So, I really don't know how to handle this situation. There are two major issues that we are having with my FI's parents. First, we wanted a guest list of 75 at most. We allowed them to invite 5 of their country club friends and they said we need 12. We had decided that family is much more important than pleasing their social life. They were ok with our decision once we explained it to them--or so we thought. Two weeks later, his mom calls us drunk saying that we HAVE to sit down and talk about the guest list again. We agree to meet them the next day to discuss the list. Not only did they ask for more people, but they asked for more than 25 EXTRA guests from their group of friends. There reasoning is that they want to celebrate us (I can guarantee that 95% of them don't know my name). Our issue is that we are having a backyard wedding and our budget is minimal. They offered to pay for their extra friends.
Anyways, after an hour of arguing/discussing this, we agree to let his mom invite the rest of their friends. His dad comes into the room after and is extremely drunk. He begins to yell at us saying that we BETTER invite the rest of those people. He then continues to say that he thinks my dad is holding out by not paying for the wedding and kept yelling for me to give him my dad's phone number so he could call him. (we are paying for the entire wedding ourselves, minus their addition friends because we did not fit that into our budget). I left crying and very hurt by my FIL.
Am I wrong for being extremely offended? Any suggestions on how to address these issues? He is obviously bothered that he is contributing to the wedding (to pay for the extra 30 heads) and my father isnt--but my father is not requesting for 30 people to be added to the guest list.
I could use some help! Thanks!