Married Ladies, what did you do/will you be doing with your wedding dress? and Why?

OnceUponAVine · October 2013

My sister had hers altered into a cocktail dress that she wears to her husband's company's gala. Definitely depends on your dress but it worked for her!

Swazzle · October 2013

lilyandsparrow said:

I think leaving something to rot/go out of style in a closet is sillier than doing something fun, creative and artistic.. but you're right, to each their own! Also to me, couples who spend more than a little on a ring are wasteful and self-obsessed.. but hey.

What does "more than a little" even mean? Everyone's finances and priorities are different. That's pretty damn judgey.

Stina51286 · October 2013

Swazzle said:

lilyandsparrow said:

I think leaving something to rot/go out of style in a closet is sillier than doing something fun, creative and artistic.. but you're right, to each their own! Also to me, couples who spend more than a little on a ring are wasteful and self-obsessed.. but hey.
What does "more than a little" even mean? Everyone's finances and priorities are different. That's pretty damn judgey.

DITTO! I was wondering the same thing.

Swazzle · October 2013

Just realized I never answered the actual question.

My dress is in its bag, hanging in my closet, still dirty almost 6 months later. I have no idea what I'm going to do with it. I'm still pretty attached to it so I don't think I'll be doing much of anything with it just yet. I might sell it in the future when I'm ready.

doubleSS07 · October 2013

Swazzle said:

lilyandsparrow said:

I think leaving something to rot/go out of style in a closet is sillier than doing something fun, creative and artistic.. but you're right, to each their own! Also to me, couples who spend more than a little on a ring are wasteful and self-obsessed.. but hey.

What does "more than a little" even mean? Everyone's finances and priorities are different. That's pretty damn judgey.

uh yeah what price range do you deem "more than a little" because depending on your age and financial status it means different things to different people. When I was 23 I would have balked at spending what we did but since I was 33 it was in our price range. I think your judgey pants might be on a little tight.

lilyandsparrow · October 2013

Simply returning the attitude from whence it came.

Stina51286 · October 2013

lilyandsparrow said:

Simply returning the attitude from whence it came.

If you think Tiger's response to you had attitude, you have another thing coming. You're comment on a ring just didn't make sense. What is "more than a little on a ring" mean to you? We'd like a little clarification please.

Swazzle · October 2013

Seriously, @lilyandsparrow?

@cu97tiger said that she prefers not to get her dress wet and dirty on purpose and you took that as an attitude towards you? It was HER opinion about HER wedding dress.

Your comment, on the other hand, was nothing but insulting. There is clearly a difference between the two. Grow up.

lilyandsparrow · October 2013

I got a "judgey" comment to the tune of, "Count me as another one who just doesn't get the whole TTD thing. I mean how many pictures does one need of themselves? Between engagement shoots and wedding pictures and TTD shoots and boudoir shoots it is just self overload!" Who says I want all those shoots? If a fun, artistic shoot symbolizing the end of your wedding/single life before the beginning of your after-the-wedding/married life and your non-desire to ever wear a wedding dress/get married again is "self overload", then what is spending enough money to help feed, clothe and shelter 3 kids in a developing country till age 18, on a bauble for your finger? (I have no idea what anyone's ring cost or looks like and don't care.. The point is you can't call someone self-anything on a wedding forum, it doesn't even make any sense.)

doubleSS07 · October 2013

But you'd be ok trashing something that could also cost as much as the "bauble" and could feed those same children?

buddysmom80 · October 2013

lilyandsparrow said:

I got a "judgey" comment to the tune of, "Count me as another one who just doesn't get the whole TTD thing. I mean how many pictures does one need of themselves? Between engagement shoots and wedding pictures and TTD shoots and boudoir shoots it is just self overload!" Who says I want all those shoots? If a fun, artistic shoot symbolizing the end of your wedding/single life before the beginning of your after-the-wedding/married life and your non-desire to ever wear a wedding dress/get married again is "self overload", then what is spending enough money to help feed, clothe and shelter 3 kids in a developing country till age 18, on a bauble for your finger? (I have no idea what anyone's ring cost or looks like and don't care.. The point is you can't call someone self-anything on a wedding forum, it doesn't even make any sense.)

Please get off your high horse. It's no one's business what we do with our money. If we want to feed a village in a developing country, that's fine. If we want to buy an engagement ring instead, that's our business.

God you're judgy.

Swazzle · October 2013

Your argument is so invalid and makes so little sense that I can't even formulate a response to you.

ETA: So it's ok to spend xx amount of money on a dress that you're going to DESTROY and end up throwing in the garbage but not ok to spend xx amount of money on something that you'll wear for the rest of your life?

I really hate to hashtag on TK but seriously... #logicfail

Stina51286 · October 2013

lilyandsparrow said:

I got a "judgey" comment to the tune of, "Count me as another one who just doesn't get the whole TTD thing. I mean how many pictures does one need of themselves? Between engagement shoots and wedding pictures and TTD shoots and boudoir shoots it is just self overload!" Who says I want all those shoots? If a fun, artistic shoot symbolizing the end of your wedding/single life before the beginning of your after-the-wedding/married life and your non-desire to ever wear a wedding dress/get married again is "self overload", then what is spending enough money to help feed, clothe and shelter 3 kids in a developing country till age 18, on a bauble for your finger? (I have no idea what anyone's ring cost or looks like and don't care.. The point is you can't call someone self-anything on a wedding forum, it doesn't even make any sense.)

But yet you'd rather trash a wedding dress that instead you could donate to someone in an under developed country that would love to have a nice wedding dress....... Just saying. Pot meet kettle.

thejucheidea · October 2013

Donating it back to Brides Against Breast Cancer. I don't need to keep it -- I'm keeping the veil, which was my mom's, to pass on to future generations.

cu97tiger · October 2013

@thejucheidea - I love the photo in your sig. I wish we'd done a photo like that!

@lilyandsparrow - Wow. You asked a question, people answered it. I didn't see a whole lot of judging going on... just opinion sharing. You should get a thicker skin and take your judgments of what all of us internet strangers choose to spend our own money on somewhere else.

I have a few other things I'd like to say, but I'm going to keep it classy today.

thejucheidea · October 2013

cu97tiger said:

@thejucheidea - I love the photo in your sig. I wish we'd done a photo like that!
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lol, my sister took a picture of our photographer taking a picture. It just so happened that she had a portraiture assignment for her photography class that was due the week after our wedding -- definitely good timing for her.

suzie211 · October 2013

@lillyandsparrow That's great that you feel the need to donate money, but please don't judge others for how they spend theirs. If you like the idea of having a TTD session. Fine. No one told you not to. Instead others stated their opinions on not having them for themselves. If you don't want to spend money on a ring, and would prefer to send it to children in need, go for it. No one is stopping you.

But, please, do not judge other adults on how they spend their money. Just because we spend money on rings and fancy dresses, does not mean we aren't also supporting charity. You chose to support in a different way than others do. That's fine.

H and I paid cash for our wedding, rings, and honeymoon. You see that as a waste. I don't. I thoroughly enjoyed the party, and would spend the money all over again. We also donate significant amounts of money to our alma maters, cancer research, and a local children's hospital. Are we bad people because all of our money didn't go to these? No. People support in numerous different ways. Sometimes its time and sometimes its money. Not sending $1000 of your income every month does not make you a crappy person.

We are not all rude, selfish people just because we don't all choose to support your same charities monitarily or agree with your TTD idea.

suzie211 · October 2013

Holy crap that ^^ was a book. Sorry! *Getting of high, wordy horse now*

Stina51286 · October 2013

Well said @suzie211

HisGirlFriday13 · November 2013

Mine's at the dry-cleaners getting preserved. It's already been preserved once -- it was my aunt's and she wore it 45 years ago -- and it's now a family heirloom. I have high hopes that my cousin (her granddaughter) or my daughter, if I'm so blessed as to have one, will want to wear it.

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