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Thank you note for fiance's family friend- how do I sign?

mldc321mldc321 member
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edited November 2013 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
I'm writing a thank you note to my fiance's family friend and I'm wondering how do I sign it?  I know if he were writing it he would say "love"- would it be appropriate if I signed it "Love" with both our names?  I just met her but I don't want to be rude- I don't want it to be awkward when I see her next. 
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Re: Thank you note for fiance's family friend- how do I sign?

  • AroundTheBlockAroundTheBlock member
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    Never sign anyone's name but your own. Mention your fiance's name in the body of the text. Sign it "love" if that is how he would sign it: it is a social convention not a declaration of undying affection. If you absolutely cannot bring yourself to write "love", you can resort to the colder "kindest regards".
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I don't think there's anything wrong with writing both your names. The thank you is, after all, from both of you. I wrote all our cards, said, "Thank you so much for x. We appreciate it....(or "we will use it for", or whatever) and signed both our names since I said "we" in the note. 
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  • Ven&RadioVen&Radio member
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    I'm a fan of signing "sincerely" when I don't know the recipient well. I'm not comfortable signing "love" to all but the people I am closest to.
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  • Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    Why don't you just have him write it? Is he unavailable?
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  • mysticlmysticl member
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    AroundTheBlock said:
    Never sign anyone's name but your own. Mention your fiance's name in the body of the text. Sign it "love" if that is how he would sign it: it is a social convention not a declaration of undying affection. If you absolutely cannot bring yourself to write "love", you can resort to the colder "kindest regards".
    Seriously?  It's a thank you note, not a legally binding contract.  The majority of cards/notes I receive from married couples have one person signing the card for both, or for the whole family if there are children.  

    OP, I vote for "Sincerely" as well.  It would not be rude to leave the word "love" off.  
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    I think if your FI would write "love" than it's fine for you to write it with both your names. 
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    I wrote with love on peoples that love felt a little too strong. Not sure why it makes a difference, but felt fine for us. I guess since I feel like love is really love you. 
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  • mysticlmysticl member
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    misssunshine17 said:
    I wrote with love on peoples that love felt a little too strong. Not sure why it makes a difference, but felt fine for us. I guess since I feel like love is really love you. 
    To me signing it "love" says I'm asking them to love me, whereas signing it "with love" says I'm sending them my love.  
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    That's what punctuation is for.
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  • mysticlmysticl member
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    AddieL73 said:
    That's what punctuation is for.
    You put a comma after either one.  
    With Love,
    Mystic
    Or 
    Love,
    Mystic

    I'm just saying how it feels to me.  It's something I came up with as a kid and it just stuck. 
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  • dramamonkeydramamonkey member
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    Warmly, 

    Sincerely, 

    Yours, 

    With all our love, 

    Best, 

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  • BlueBirdMBBlueBirdMB member
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    "Best" is a personal favorite of mine.  I only use "love" for very close family and friends.  But really, your FI should be writing the note, not you.  My husband writes thank yous to all of his family and friends, even if they give us gifts together.  He wrote all of his own wedding present thank you notes.
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  • mysticlmysticl member
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    BlueBirdMB said:
    "Best" is a personal favorite of mine.  I only use "love" for very close family and friends.  But really, your FI should be writing the note, not you.  My husband writes thank yous to all of his family and friends, even if they give us gifts together.  He wrote all of his own wedding present thank you notes.
    You just say " Best, Blue Bird"?  I've never seen that, what does it mean?  Is it short for "all my best"?


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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    mysticl said:
    AddieL73 said:
    That's what punctuation is for.
    You put a comma after either one.  
    With Love,
    Mystic
    Or 
    Love,
    Mystic

    I'm just saying how it feels to me.  It's something I came up with as a kid and it just stuck. 
    I understand that. My point is that the comma negates it being you asking someone to love you. 

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