Inviting independent contractors/employees to my wedding

Re: Inviting independent contractors/employees to my wedding

• Jen4948 member

  

  November 2013

  Since waiting until you know other invited guests are coming before issuing someone an invitation is B-listing, yes, it is rude.  You don't wait to invite anyone until after RSVPs of no come back from other guests.
  
  If you don't want to invite them, then you need to just keep shutting down questions about the wedding, just as you are doing.  Otherwise, you invite them along with all your other guests.
  

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• JoanE2012 member

  

  November 2013

  I think it's fine to only invite a few people if there are a lot of people you work with.  Don't invite 4 when you only work with 5 or 6.

  
  

  Also, it's rude to B-list people.  Send out your invitations 8 weeks before the wedding and that's it.  Accept the RSVPs and don't send out more invitations.

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• doeydo member

  

  November 2013

  I keep going back and forth with this question about inviting people from my office.  I have a business but sublet from a law firm, (I am close to the legal secretary that works for the law firm) and I also have a few independent contractors that work for me.  I don't want to be rude and invite some people and not the others, but I have a handful of people (about 5, two of which are business partners) that have been with me from day one when I started my business almost 2 years ago and have helped me tremendously.  As soon as the wedding planning started getting more involved (i.e. booking the venue, photographer, etc.), I have stopped talking about it at the office because I know I will not be able to invite everyone and don't want to be rude.  Every once in a while someone will mention the wedding and I will quickly change the subject because I don't want to discuss it in front of everyone.  I was thinking of sending out of town invitations out early (about 3 months before) since people need to buy plane tickets, etc and waiting until the rsvps came back and if a lot of people back out (most of my guests will be from out of town) then I could invite everyone at the office (about 10 people) or does that seem rude?? Please help! 
  
  No, please don't.  That is called B-listing and is very rude.  Just invite the close 5 or whoever you truly want there and their significant others.  

  
  

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• AroundTheBlock member

  

  November 2013

  Your wisest course of action in the long run, is to keep your professional life professional and keep your personal life personal. There is no reason to invite co-workers, employees, contractors or service-providers to your wedding. The appropriate guests at your wedding are your friends, and family.
  
  It is quite possible to have a friend at work. You know that someone is your friend if, when you think of sending them an invitation, you don't think twice about it because you think of them first and foremost as a friend. If you were introducing them, you would introduce them as "my friend" and not as "one of my contractors". Those people you invite just as you would any other friend -- in an invitation sent to their home, that includes their spouse. And that doesn't affect your colleagues and employees at all because they either know the difference between being a colleague and being a friend, or it is about time they learned the difference so that they can keep their professional lives professional.
  

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