Postage!

Re: Postage!

• itzMS member

  

  November 2013

  clairekundinger said:

  Is it rude to hand deliver invitations? From a pure etiquette stand point.

  No problem etiquette-wise. Most people will greatly prefer having it mailed to their home, though.
  

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• doeydo member

  

  November 2013

  I don't think it is rude, but I would prefer to have things mailed to my apartment instead of seeing the bride and/or groom and having them hand me a invitation to stuff in my purse.

  
  

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  November 2013

  By the book, there's nothing wrong with it. But for the convenience of your guests (which is what etiquette is based on), it's better to mail them. 

  
  

  I've received them both ways and I definitely prefer to get it in the mail.

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• photokitty mod

  

  November 2013

  I hand delivered co-work invites bc I didn't want to ask for home addresses - we're close, but not THAT close...KWIM :-)

  I also hand delivered my immediate family - my mom insists on us not wasting postage or buying her birthday cards from anywhere other than the dollar store :-p And you know the saying, if mama ain't happy...

  ~xoxo~

  
  

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• AroundTheBlock member

  

  November 2013

  No, it is not rude. It is very gracious. In general, personal attention trumps commercial transactions in nearly every etiquette situation. The caveat is, that you must deliver the invitation discretely in private, not where it will be noticed by anyone else who is not also receiving an invitation, and not at work; and it must actually involve some personal attention such as a brief conversation -- not just dropping it off as you pass one another in the street.

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• JellyBean52513 member

  

  November 2013

  AroundTheBlock said:

  No, it is not rude. It is very gracious. In general, personal attention trumps commercial transactions in nearly every etiquette situation. The caveat is, that you must deliver the invitation discretely in private, not where it will be noticed by anyone else who is not also receiving an invitation, and not at work; and it must actually involve some personal attention such as a brief conversation -- not just dropping it off as you pass one another in the street.

  Not necessarily. My boss just sent me an STD to her wedding, via postal mail, despite the fact that I work 40+ hours a week with her, and that I basically live across the street from my job. She could've easily handed it to me in any of our many meetings, or any other time at work, but the fact that she spent time to hand-address it to me and spent postage to mail it to me made it that much more personal and meaningful. It made me feel like she appreciated my presence at her wedding like any of her other guests, as opposed to "Well, she works with me, I'll just give her an STD at work tomorrow."
  
  To answer the OP's question: I don't think it's rude to hand-deliver invites (unless it's in front of other people who won't be invited) but don't underestimate the personal touch of mailing someone something special

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• mysticl member

  

  November 2013

  It's not rude but keep in mind who you are hand delivering it to.  My husband's coworker got married over the summer.  He brought the wedding invites, the bridal shower invites, and the thank you notes to work to hand out.  My husband brought the wedding invite home and set it down somewhere, I found it by accident.  He did hand over the shower invite and the thank you note right away but I couldn't help but think it would have been easier just to get everyone's address in the beginning.  

  

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