So after being confused and bombarded with answers to my wedding guest thingy, on a scale of 1 to 10, how mad do you think people would get if i just went to NYC and got married? (my fiance and i, maid of honor, best man and our parents) I've gotten so tired of fighting about it. i have an insanely small budget and gosh darn it im sticking to it! i dont want big ornate and goddy, if i wanted that i would go rococo style and go all out but for the love of god man. all i want is to be happy. (i'm young what of it?) i'm 22 years old and yes i've been with the person im engage to for almost a quarter of my life. its more than what most people my age can say for themselves. hes my best friends and has been there for me through everything. (my grandfather dying, an abusive relationship, my depression and my self harming past) seriously this is all i want and all i have wanted since year one of us actually being together hes been my best friend since 9th grade. we started going out when we were juniors on high school and when we were seniors on high school he proposed to me. we haven't exactly been the traditional couple. we have problems, we fight and we admit it. we are young its sort of what we do, we are out spoken and sometimes totally out of control, but while we are out of control we are the happiest pair of 22 year old you have ever seen. we use to go on long walks down the Erie Canal at night what the moon just lite up everything like it was magical, we haven't spent more than 2 days apart in 5 years.... i know that sounds mega unhealthy but seriously any other way we are calling each other every couple hours just to hear each others voices. its insane i know. I don't want to worry about the really small budget. i want to know what people would think if i had the wedding and the honeymoon before the reception. honest to god i have seen it done once before and it still had that feeling of love and best wishes to it. i also don't want people there who i have had bad experiences with in my life even if they are family (my aunt spreed a rumor that i was pregers and living with my grandmother along with my FI a while back and im still mad at her about it) seriously things like that aggravate the living hell out of me and i really don't want to see her at my wedding or the reception. I want a judge (im atheist and so is my FI), in a park, leafs changing to all those nice fall colors, people we can trust and love to witness this awesomeness in its entirety and no worries about wedding rumors by jealous family members. is that honest to god too much to ask? this being said how do i go about telling my mom that i don't want 100+ people there? i asked her about what i should do about the reception and she drew up this big list of people i don't know or don't want to know or just plain don't want there... i know it sounds terrible that there are people out there that i just straight up don't want there on my big day or rather the party for it. I have had enough drama in my life. i don't need others creating more of it because i'm having a non-traditional wedding that will make me happy.