" photos without her consent.

Majelin86 · October 2013

itzMS said:

I ordered my thank you cards tonight! I used one of the pics with the photographer's signature on it, but I was able to crop it out and make it fit with it still looking great! I'm so excited! Designing the cards was fun
I'm kind of sad the fun parts of planning are over, picking everything out & designing invitations and stuff was enjoyable! Although I'm reallyyyyy glad the other stuff is done & I'll never have to do it again!
TBH, I would highly suggest you notify your photographer. She had her watermark on the photo for a reason. It can be illegal to use and print these "teaser" photos without her consent.

Really? But I've already paid for the photos, so technically shouldn't they be ours anyway?

EDIT - I just emailed her about it to ask if it was ok anyway, just to be safe

itzMS · October 2013

Yeah, for one, because they're not often high enough resolution for printing...so a lot of photogs don't want those prints representing their work.

Unless you have a full signed release (this usually comes with the CD of completed digital images)...she still technically owns everything.

Majelin86 · October 2013

itzMS said:

Yeah, for one, because they're not often high enough resolution for printing...so a lot of photogs don't want those prints representing their work. Unless you have a full signed release (this usually comes with the CD of completed digital images)...she still technically owns everything.

She emailed me back already and said it was totally fine to use the picture

She also sent me one without her signature on it to use if I wanted.

jessielynn1987 · October 2013

I would wait! Don't want it to seem like you are trying to promote a business within a thank you note. People understand how long it takes for the actual photos to get developed!

NYCBruin · October 2013

jessielynn1987 said:
I would wait! Don't want it to seem like you are trying to promote a business within a thank you note. People understand how long it takes for the actual photos to get developed!

Did you read the thread?

The purpose of a thank you note is to thank someone, not show off photos of yourself. Thank you notes should be sent promptly. Making a gift giver wait for a thank you note so that you can send them a picture of yourself is both narcissistic and rude.

Jen4948 · October 2013

Majelin86 said:

So what I'm getting from all the posts is DON'T wait for a pic before I do my thank you cards? Yes. Sending out the thank-yous is far more important than whether or not pictures accompany them. Thank-yous are mandatory; pictures are not.
Both my husband and I really like getting the thank you cards with the couple's picture on it because sometimes you never get to see the pro pics of the couple. Some of our family don't have Facebook, so they may never actually get to see one of our pro pics unless it's on the thank you (some of them live pretty far away so we don't see them often at all). The photographer told us she'll email us in about 5-6 weeks when they're done. She does have some on her FB page already, although they have her big signature on them.
I'm guessing 5-6 weeks will be too long before getting them out? Much too long. As soon as I got the pics I would pick one and get right to it, but is even 5 weeks too long? Yes. Maybe I'll just ask my photographer for one of the photos she put on her page, just without her signature on it.

Stop worrying about the pictures and just start getting your thank-yous out, whether or not you have the pictures and regardless of what your personal preference as a recipient would be. Keeping people who took the trouble to get you a nice gift waiting is inappropriate, and if I were kept waiting, I wouldn't care about the pictures.

Majelin86 · October 2013

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

So what I'm getting from all the posts is DON'T wait for a pic before I do my thank you cards? Yes. Sending out the thank-yous is far more important than whether or not pictures accompany them. Thank-yous are mandatory; pictures are not.
Both my husband and I really like getting the thank you cards with the couple's picture on it because sometimes you never get to see the pro pics of the couple. Some of our family don't have Facebook, so they may never actually get to see one of our pro pics unless it's on the thank you (some of them live pretty far away so we don't see them often at all). The photographer told us she'll email us in about 5-6 weeks when they're done. She does have some on her FB page already, although they have her big signature on them.
I'm guessing 5-6 weeks will be too long before getting them out? Much too long. As soon as I got the pics I would pick one and get right to it, but is even 5 weeks too long? Yes. Maybe I'll just ask my photographer for one of the photos she put on her page, just without her signature on it.

Stop worrying about the pictures and just start getting your thank-yous out, whether or not you have the pictures and regardless of what your personal preference as a recipient would be. Keeping people who took the trouble to get you a nice gift waiting is inappropriate, and if I were kept waiting, I wouldn't care about the pictures.

Apparently you didn't read my other posts. I already ordered our thank you cards & they should be here sometime next week (I got married on October 5th, so I still have a week or 2 to get them out). I plan to start writing them as soon as I get them - I'm not a fan of writing thank you cards (although I completely understand the necessity of them) so the sooner I get them done the better.

Jen4948 · October 2013

Majelin86 said:

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

So what I'm getting from all the posts is DON'T wait for a pic before I do my thank you cards? Yes. Sending out the thank-yous is far more important than whether or not pictures accompany them. Thank-yous are mandatory; pictures are not.
Both my husband and I really like getting the thank you cards with the couple's picture on it because sometimes you never get to see the pro pics of the couple. Some of our family don't have Facebook, so they may never actually get to see one of our pro pics unless it's on the thank you (some of them live pretty far away so we don't see them often at all). The photographer told us she'll email us in about 5-6 weeks when they're done. She does have some on her FB page already, although they have her big signature on them.
I'm guessing 5-6 weeks will be too long before getting them out? Much too long. As soon as I got the pics I would pick one and get right to it, but is even 5 weeks too long? Yes. Maybe I'll just ask my photographer for one of the photos she put on her page, just without her signature on it.

Stop worrying about the pictures and just start getting your thank-yous out, whether or not you have the pictures and regardless of what your personal preference as a recipient would be. Keeping people who took the trouble to get you a nice gift waiting is inappropriate, and if I were kept waiting, I wouldn't care about the pictures.

Apparently you didn't read my other posts. I already ordered our thank you cards & they should be here sometime next week (I got married on October 5th, so I still have a week or 2 to get them out). I plan to start writing them as soon as I get them - I'm not a fan of writing thank you cards (although I completely understand the necessity of them) so the sooner I get them done the better.

Yes, I did read your other posts, and my advice to get out your thank-you notes, with or without photos, stands. Whether or not you're a fan of them is irrelevant: if people in response to your invitation took the trouble to get you a gift, you owe them a timely thank-you note.

Mentioning that you're "not a fan" suggests an ungracious attitude towards them, and asking about a delay until photos arrive comes off as "I don't want to do this, is this a good excuse?" No, it isn't. If you don't want to write thank-you notes, then you shouldn't have invited anyone to your wedding or announced that you were doing something that might encourage people to give you gifts.

Majelin86 · October 2013

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

So what I'm getting from all the posts is DON'T wait for a pic before I do my thank you cards? Yes. Sending out the thank-yous is far more important than whether or not pictures accompany them. Thank-yous are mandatory; pictures are not.
Both my husband and I really like getting the thank you cards with the couple's picture on it because sometimes you never get to see the pro pics of the couple. Some of our family don't have Facebook, so they may never actually get to see one of our pro pics unless it's on the thank you (some of them live pretty far away so we don't see them often at all). The photographer told us she'll email us in about 5-6 weeks when they're done. She does have some on her FB page already, although they have her big signature on them.
I'm guessing 5-6 weeks will be too long before getting them out? Much too long. As soon as I got the pics I would pick one and get right to it, but is even 5 weeks too long? Yes. Maybe I'll just ask my photographer for one of the photos she put on her page, just without her signature on it.

Stop worrying about the pictures and just start getting your thank-yous out, whether or not you have the pictures and regardless of what your personal preference as a recipient would be. Keeping people who took the trouble to get you a nice gift waiting is inappropriate, and if I were kept waiting, I wouldn't care about the pictures.

Apparently you didn't read my other posts. I already ordered our thank you cards & they should be here sometime next week (I got married on October 5th, so I still have a week or 2 to get them out). I plan to start writing them as soon as I get them - I'm not a fan of writing thank you cards (although I completely understand the necessity of them) so the sooner I get them done the better.

Yes, I did read your other posts, and my advice to get out your thank-you notes, with or without photos, stands. Whether or not you're a fan of them is irrelevant: if people in response to your invitation took the trouble to get you a gift, you owe them a timely thank-you note.

Mentioning that you're "not a fan" suggests an ungracious attitude towards them, and asking about a delay until photos arrive comes off as "I don't want to do this, is this a good excuse?" No, it isn't. If you don't want to write thank-you notes, then you shouldn't have invited anyone to your wedding or announced that you were doing something that might encourage people to give you gifts.

So I assume you fully enjoy writing out many thank you cards? And I do understand why people deserve to receive a thank you card. I'm not opposed to writing them because people were very generous with their gifts, it's just not a task I look forward to.

I ordered my thank you cards in a timely manner and am going to get them out in the recommended time frame, so I'm not sure the point of you commenting on my posts?

Maggie0829 · October 2013

@Majelin86 - Since you aren't a fan of writing thank you notes, which I understand it takes time and then trying to think how to write thank yous differently so you aren't repeating yourself can be a headache. But while you are waiting for your thank you cards to arrive, you could start writing the thank yous in a word document. This is what I did. I was able to write things out, make sure they sounded right and that the spelling and grammar were correct. Then I printed out the thank yous and just basically copied what I wrote. That way when you are doing the actual writing in the cards you really don't have to think about what to write which is easier, in my opinion.

Jen4948 · October 2013

Majelin86 said:

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

So what I'm getting from all the posts is DON'T wait for a pic before I do my thank you cards? Yes. Sending out the thank-yous is far more important than whether or not pictures accompany them. Thank-yous are mandatory; pictures are not.
Both my husband and I really like getting the thank you cards with the couple's picture on it because sometimes you never get to see the pro pics of the couple. Some of our family don't have Facebook, so they may never actually get to see one of our pro pics unless it's on the thank you (some of them live pretty far away so we don't see them often at all). The photographer told us she'll email us in about 5-6 weeks when they're done. She does have some on her FB page already, although they have her big signature on them.
I'm guessing 5-6 weeks will be too long before getting them out? Much too long. As soon as I got the pics I would pick one and get right to it, but is even 5 weeks too long? Yes. Maybe I'll just ask my photographer for one of the photos she put on her page, just without her signature on it.

Stop worrying about the pictures and just start getting your thank-yous out, whether or not you have the pictures and regardless of what your personal preference as a recipient would be. Keeping people who took the trouble to get you a nice gift waiting is inappropriate, and if I were kept waiting, I wouldn't care about the pictures.

Apparently you didn't read my other posts. I already ordered our thank you cards & they should be here sometime next week (I got married on October 5th, so I still have a week or 2 to get them out). I plan to start writing them as soon as I get them - I'm not a fan of writing thank you cards (although I completely understand the necessity of them) so the sooner I get them done the better.

Yes, I did read your other posts, and my advice to get out your thank-you notes, with or without photos, stands. Whether or not you're a fan of them is irrelevant: if people in response to your invitation took the trouble to get you a gift, you owe them a timely thank-you note.

Mentioning that you're "not a fan" suggests an ungracious attitude towards them, and asking about a delay until photos arrive comes off as "I don't want to do this, is this a good excuse?" No, it isn't. If you don't want to write thank-you notes, then you shouldn't have invited anyone to your wedding or announced that you were doing something that might encourage people to give you gifts.

So I assume you fully enjoy writing out many thank you cards? And I do understand why people deserve to receive a thank you card. I'm not opposed to writing them because people were very generous with their gifts, it's just not a task I look forward to.
I ordered my thank you cards in a timely manner and am going to get them out in the recommended time frame, so I'm not sure the point of you commenting on my posts?

Whether or not I enjoy them is not the point. The point is that if someone takes the trouble to give you a gift, you incur the obligation of a prompt thank-you note to them.

And the point of my commenting on your posts is the same as everyone else's: You posted on a public Internet forum looking for advice and all of us, me included, gave it to you. If you don't want advice, then don't go posting. You are not entitled to only the advice you want to hear or to tell anyone else how to give it to you. Grow up.

LDubHawksFan · October 2013

NYCBruin said:

Majelin86 said:

So what I'm getting from all the posts is DON'T wait for a pic before I do my thank you cards?
Both my husband and I really like getting the thank you cards with the couple's picture on it because sometimes you never get to see the pro pics of the couple. Some of our family don't have Facebook, so they may never actually get to see one of our pro pics unless it's on the thank you (some of them live pretty far away so we don't see them often at all). The photographer told us she'll email us in about 5-6 weeks when they're done. She does have some on her FB page already, although they have her big signature on them.
I'm guessing 5-6 weeks will be too long before getting them out? As soon as I got the pics I would pick one and get right to it, but is even 5 weeks too long? Maybe I'll just ask my photographer for one of the photos she put on her page, just without her signature on it.

Yes, five weeks is pushing it, especially because it'd end up being much later unless you can write 50-100 thank you notes in a night. Ask if you can use the photos already posted. You can also send out holiday cards if you want non-facebook people to see pro photos. Or send out a link via email to your photographer's website to people who ask.

5-6 weeks is too long because them you still have to order them and have them shipped, probably another week. Then you have to write and send them. It should be a priority. And if having the pretty picture is a priority for you, the. You should have made added it in your contract to be able to get that ONE proof early from them. Or take it with another camera.

We made Christmas cards that we sent out with an e pic, a wedding pic and a honeymoon picture of us with a tiger to send to all of our guests and additional friends. And if you really wanted to share pictures with people, email the link to your proofs when you get them.

Majelin86 · October 2013

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

So what I'm getting from all the posts is DON'T wait for a pic before I do my thank you cards? Yes. Sending out the thank-yous is far more important than whether or not pictures accompany them. Thank-yous are mandatory; pictures are not.
Both my husband and I really like getting the thank you cards with the couple's picture on it because sometimes you never get to see the pro pics of the couple. Some of our family don't have Facebook, so they may never actually get to see one of our pro pics unless it's on the thank you (some of them live pretty far away so we don't see them often at all). The photographer told us she'll email us in about 5-6 weeks when they're done. She does have some on her FB page already, although they have her big signature on them.
I'm guessing 5-6 weeks will be too long before getting them out? Much too long. As soon as I got the pics I would pick one and get right to it, but is even 5 weeks too long? Yes. Maybe I'll just ask my photographer for one of the photos she put on her page, just without her signature on it.

Stop worrying about the pictures and just start getting your thank-yous out, whether or not you have the pictures and regardless of what your personal preference as a recipient would be. Keeping people who took the trouble to get you a nice gift waiting is inappropriate, and if I were kept waiting, I wouldn't care about the pictures.

Apparently you didn't read my other posts. I already ordered our thank you cards & they should be here sometime next week (I got married on October 5th, so I still have a week or 2 to get them out). I plan to start writing them as soon as I get them - I'm not a fan of writing thank you cards (although I completely understand the necessity of them) so the sooner I get them done the better.

Yes, I did read your other posts, and my advice to get out your thank-you notes, with or without photos, stands. Whether or not you're a fan of them is irrelevant: if people in response to your invitation took the trouble to get you a gift, you owe them a timely thank-you note.

Mentioning that you're "not a fan" suggests an ungracious attitude towards them, and asking about a delay until photos arrive comes off as "I don't want to do this, is this a good excuse?" No, it isn't. If you don't want to write thank-you notes, then you shouldn't have invited anyone to your wedding or announced that you were doing something that might encourage people to give you gifts.

So I assume you fully enjoy writing out many thank you cards? And I do understand why people deserve to receive a thank you card. I'm not opposed to writing them because people were very generous with their gifts, it's just not a task I look forward to.
I ordered my thank you cards in a timely manner and am going to get them out in the recommended time frame, so I'm not sure the point of you commenting on my posts?

Whether or not I enjoy them is not the point. The point is that if someone takes the trouble to give you a gift, you incur the obligation of a prompt thank-you note to them.

And the point of my commenting on your posts is the same as everyone else's: You posted on a public Internet forum looking for advice and all of us, me included, gave it to you. If you don't want advice, then don't go posting. You are not entitled to only the advice you want to hear or to tell anyone else how to give it to you. Grow up.

And that's what I'm doing.... I still don't get your problem with what I said? I admitted I don't enjoy writing them, which you did too basically....and I am getting them out in a timely manner. So yeah....I don't need your "advice", not like it's helpful anyway, you're just telling me to do what I already said I am doing....

Jen4948 · October 2013

Majelin86 said:

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

So what I'm getting from all the posts is DON'T wait for a pic before I do my thank you cards? Yes. Sending out the thank-yous is far more important than whether or not pictures accompany them. Thank-yous are mandatory; pictures are not.
Both my husband and I really like getting the thank you cards with the couple's picture on it because sometimes you never get to see the pro pics of the couple. Some of our family don't have Facebook, so they may never actually get to see one of our pro pics unless it's on the thank you (some of them live pretty far away so we don't see them often at all). The photographer told us she'll email us in about 5-6 weeks when they're done. She does have some on her FB page already, although they have her big signature on them.
I'm guessing 5-6 weeks will be too long before getting them out? Much too long. As soon as I got the pics I would pick one and get right to it, but is even 5 weeks too long? Yes. Maybe I'll just ask my photographer for one of the photos she put on her page, just without her signature on it.

Stop worrying about the pictures and just start getting your thank-yous out, whether or not you have the pictures and regardless of what your personal preference as a recipient would be. Keeping people who took the trouble to get you a nice gift waiting is inappropriate, and if I were kept waiting, I wouldn't care about the pictures.

Apparently you didn't read my other posts. I already ordered our thank you cards & they should be here sometime next week (I got married on October 5th, so I still have a week or 2 to get them out). I plan to start writing them as soon as I get them - I'm not a fan of writing thank you cards (although I completely understand the necessity of them) so the sooner I get them done the better.

Yes, I did read your other posts, and my advice to get out your thank-you notes, with or without photos, stands. Whether or not you're a fan of them is irrelevant: if people in response to your invitation took the trouble to get you a gift, you owe them a timely thank-you note.

Mentioning that you're "not a fan" suggests an ungracious attitude towards them, and asking about a delay until photos arrive comes off as "I don't want to do this, is this a good excuse?" No, it isn't. If you don't want to write thank-you notes, then you shouldn't have invited anyone to your wedding or announced that you were doing something that might encourage people to give you gifts.

So I assume you fully enjoy writing out many thank you cards? And I do understand why people deserve to receive a thank you card. I'm not opposed to writing them because people were very generous with their gifts, it's just not a task I look forward to.
I ordered my thank you cards in a timely manner and am going to get them out in the recommended time frame, so I'm not sure the point of you commenting on my posts?

Whether or not I enjoy them is not the point. The point is that if someone takes the trouble to give you a gift, you incur the obligation of a prompt thank-you note to them.

And the point of my commenting on your posts is the same as everyone else's: You posted on a public Internet forum looking for advice and all of us, me included, gave it to you. If you don't want advice, then don't go posting. You are not entitled to only the advice you want to hear or to tell anyone else how to give it to you. Grow up.

And that's what I'm doing.... I still don't get your problem with what I said? I admitted I don't enjoy writing them, which you did too basically....and I am getting them out in a timely manner. So yeah....I don't need your "advice", not like it's helpful anyway, you're just telling me to do what I already said I am doing....

Bullshit. I don't care for your attitude. Also, it's none of your fucking business whether I like to write thank-you notes or not. Just so you know, I do it on a timely basis when I receive gifts, because it's important to me to let the givers know that they got the gift and that I appreciate the effort and money they put into it.

By asking if you can put it off until you get photos, you're acting like the photos are more important. They are not. Having good manners and expressing proper gratitude for what others did for you is.

And you know something else? Whether or not you find this advice useful, nearly every other person in this thread gave you the exact same information, so lose your "it's not useful" attitude. The fact that it wasn't what you wanted to hear doesn't determine its usefulness. Once again, grow up and stop telling the rest of use what to tell you or not to tell you-that's not the purpose of this forum. If you don't like that, then stop posting here.

Majelin86 · October 2013

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

Jen4948 said:

Majelin86 said:

So what I'm getting from all the posts is DON'T wait for a pic before I do my thank you cards? Yes. Sending out the thank-yous is far more important than whether or not pictures accompany them. Thank-yous are mandatory; pictures are not.
Both my husband and I really like getting the thank you cards with the couple's picture on it because sometimes you never get to see the pro pics of the couple. Some of our family don't have Facebook, so they may never actually get to see one of our pro pics unless it's on the thank you (some of them live pretty far away so we don't see them often at all). The photographer told us she'll email us in about 5-6 weeks when they're done. She does have some on her FB page already, although they have her big signature on them.
I'm guessing 5-6 weeks will be too long before getting them out? Much too long. As soon as I got the pics I would pick one and get right to it, but is even 5 weeks too long? Yes. Maybe I'll just ask my photographer for one of the photos she put on her page, just without her signature on it.

Stop worrying about the pictures and just start getting your thank-yous out, whether or not you have the pictures and regardless of what your personal preference as a recipient would be. Keeping people who took the trouble to get you a nice gift waiting is inappropriate, and if I were kept waiting, I wouldn't care about the pictures.

Apparently you didn't read my other posts. I already ordered our thank you cards & they should be here sometime next week (I got married on October 5th, so I still have a week or 2 to get them out). I plan to start writing them as soon as I get them - I'm not a fan of writing thank you cards (although I completely understand the necessity of them) so the sooner I get them done the better.

Yes, I did read your other posts, and my advice to get out your thank-you notes, with or without photos, stands. Whether or not you're a fan of them is irrelevant: if people in response to your invitation took the trouble to get you a gift, you owe them a timely thank-you note.

Mentioning that you're "not a fan" suggests an ungracious attitude towards them, and asking about a delay until photos arrive comes off as "I don't want to do this, is this a good excuse?" No, it isn't. If you don't want to write thank-you notes, then you shouldn't have invited anyone to your wedding or announced that you were doing something that might encourage people to give you gifts.

So I assume you fully enjoy writing out many thank you cards? And I do understand why people deserve to receive a thank you card. I'm not opposed to writing them because people were very generous with their gifts, it's just not a task I look forward to.
I ordered my thank you cards in a timely manner and am going to get them out in the recommended time frame, so I'm not sure the point of you commenting on my posts?

Whether or not I enjoy them is not the point. The point is that if someone takes the trouble to give you a gift, you incur the obligation of a prompt thank-you note to them.

And the point of my commenting on your posts is the same as everyone else's: You posted on a public Internet forum looking for advice and all of us, me included, gave it to you. If you don't want advice, then don't go posting. You are not entitled to only the advice you want to hear or to tell anyone else how to give it to you. Grow up.

And that's what I'm doing.... I still don't get your problem with what I said? I admitted I don't enjoy writing them, which you did too basically....and I am getting them out in a timely manner. So yeah....I don't need your "advice", not like it's helpful anyway, you're just telling me to do what I already said I am doing....

Bullshit. I don't care for your attitude. Also, it's none of your fucking business whether I like to write thank-you notes or not. Just so you know, I do it on a timely basis when I receive gifts, because it's important to me to let the givers know that they got the gift and that I appreciate the effort and money they put into it.

By asking if you can put it off until you get photos, you're acting like the photos are more important. They are not. Having good manners and expressing proper gratitude for what others did for you is.

And you know something else? Whether or not you find this advice useful, nearly every other person in this thread gave you the exact same information, so lose your "it's not useful" attitude. The fact that it wasn't what you wanted to hear doesn't determine its usefulness. Once again, grow up and stop telling the rest of use what to tell you or not to tell you-that's not the purpose of this forum. If you don't like that, then stop posting here.

Wasn't what I wanted to hear? Where did I say that? I said that judging by the previous posts that 5-6 weeks is too long to wait...so I changed my idea of waiting for pics and used one of the pics that the photographer already had up (with her permission). I agreed that 5-6 weeks is too long to wait which is why I ordered the thank you cards already and will be getting them out this coming week (it's only been a week yesterday since my wedding btw). And I also agreed that people deserve thank yous for the gifts they give. I am grateful for the gifts people have given me and appreciate them greatly. I am not "acting like the photos are more important" and if I couldn't have got a pic before the 5-6 weeks I would've just got thank you cards without a photo.

Still not sure how your posts were useful or why you're getting so upset about this? I had already come to these conclusions before you posted your replies to me. Stop getting so worked up just because I don't find your "advice" useful.

banana468 · October 2013

Jen, you know you're no longer discussing the topic with the OP, right?

Maggie0829 · October 2013

When quotes start getting long can we please delete the unnecessary parts so that there aren't huge/long quote boxes in threads please?

Jen4948 · October 2013

banana468 said:

Jen, you know you're no longer discussing the topic with the OP, right?

Yes, I know. The OP had the intelligence to recognize that we were letting her know the best way per etiquette to handle the situation. Unfortunately that wasn't always the case with those who posted after. That happens sometimes in threads where posters are feeling defensive even when the actual OP takes the hint.

photokitty · October 2013

Jen4948 said:

banana468 said:

Jen, you know you're no longer discussing the topic with the OP, right?

Yes, I know. The OP had the intelligence to recognize that we were letting her know the best way per etiquette to handle the situation. Unfortunately that wasn't always the case with those who posted after. That happens sometimes in threads where posters are feeling defensive even when the actual OP takes the hint.

Ummm, not really. The pp you are arguing with asked a question to clarify and then ordered her cards, yet you continue to berate her for some odd reason.

jchambers4 · December 2013

WOW this thread got OOC.... but I have to say it is very amusing. I last posted on this thread Oct. 7th and haven't even looked back at it since until today and I am shocked at the way this went. It's crazy that people come back numerous times a day and on a daily basis to argue! BTW ...I got my thank you cards out on Oct. 8th which was less than 4 weeks after our wedding, which I read on MANY etiquette sites is totally fine) And we got phone calls from guests on how nice they were, our message being so thoughtful and personal. And the cards DID NOT have a photo. :-)

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