So we're not having a DJ or a band. Instead we're putting together a playlist and using an iPod. In my experience, DJs tend not to have a wide variety of songs, especially ones my fiance and I tend to like (at my bestie's wedding the DJ only had about 4 Prince songs - GASP) and we felt like we could save big bucks if we just "played DJ" ourselves - plus we can avoid hearing top 40 songs (most of which are, in our opinions, garbage) and things like the Chicken Dance.
My fiance and I do have pretty eclectic tastes - there's not much we absolutely hate, but the things we really like might not sit well with our guests. It's our day, of course, but I don't want to OFFEND anyone by playing songs they're not comfortable hearing. I've been slowly compiling a playlist (which will be set to "shuffle") for a few months, at least, and I feel like I have some pretty good variety on it. I just add songs to it as I hear them on the radio, or wherever.
But now I'm wondering, should I ask our guests for their opinions? I'm thinking of maybe adding a song request thing to the invitations, so our guests can request their favorites. They can each send us a song or two that they'd like to hear at the reception - of course we'd have the ultimate say in what goes on the iPod and what doesn't. If I do this, should I make sure I state that not all the songs will get played, so nobody is disappointed? Or just go with the simple request and if their song doesn't get played, they'll live? OR should we avoid it altogether and just play songs that we've chosen ourselves? I'd like my guests to be happy and have a good time, which is why I'm considering the idea of song requests.
I should also add that we're not doing mail-back RSVP cards - instead we're including our email address and cell phone numbers so people don't really have an excuse to tell us whether or not they'll be able to attend. If we do the song request thing, I'll ask guests to include this in their emails/text messages.