How to make the wrong first impression... Rant/Warning

Re: How to make the wrong first impression... Rant/Warning

• Chipmunk415 member

  

  November 2013

  @Schatzi, without going into the gory details of family drama, while I think with SIL's mom and sister, it was coincidence/trying to look cohesive as the bride's family, I would not put it past my Dad's ex wife or my half sister to wear what "they just happened to have" in the exact wedding colors to exclude my Dad. (there's a lot of bad blood there). Should have also mentioned, MOG's sister (aunt to my half sibs) also wore a reddish dress that wasn't QUITE the color of SIL's sister's dress, but was close. I just felt a little hurt looking at the photos that I look like an interloper in these "family" images when I tried to do the right thing and not intrude on the bride's colors.

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• kitty8403 member

  

  November 2013 edited November 2013

  laurynm84 said:

  
  

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  @jennbelden I would not tell people the you would love if they dress up a little. It's a wedding. Everyone know that they tend to be dress-up occasions, and it does come off a little condescending. Also, if guests know your wedding is outside, you don't need to remind women to consider their shoe choice. Again, this comes off as condescending and as if they've never realized before that a heel can stick in grass, mud or dirt. I know it wasn't your intention, but especially on a screen, people will read that and be offended.
  

  
  

  Agree. @Jennbelden I would stop after your first sentence.
  
  Our ceremony is outdoors. Ranch weddings are common in my area. Just tell people that they will be outside, on grass/dirt/rocks/concrete, on a working ranch, in X type of likely weather, and they'll figure it out.
  
  ETA: Working ranch does not say "black tie" to me; it says cowboy-cut tux or other formal/semi-formal Western wear.

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