Modern Matron of Honor Responsibilities

jallen76 · March 2010

My sister just asked me to be her Matron of Honor in her wedding next year. She was my maid of honor many years ago...when she was still in HS. Times have changed. What are my responsibilities to her? What should I help her with?

TIA

mbcdefg · March 2010

Officially, your duties are to get the dress and participate in the ceremony and formal pics.

Other than that, it's totally your call. Many Maids/Matrons of Honor choose to coordinate a bridal shower and/or bachelorette party. If you want to help her with the planning, just ask her what she'd like you to do and then do what you're able to do. Just offer your assistance with whatever you want to help with ... if you don't want to do something or aren't able to do it, I would not make the offer so that there aren't hard feelings.

My sister/MOH helped my mom plan my bridal shower (and my bridesmaid helped, too), and she said she would plan a bachelorette. She came to a dress shopping trip with me and I may ask her if she can come to a fitting to learn how to do my bustle.

emilykathleen511 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]My sister just asked me to be her Matron of Honor in her wedding next year. She was my maid of honor many years ago...when she was still in HS. Times have changed. What are my responsibilities to her? What should I help her with? TIA
Posted by jallen76[/QUOTE]

Your official "responsibilities" are to get the dress and show up on the day.

Beyond that, I'm sure your sister would love if you offered to help her with planning if you have time and are able. Just make a general offer, or if there are certain things you want to help with, offer to help with those things. She would also probably love if you offerred to throw her a shower and/or bachelorette party. You could also ask the other bridesmaids if they would co-host one or both of these parties with you. You can pretty much do as much or as little as you have time, money, interest, and availability for. I'm sure your sister would appreciate whatever help you can offer. :) Hope that helps!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

Is she doing a lot of DIY projects, like invitations, escort cards, seating chart, programs, center pieces, etc? If so, she would probably appreciate if you asked her if she would like you to come over on a couple of Saturday afternoons to help out with things. Not necessary, but probably very appreciated! The shower and bachelorette would also be very generous. Just remember to ask her other BMs if they would like to contribute rather than sending them a bill for their "share" of the expenses. Do something you can afford. Tell your sister how many people you can accomodate for those parties and ask her for a guest list. Good luck and have fun!

aerinpegadrak · March 2010

Ditto the others, just keep yourself open and ask what she needs help with. But don't commit to anything that you can't follow through with, that just creates more problems down the line.

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