My finace and I are having a destination wedding in Hawaii. A good chunk of our guests will be travelling from the east coast to celebrate with us. Some of the recommendations I have been reading for saving costs on your own wedding is to only allow +1's for guests you know have been dating their partners for at least one year, or you have met the +1 they plan to bring. If your guests are travelling such a far distance for your wedding would it be totally unkind to not allow a +1 for them??! I would really like to stay as close to my budget as possible (as many of us do), but at the same time I don't want guests to RSVP 'no' because they can't bring someone. What would you do???