While I understand that this is a 100% personal opinion, I'm looking for advice or at least other opinions on the name-change matter. My FI and I are struggling with what to do about our last name. I don't want to take her last name as it may reinforce the "butch/femme" stereotypes that her incredibly non-understanding family tries to assign us. She's not completely open to taking my last name either. Hyphenating just sounds.. odd (neither of us have a particularly short last name). She suggested we both keep our maiden names, but I think for me part of identifying as a family will be a shared last name. When we have children (which we want), I don't want the last name to be an issue at that point.
I know at the end of the day this is our decision together. And we've talked about it often and still not reached a decision. Just wondering if anyone else has encountered similar struggles.