Bachelorette Party

Re: Bachelorette Party

• manateehugger member

  

  October 2013

  hlvonb said:

  First: Sorry if this is the wrong board

  Second: Please no snarky comments.
  

  My MoH is throwing a 2 day Bachelorette party for me. Friday night is good girls night (with parents etc) and Saturday is Bad Girls (no parents) night. SHe decided this is what she wanted to do for the party. Anyway, she wants me to send her a list of people so she can do the invites. Keep in mind that due to schedules and where people live the party will be about 6 months BEFORE the wedding..... Would you invite someone to the party (either one) that you were NOT inviting to the wedding? I am leaning toward NO but wanted to see what you thought.

  Thanks!

  First bolded - seriously?

  
  

  Second bolded - absolutely not. It's not appropriate to invite someone to a pre-wedding party and then not invite them to the actual wedding. That's beyond rude. 

  

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• JellyBean52513 member

  

  October 2013 edited October 2013

  It would be rude to invite people to a pre-wedding party that aren't going to be invited to the wedding. It's like saying, "I like you enough to come have fun with me and celebrate my upcoming wedding, but not enough to invite you to the actual wedding!" Plus, since gifts are usually given at parties like this, it can look like you're just fishing for a gift.
  
  BTW, asking people how to respond to you is rude and snarky in and of itself. If you can't handle adult interactions with other human beings, an open message board forum probably isn't the place for you. 

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• Gisellerina member

  

  October 2013

  No, I would definitely not invite anyone to a pre-wedding party who I was not inviting to the wedding.  So, be extra certain when you give her the guest list that anyone on it will get a wedding invitation. 

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• hlvonb member

  

  October 2013

  Thanks ladies! I have a list that I created off the wedding invitation list. I just wanted to make sure that what I was thinking (not inviting if not inviting to wedding) was right.

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• doeydo member

  

  October 2013

  Everyone invited to wedding related parties need to be invited to the actual wedding.

  
  

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• Iloveshanej member

  

  October 2013

  I agree with the PPs. If the person isn't invited to the wedding then they shouldn't be invited to any wedding related activities. I think 6 months is a bit far out, I understand the thinking behind it but that just seems odd to me. 

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• hlvonb member

  

  October 2013

  @Iloveshanej

  We had to do 6 months out because that's what those in the wedding party who live in different states wanted. They didn't want it closer to the wedding when they will be spending more money for stuff they need then. I left it up to my girls to decide when and that's what they chose. It seems a bit odd to me too but if that is what works for them then I am ok with it.

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  October 2013

  @hlvonb
  
  I think that might be weird but it super makes sense to me!! Having to go such a long way twice is a big expense and then to do it twice so close together is so stressful and impossible you are very considerate to allow your party to be at an odd time so that it can be good for everyone else too.

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• hlvonb member

  

  October 2013

  @clairekundinger

  
  

  Thanks!

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  October 2013

  I really, really hate when people tell other people how to post.  And most times when people do post "no snarky comments" or something similar then they are just asking to get all snarky comments back.  We are adults and telling us how to post is rude and condescending. 

  
  

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