So I get home from work tonight and check my email to find a message from my mom's cousin. "Just wanted to confirm that your wedding date was the 16th, I'm thinking about coming out for it, flutterfly's parents do you have space for me to stay with you, or should I ask flutterfly's uncles?".
Really, it's less than 4 weeks away, you think you would've gotten an invite by now if you were invited. But it's just one more, so we'll find the space to squeeze him in. I'd rather that than create family drama, and hurt feelings (can you tell how much I hate confrontation?)