Children Questions

FoxandBunny · December 2013

BF and I recently had a discussion about future children and such. I was planning on posting this later, but seeing how several people have brought up things about children in the Tuesday questions thread, I though I would ask some questions now. Hopefully this isn't too many questions for one day. Feel free to add more!

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?

[Deleted User] · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?
yes; more than one.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?
nope!

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?
yes, we have a boy and a girl name that we both love.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?
...?

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

not right now, no.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?
if we decide to have biological children, I don't plan on having any expectations beyond a healthy baby.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?
my husband for sure. I'm not sure who else.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?
mmmm, nope.

FoxandBunny · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?

Yes. Probably 2-3.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?

I would like at least one boy and one girl. BF seems to think he will only produce male children, as that is how most of his family is. I hope it's not true.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

We have 2 girl names picked out. Nelliel Carolyn and Kallen Alexandra for girls. I like Nelliel better, BF likes Kallen better. The boy name gives us some trouble. Scott will be the middle name to honor both of our fathers (who conveniently both have the middle name Scott). BF wants the first name to be his name, but I refuse to let that happen. I like Nolan or Nathan for a boy. It's hard to talk about names with him because he's amendment on naming his first son after him because Brandon Scott (what he wants to name the kid) was supposed to be his name but his mom changed it at the last minute. He also won't consider names of other people he knows.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

I love Penelope, but BF hates it. I also like Luke, but again BF says no.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

Names mostly, but other than that no.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?

I don't want a C-section, but I would like the drugs. I have a pitiful pain tolerance.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?

Just the doctor, nurses, and my husband. No parents.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?

I will add later as I have class.

ETA: So, my mom has what her doctors called "the perfect child-birthing body." She was in labor for about an hour and a half with my brother and less than an hour with me. She says she doesn't remember ever being in any real pain, and she had no drugs because it was so quick.

Also, when I was born, the doctor told my mom she had plenty of time before I would be born and he was going to run an errand and be back in an hour or two. She yelled at him not to go, but he left anyway. The nurses had to call him back in a hurry because I was coming too quickly and he wasn't going to make it back. He made it back just in time to catch me.

My dad also won a bet for a free delivery by guessing all of my measurements within a centimeter. I was the exact same size as my brother. I was the last kid though, so they never used the it.

CASK85 · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?

Yes we do. I say 2. DH says 4. i think maybe we should have started sooner to have 4 kids with a reasonable gap between each one. At least for my taste. Maybe 3 is a good compromise.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?

I'd like at least one of each, but no "perfect ratio."

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

Yup. Our kids have to have first names that when paired with our last name = a cool skier or snowboarder name (not my idea, but I dig it). So far our favorites are Brodie and Hannah.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

Uh. not sure what you mean by this. I used to want to name my daughter Zoe (when I was in middle school), but I would never do that to my future kid now. No offense meant if that is anyone's name.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

Not really yet. I think I'm going to be super tough, but I think DH knows that won't last.

Also we might disagree about what sports they'll play (I was a swimmer and he was a skier, which have some conflict in high school seasons).

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?

Haven't thought too much about that. I'm kind of a pain wimp . . so I lean towards drugs, but I'll think more about it when we TTC/when I'm KTFU.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?

DH. . . the OB and nurse. That is it. I'm not a NatGeo show.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?

I was birthed by emergency C-section. I am not clear on why, but right after I was born my mom had to have her gallbladder removed. My dad named me.

FoxandBunny · December 2013

CocoBellaF - Guilty pleasure names are names you love but wouldn't give a child.

buddysmom80 · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many? Yes. Two.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl? I don't care either way.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together? Nope.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names? Not really.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children? BF thinks that they should have to work for things, but I think kids should have basics and then rewarded for good grades and stuff.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)? All the drugs.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth? Nobody (I know, that's weird, but I don't want people all up in my biz)

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family? I was due on June 22nd but wasn't born until July 8th, that's kind of interesting. Also my aunt looked like a cone head for a few months since they used forceps on my grandmother back in the day.

smalfrie19 · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many? - We are still on the fence, but probably just one

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl? - I would like a girl

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together? - We have tossed around a few ideas

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names? - Yes. I would love to name any child of ours (boy or girl) Chandler!

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children? - He hates the name Chandler

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)? - I love the woman I see for my annual appts. She is a midwife, but I really would like the drugs.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth? - My FI and maybe my sister or my best friend. Definitely not my mom, my sister kicked her out when she gave birth because my mom was being too high strung.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family? - My sister had to give birth to my nephew via C-Section not because it was an emergency, but because he was face up and off kilter. She pushed for 3 hrs and they tried everything, including the vacuum. He even had a little ring on the side of his head from it when he came out. Also, my uncles sorta wife (not really married, but their daughter is now 18) was told from the get go that her child was a boy and when the baby came they were handed a girl (their daughter).

doeydo · December 2013

FoxandBunny said:

BF and I recently had a discussion about future children and such. I was planning on posting this later, but seeing how several people have brought up things about children in the Tuesday questions thread, I though I would ask some questions now. Hopefully this isn't too many questions for one day. Feel free to add more!

1. Do you want children? If so, how many? No, but if I ever changed my mind I would have just one.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl? If I had kids, ideally it would be one girl and no boys.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together? He doesn't want kids. He likes one name I don't like for a boy. We both like one name for a girl and I also have another name in mind.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names? Huh? ETA Oh, I got it. No, I don't have any 'guilty pleasure names'

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children? Not really. We don't want them, but sometimes I will see a cute kid kind of look at him and he's just like "Get your dose of cuteness from other people's kids. They're not cute once you have to take care of them 24/7" LOL.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)? I have spinal issues and would never ever want to be pregnant or give birth. If I decided to have kids, I would adopt or have a surrogate. If for some reason my back healed and I got knocked up and decided to keep it, I would be all for the drugs and being in the hospital.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth? The doctors and nurses (preferably all female), my FI, and maybe my mom. But I'd want my mom and FI up by my head, not down looking up the sheet thing.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family? Not really.

[Deleted User] · December 2013

@LivLeighton - I think you'd be a wonderful mother, if you decided to have children!

Guilty pleasure names? nope.

Swazzle · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?

We're undecided about having children. We discussed it at great length before getting married. I was an only child, though, and for the most part it sucked.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?

No.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

Nope.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

I like Emily, Sienna, Savannah for girls and Caleb and Ethan for boys. I also like Sean after my H (with a different middle name) but apparently H's brother and SIL have "claimed" it if they have a boy.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

Nope, as of right now we're on the same page.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?

Give me all the drugs.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?

H and my mom.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?

My cousin/godson was 11lbs when he was born.

ETA: I apparently didn't understand what "guilty pleasure names" meant either.

QuiltingNurse · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?
We already have one, I'd like one more

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?
I would love to have two boys.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?
Yep, we like Hunter or Calvin. Neither of us care for any girl names so hopefully we have another boy.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?
Nope.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?
No, we agree on most of it.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?
I had a midwife with the first and got IV pain meds, I'm torn on whether I would like to go the midwife route next time or OB. I was fine with the meds I got, epidural wasn't necessary for me.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?
Just bf and hospital staff.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?
Nope!

ShallowSeas · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?
Yes, 2.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?
I would like a boy, then a girl.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?
No. We've talked about what names we liked if we ever had kids but never talked about agreeing on names.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?
Not really? I like the name Weston for a boy. I dont have any girl names that I like $:\$

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?
Nope. We both want them, eventually.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?
Epidural, please.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?
My FI, my mother, and possibly my sister.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?
My mom almost died giving birth to my little sister. My older sister was breech. I was so big (9lbs 3 oz) that they almost had to break my right shoulder just to get me out.

Blackbird230 · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many? Yes. 1-2

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl? I want at least one girl.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together? Yup. Luke and Evangline.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names? Not really?

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children? Not so far. But we're still very early and just want to enjoy being engaged and then a year or two of marriage.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)? Natural would be great. If there were complications though, I wouldn't fit the necessity of a C section of something.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth? Just FI.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family? Not really

tuarceatha · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?

I do. Realistically, 2. Unrealistically, 4!

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?

At least one of each, which I guess would be 1:1 in that realistic scenario above.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

We've talked about names before. I have my heart/daydreams set on a couple we discussed. But I could also see waiting until the person actually was in existence before picking real names.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

Felicity Porter. Benjamin. Not that those aren't lovely names, I'm just pretty sure I couldn't use them on my actual kids.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

We are currently disagreeing about when to have them. I want to start now, and last time we spoke about it he was "not ready".

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?

Give me the drugs. Based on no real research, just on the fact that I believe I will need anything and everything to get through being in a room with other people without pants and while pushing something out of me. They should make birthing pants. I want birthing pants!

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?

Ideally, a blind doctor. Realistically, all the necessary trained professionals and H if he wants to be there, but I will probably hate him for being there.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?
I was outside the birthing room with a few of my HS friends while my youngest sister was being born. H's doc broke his collar bone to get him out of his ma. My mom always said I was 10lbs at birth but I just saw I was 9 lbs 5 oz. H was 10lbs.

@CASK85 My family's dog is named Zoe.

Peaseblossom55 · December 2013

. Do you want children? If so, how many?

We do we are going to see how we deal with one, if the child, FI & I survive until it's 2 we will have another

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?

I really want one of each. If we only had one I really hope it's a girl

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

Not really we have a few we like

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

nope

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

Not that we've come across so far in our discussions of it.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?

I'd prefer natural but I can't predict that far out and if anything will make me change my mind

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?

FI, doctor and a doula

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?

nope

KeptInStitches · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many? Kind of? I'm more afraid I'm going to screw the kid(s) up than anything else, I'm really worried I'd be a lousy parent. No more than 3 kids, for sure.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl? Maybe? I mean, if I didn't have one of each after the first two, I'd try for one more, but that would be it.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together? The middle name of my first daughter is non-negotiable as it is a family name on my side.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names? Nope.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children? In what we've discussed, we don't.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)? Give me the drugs.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth? BF and any necessary medical staff.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family? My mom was in labor with me for 45 minutes start-to-finish. The only reason I was born in a hospital was she wasn't feeling well. I was delivered by a med school student.

Hummingbird125 · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many? Yes, two or three

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl? At least one of each, and ideally I'd have a boy first.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together? I love the name Madeleine, and BF likes it too.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names? Greyson for a boy - but BF hates it!

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children? BF is more ready to have kids than I am. He's said that he would LOVE if I got pregnant right after we get engaged. I've told him that I want to enjoy being engaged, then enjoy being married, then enjoy having kids, all at different times. Also, there is no way I would choose to be gaining weight and unable to drink while leading up to a wedding. No way. Most likely we'd try to get pregnant pretty soon after getting married.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)? I'm going to need the drugs.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth? I'd want BF and my mom there.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family? I was induced a month early. When my youngest sister was born my dad was in a different hospital getting quadruple bypass surgery - I can't even imagine how scared my mom must have been! Her best friend was there for the birth, and my mom was in a hospital but using a midwife. The baby was too big - over 10lbs, and got "stuck". The midwife ran out of the room to locate a doctor and my mom's friend ended up sitting on her stomach trying to "push" the baby out, and helped deliver it even before the midwife or a doctor returned to the room! Needless to say, she's my sister's godmother!

Dignity100 · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?
I'm on the fence - He would like 1-2 kids

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?
I'd prefer to have 1 boy only because girls turn into teenagers and can become extremely snarky

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?
Nope - I had a hard enough time naming all my animals!

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?
There are some that I've thought I've liked in the past but then I forget them or decide 'well that's just not the name for me' .

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?
Not really yet - he wants kids for sure but knows I'm on the fence.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?

Knock me out- please!

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?
As few people as possible - I'm extremely modest

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?
Um - I was born by appointment (c-section) and the doctor was superstitious so he picked my birthday to be March 14 - March 13 and I'd have Friday 13th birthdays; March 15 and beware the Ides of March, so the 14th was chosen for me.

mbross3 · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many? I go back and forth. I think I could be happy either way, but we're definitely not there yet. BF also goes back and forth on children. We like having the flexibility to do what we like, travel and spend some money on nice things. That would all be harder with kids. Sometimes the idea of the amount of responsibility in raising children freaks me out too.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl? I'd prefer boys, I think 1-2.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

We've never talked about names, I think we'd be looking too far into the future with that.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

Kind of? I love Fletcher for a boy, but would NEVER actually do that to my poor son

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children? Not yet!

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)? I would definitely say, "drugs please!"

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth? My SO and possibly my parents

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family? Nothing exciting here!

What about adoption? I always think about this because my brother is adopted. My sister and I are biologically related to my parents, but my brother is adopted because my parents felt so strongly about caring for children without families of their own. I've always thought that adoption would be something I'd want to consider.

loves2shop4shoes · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?

Yes. I think we'd like 2.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?

I think I'd prefer to have boys. Maybe a boy and a girl.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

For a girl, we like Mary Susan. Mary after DH's aunt, who we love, who could never have children. Susan after my cousin. I like "Mary Sue", but DH thinks it sounds like a hick name. For a boy, we want to incorporate Michael or Steven in there somewhere, after DH's late father.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

Not really.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

No.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?

I haven't thought that far into it. Really, whatever is best for the baby, and would be as painless as possible.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?

DH. And MAYBE BFF. Probably just DH though.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?

DH was almost 11 lbs. when he was born. SIL was almost 12. And my MIL gave birth to both of them vaginally, without drugs.

phira · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many? We'd like to have two kids. We're both from families with three kids, and we really can't imagine having that many, but we don't want to just have one.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl? Both girls, for a miiiiillion reasons.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together? One of the reasons we hope we only have girls is that we cannot agree on a single boy name.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names? Not really? I guess I hadn't really thought about it.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children? Yeah. I love my partner so much, but I often wish I were marrying another Jew. I feel very conflicted about raising my children to celebrate Christmas. I also really wanted my children to go to Hebrew school and become B'nai Mitzvah. My partner was raised Catholic and feels like that would be like Sunday school and having our kids confirmed, which he (and I) are against, but I can't seem to convince him it's entirely different.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)? I'd love to give birth at home with a midwife, but to be honest, I'll probably end up in the hospital with the world's greatest epidural.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth? I'm not a very prudish person, but dear lord, no one is seeing babies coming out of my area except my partner and the necessary medical professionals. Sorry, Mom.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family? Apparently, if I had been born one day earlier, my birth would have been super easy. My mom's OBGYN was not available when my mom was in labor, and the resident had to deliver me. No offense meant here to residents (or interns)--you have to learn somehow! But the resident didn't realize that by literally reaching in and adjusting me a tiny bit, I would have slid right out. Instead, my mom had to endure 10 hours of entirely unnecessary and very, very painful labor.

emmyg65 · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?

One or two. We're trying for one now and will see how that goes.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?

Nope, but it'd be nice to have one of each.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

Yes.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

Not really.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

Nope. We talked a lot about it before we were even engaged. It was important to me to have someone who shared my values.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?

I'd prefer to give birth naturally.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?

Just me and my husband, the midwife, and maybe a doula.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?

Not really, but I went into respiratory arrest shortly after I was born and spent some time in the NICU.

doubleSS07 · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?
I never really thought that I did but as I am inching towards 40 and now married that drastically changed. We definitely want at least one.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?
I'd prefer a boy. If we have 2 then either 2 boys or a boy and a girl

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?
We have decided on a girls name but funny enough I haven't really thought about boys names yet. I don'thave one that just stuck with me like the girls name did.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?
Not really. I don't tend to like the more modern or hip names. I like old school and classic names. Shit is that trendy?

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?
Not so far we haven't. We were both raised similarly and our parents are also very similar so I think that we have very close ideas and we've discussed school, religion, the giving of stuff and lessons we thought were important to be learned and of course disciplining.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?
I'd like drugs please. I reserve the right to change my mind and I don't really want a C-section but if that is what is necessary then that is what we will do.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?
Dr.s and hubby

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?
Not particularly. I was average size (a little over 7lbs) but my brother was 10lbs. Apparently the Dr. told my mom after she nearly died bleeding out on the table, that she would have progressively larger babies. I think it was malarky.

blabla89 · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?
Yes, 2 or 3

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?
No

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?
Not together. If I had a daughter I would want to name her Anna Belle after my grandmother. C wants to name his son Lester...

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?
No?

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?
I absolutely do not want to bear children (but would love to adopt), and C doesn't understand why it's a problem. Then again, his mom dropped 6 kids like it was nbd.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?
Haven't really thought about it. If I got pregnant I'm sure I would demand drugs.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?
Medical staff only.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?
Nope.

[Deleted User] · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?

Yes, we would like 2 but we would also be ok with 3.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?

H wants a boy as our first and I want a girl so one of each would be perfect.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

Lol yes...if we have a boy H wants to name it after him. If we have a girl I love the name AnnaLeigh.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

What is a guilty pleasure name?

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

No not really.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?

Haha well from the consensus of women who have discussed the pains of labor..I may go with the drugs. Unless they come to fast and don't have time to make a decision. This happened with myself and my little sister.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?

I would like my Husband in there and my mother.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?

My mom had my 2 sisters and I on one fallopian tube. Mom is a trooper and apparently very fertile.

cu97tiger · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?
At this point, one would be great. If I had start having them younger, I would have wanted three or four.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?
Nope.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

We talk about that often, and have a couple that we both like, but no decisions will be made until there is a baby actually conceived.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

I love the name Liesl. It ties into DH's german heritage and my love of the Sound of Music, but it sounds bad with our last name. I also like Millie (my grandmother's name) but DH hates it.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

I think we'll have some disagreements about how best to raise them (strict vs softie) but we'll both love any children like crazy and do everything to raise them into strong, happy adults.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?

I couldn't care fucking less. When you spend 17 months trying to conceive, having the baby come out healthy one way or the other is all that matters.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?

My husband.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?

My mom had a twin, but it were stillborn just a few months into my grandmother's pregnancy. Luckily my mom survived.

My aunt had serious blood clotting issues when she had her twins, and she almost died. Again, luckily, she and the babies survived (they are 19 now!).

labro · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?

At least 2, maybe 3. Or 4. I'm determined to have a girl and I'll go as far as four kids if the first three are boys. BF says he's going to do the boy dance...whatever that is. He prefers having just two kids.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?

I really just want a bunch of girls. I grew up with two sisters and loved it! I also have a wonderful relationship with my mother and I want to have a daughter some day so I can share a similar relationship with her. I like maybe one boy, two girls ratio.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

No, we haven't. We've discussed it a little but we both feel the time is for when we are actually married and ready to have kids to get serious about names. I think we'd like to maybe incorporate family names in to our kids names in some way. BF's dad wanted to give him his first name but his mom said absolutely not. Good thing too otherwise BF would have the same name as a very well known comic strip character.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

I'm interpreting this as names I secretly love but haven't told anyone about. I love Madeline or Imogene for a girl name. Also Rachel.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

No. We both know that he's the disciplinarian and I'm something of a pushover...at least when it comes to the dog. We agree that we're a team and one of us doesn't get to override the other's decision...at least not without talking about it first. However, I feel like he's more strict than he needs to be and is going to have to learn to tone it down a little for our future children. His dad was super strict when he was growing up. Both of my parents were strict in a way too...but I also feel like they allowed us some freedom to make our own mistakes and just be kids. I like the balance of discipline and fun that they gave us.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?

I'm not really sure. I don't think I want a full-out epidural. I'm pretty against a C-section unless it is absolutely 100% necessary.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth? Maybe my H...maybe...and maybe my mom in the very beginning.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?

@southernpeach89 already gave the good one about our mom's magical super fertile ovary. She had to have one fallopian tube tied off before all three of us were born due to complications with a previous pregnancy that had to be terminated.

My birth story - my mom was in labor with me for over 17 hours. I was over two weeks overdue because my grandfather passed away suddenly from a massive heart attack on my due date. My mom's doctors didn't want to stress her out even more by trying to induce labor so they just decided to let me come whenever I was ready. I had a pointy head when I was born because I was in the birth canal for so long and I recently learned they had to suction me out. My umbilical cord was also tied in a knot. My dad didn't get to cut my cord but he did get to cut both my sister's cords. My mom also pissed off her anesthesiologist because she initially told him she didn't want any drugs. Then she basically called him screaming around midnight or so after he had already gone home demanding an epidural. She got it but he wasn't happy at all.

Blue & White · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?

Yes. FI wants 2, so I'll go with that. I grew up with 4 and I think that's a bit much.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?

Nope. I will be rather bad at raising a cheerleader-type girl, but I'll do it if I must (my best friend is a cheerleader and starkly opposite me, so I can deal with things like nail polish and boys at times!)

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

Nope, just initials if we have a boy.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

Nope.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

Nope.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?
Well my first priority is that I adopt a child. If by some miracle, I make it to full term labor of a biological child, I will need all the drugs. I'm scared of needles, doctors, hospitals, nurses...they are going to need to drug the crap outta me.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?

Likely just FI. Maybe mom, but since she doesn't live very close that's kinda depending on whether she makes it in time. Both of their jobs are to make sure I don't pass out and/or kick the doctors/nurses. This anxiety is a monster, I tell ya

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?
Hope not. I like things like a watermelon coming out of my vagina to be as normal as possible. Obviously, I am not ready for childbirth. Parenting? I'm ready. Childbirth? No.

GoldenPenguin · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many?

Nope.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl?

Nope.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together?

Nope. We talk about dog names though.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names?

Even though I don't want kids, I still love names. My favorites are Rowan and Harper for girls and Ethan and Ian for boys.

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children?

Nope, he doesn't want them either.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)?

AAAAALLLLLL the drugs. I had an epidural when I had knee surgery and it was the best thing ever.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth?

I'd say SO & my mom.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family?

Honestly, my birth story is almost identical to @lmhollister! My mom was in labor for 18 hours. I was due March 25 (my grandfather's birthday) and didn't come out until April 2. I had a serious cone head because I had to be suctioned out, and my mom was so delirious from the pain, she thought I had two heads.

My mom is also super fertile - she got pregnant (and miscarried) after she had a tubal ligation, because one of her fallopian tubes grew back together.

There are also lots of weird adoptions in my family - I'm half adopted (by my dad), my uncle (my mom's brother) isn't actually my uncle, but my second cousin - my grandmother's brother & his wife couldn't take care of the kids they already had, so when they had him, my grandparents (who were unable to have more children after my mom) went to the hospital & adopted him on the spot. They told my mom they were going to the drive-in & came back with a baby, so for years, she thought babies came from the drive-in movie theatre. Then my uncle (slash cousin) got married & his wife couldn't get pregnant, so they adopted a little girl.

bethsmiles · December 2013

1. Do you want children? If so, how many? Yes! I'm very excited to have kids in the future. BF and I have decided we would like 3 at the most.

2. Do you have a perfect ratio in mind of boy to girl? No. We just want at least one of each. I think I'd prefer 2 girls and 1 boy if we have three though.

3. Have you and your SO decided on any names together? Our top names for girls are Aria and Juliette. I also really like Clara. We can't agree on boys names.

4. Do you have any guilty pleasure names? No

5. Do you and your SO have any disagreements about children? Not really. We just disagree about boys names.

6. Do you have any idea how you would want to give birth (aka natural or give-me-the-drugs)? I want to have a natural birth. I would ideally like to do a home birth with a midwife but BF really doesn't like the idea of home birth so we've decided to compromise with a midwife center. I absolutely do not want to give birth in a hospital.

7. Who would be in the birthing room with you when you gave birth? Just BF. I don't want anyone else there.

8. Any interesting birth stories from your family? Not really.

CASK85 · December 2013

@Cu97tiger - so many hugs

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