My fiance and I aren't big on dancing. However I do want to do our first dance, a father-daughter dance and my fiance hasn't really said if he wants to do the mother-son dance or not, but after these special dances I don't want any other dancing how do I work this into a reception?
Re: no dancing at reception?
You are very much mistaken. The reception is a thank you to the guests for attending the wedding ceremony.
You can ask your DJ to keep the volume lower, but it is rude to have your dances and then bar your guests from dancing.
That being said, if you're still not wanting dancing, I would suggest that it's incumbent upon you then to think of other ways to keep your guests engaged and entertained throughout the course of the evening.
If you are working with a professional DJ, they should have a lot of fun ideas for interaction and activities that can involve folks, and keep your reception entertaining without putting anyone on the spot, or being cheesy, etc.
Other fun things to consider to aid in passing time for guests are having a slideshow or video montage running. Have a photo booth. Have some lawn games that folks can participate in.
There are tons of non-dancing things you can do to make sure your guests feel welcomed, valued, and entertained at your reception, and if you are going to take a hard stance on removing the one aspect that people are used to and expect, just be sure you do them the honor of thinking of other ways for it to be inclusive of them, and fun as well!