This past weekend, my FI and I had stopped by his mother's house to drop off her lawn mower that FI fixed. I figured that our visit would be short and sweet as we were heading up to North Jersey to help my sister move (to our house). Well, I was wrong. FI decided (even though we discussed it and I said I would rather not be there) to bring up the seating arrangement at the reception. He asked FMIL nicely if she "would be able to be adult and put aside her differences and issues for 48 hours and sit with FFIL and FSMIL at the reception." She went on a tangent saying that she wanted to be introduced as she walked in. I told her that FI and I decided that we wanted all the parents to be sitting together. FI was very big on this as he thinks it would be nice for our families to "come together" rather then be at separate tables. FMIL said OK, fine but then she requested...scratch that....demanded that FSMIL not be introduced as "Step-mother to the groom." I explained that it was either going to be "Father and Step-Mother" Or "Mr. John Doe - Father of the groom and his wife Mrs. John Doe." She said she really didn't want her introduced period and I said that it will be discussed between myself, FI, FFIL and FSMIL as it pertains to them.
Since we told her this, she keeps bringing it up with people and it's getting back to me and FI. I have no clue how to handle it. We want FSMIL to be included in the introductions and she has been a big part of FI's life and a big supporter of our relationship. She is an awesome person and I get along greater with her than FMIL (I was told this is OK and normal??). FI and I are going to be talking to FFIL and FSMIL this weekend about it to get a feel of what they'd like. If we come to an agreement on how she'll be introduced, I worry about how FMIL may react as she's been making this entire day about HERSELF (FMIL) rather than FI and I.
I miss when planning was fun....
Michelle & Ronald
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Need 8 adults to make minimum. Eek.