Not Engaged Yet

Newbie here! Just wanted to say hello :)

Screen Name: Ashleyosheab
Age: 22
Significant Other's Age: 23
What You Do: I'm currently in my last year of college studying Social Work. I also work as a part-time teacher at a local daycare and work part-time at Subway

What SO Does: He is currently a Pharmacy Tech and is starting flight school this summer :)
State of Relationship: soon-to-be-engaged. He and I really consider us to be engaged, but don't want to announce officially to family etc. until he's bought the ring (it's all picked out!)

How Long You've Been Together: 2 years

How You Met: We actually met through an online dating site

Wedding Date (if you're engaged/married): April 2017

Real Babies: none yet :)

Fur Babies: 1 Siberian Husky named Maximus!

Loves: working with kids, the winter holiday season, reading, watching movies with the SO

Hates: ignorance, nit-pickiness, mustard. I really, really hate mustard.

Pet Peeves: that sound the chalk makes when it squeaks on the chalkboard

Hobbies/Activities: singing Disney songs, crocheting, taking Maximus to the dog park

Favorite Thing About Your SO: how sweet he is! He is a genuinely kind hearted person and makes me feel so good about myself, which is something I've always struggled with

Least Favorite Thing About Your SO: He has a really bad habit of interrupting me when I'm talking.

Describe Your Personality: goofy, nerdy, I love to laugh! kind, adventurous, loves to travel

Snark Level (1 [low snark] - 10 [high snark]): meh, I'm not very snarky. Maybe a 3?

I've Been On TK Since: oh gosh I don't even remember. I peruse the articles and stuff alot.

How You Came to Be On TK: My boyfriend and I started having the "someday" talks and I came on here just to look at different photos for ideas, just for fun

How I like my potatoes: it depends, but I think baked potatoes are my favorite.

Favorite book/author: Harry Potter/J. K. Rowling. I also really like Game of Thrones and historical fiction books

Tell Us Something Interesting About Yourself: I did Irish dance competitively for 6 years and am hoping to get back into it when I have more time after graduation
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Re: Newbie here! Just wanted to say hello :)

  • Hi!
    I also studied social work! I have my BSW. What are you wanting to do with your degree?
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  • So... 3.5 years from now, eh? Ambitious. 
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  • Hi!
    I also studied social work! I have my BSW. What are you wanting to do with your degree?

    Awesome! I am doing my BSW internship at an early head start preschool in January. The plan is to get my MSW and maybe work in head start or in play therapy or something like that, or possibly art/play therapy in the local children's hospital :) have you gone into the social work field since getting your BSW?

    audrewuh said:

    So... 3.5 years from now, eh? Ambitious. 

    Haha that's the goal. The SO and I have a ring picked out and he is hoping to get it soon. Since he is having to pay fr school it may be a while. It is a bit ridiculous how much we have thought about our wedding

  • Hi!
    I also studied social work! I have my BSW. What are you wanting to do with your degree?
    Awesome! I am doing my BSW internship at an early head start preschool in January. The plan is to get my MSW and maybe work in head start or in play therapy or something like that, or possibly art/play therapy in the local children's hospital :) have you gone into the social work field since getting your BSW?
    So... 3.5 years from now, eh? Ambitious. 
    Haha that's the goal. The SO and I have a ring picked out and he is hoping to get it soon. Since he is having to pay fr school it may be a while. It is a bit ridiculous how much we have thought about our wedding
    So stop? Because that's what the engagement period is for. And things may change. And it may take several years to get that ring. 

    Just sayin'. 
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  • True. We are not really planning anything, but we have had several talks about where we want to have it and that sort of thing. Nothing super serious. We are both the hopeless romantic type so we get gushy about weddings
  • I'm new, too, but welcome!  I have my MSW and have been working in the field for quite a while...it's nice to see other SW on here!
  • Hmmm... what do you think @audrewuh?

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  • I'm new, too, but welcome!  I have my MSW and have been working in the field for quite a while...it's nice to see other SW on here!

    How cool! What kind f social work do you do?
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    Hmmm... what do you think @audrewuh?


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    Lol I'm not trying to back pedal. I'm saying we talk about it a lot but we haven't actually contacted vendors or asked for quotes or anything like that
  • Well, I started off doing evaluations for drug & alcohol treatment, then I went to an insurance company that manages behavioral health benefits and I've been there for almost ten years now.  I've managed drug & alcohol and mental health cases while people are getting treatment.  Right now I review incidents that occur while people are in treatment to ensure providers are doing what they need to do to provide safe and quality services.  It's somewhat indirect social work, but it's very clinical.
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    @brisox81 - confession time: H and I talked A LOT about wedding stuff before I came across NEY. Then I realized it was going to turn toxic quick because even though we had "picked out the ring," I was unaware he wasn't going to be able to afford it for who knows how long. (my parents gifted us with my e ring so we could get engaged so my dad could be around)

    Talking about something that isn't for sure going to happen, especially something like a wedding with your SO, can get bad. One can start resenting the other, ass loads of pressure begins to build, and a number of other things. That's why I tend to stick close-ish to the party line of don't plan until you're engaged. ESPECIALLY since home girl's "date" is in 2017. 

    I plan to be halfway through grad school in 2017. Let's see what happens, yes? 
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  • That sounds awesome! That can be a very challenging population
  • audrewuh said:

    @brisox81 - confession time: H and I talked A LOT about wedding stuff before I came across NEY. Then I realized it was going to turn toxic quick because even though we had "picked out the ring," I was unaware he wasn't going to be able to afford it for who knows how long. (my parents gifted us with my e ring so we could get engaged so my dad could be around)


    Talking about something that isn't for sure going to happen, especially something like a wedding with your SO, can get bad. One can start resenting the other, ass loads of pressure begins to build, and a number of other things. That's why I tend to stick close-ish to the party line of don't plan until you're engaged. ESPECIALLY since home girl's "date" is in 2017. 

    I plan to be halfway through grad school in 2017. Let's see what happens, yes? 
    I can definitely see your point. Thanks for the perspective, even though I differ with you. I'm helping a friend of mine plan her wedding so hopefully I can just focus my energies on helping her :)

  • @Ashleyosheab, I get what you're saying that you talk about it a lot but not planning anything.  I do see other's points of just sort of cooling your jets with the talk since you have such a long way to go.  I planned a wedding before, and I could not imagine planning it over several years.  Your situation is a fine line to walk.  It's great to know that someone feels the same way you feel about them and that you both agree you want to take the next step.  Naturally you're excited about the next step.  But just pace yourself.  It can veer off course.  That's not what happened with mine, but I definitely know what it's like to have the wedding planning fever and getting caught up in looking at stuff, etc. 
  • @brisox81 - confession time: H and I talked A LOT about wedding stuff before I came across NEY. Then I realized it was going to turn toxic quick because even though we had "picked out the ring," I was unaware he wasn't going to be able to afford it for who knows how long. (my parents gifted us with my e ring so we could get engaged so my dad could be around)

    Talking about something that isn't for sure going to happen, especially something like a wedding with your SO, can get bad. One can start resenting the other, ass loads of pressure begins to build, and a number of other things. That's why I tend to stick close-ish to the party line of don't plan until you're engaged. ESPECIALLY since home girl's "date" is in 2017. 

    I plan to be halfway through grad school in 2017. Let's see what happens, yes? 
    I can definitely see your point. Thanks for the perspective, even though I differ with you. I'm helping a friend of mine plan her wedding so hopefully I can just focus my energies on helping her :)
    Ahhh yes, helping the friend plan the wedding. That makes more sense. My BFF got engaged at the beginning of mine and now-H's relationship. I had wedding fever pretty bad and talked about weddings a lot. 

    I know the feel. It's hard, however, I do encourage you to take a step back from the wedding talk. Are there other things you can dream about? H and I love to dream about trips we'll take somewhere and things we'll do. 
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  • Oh I will definitely be the first to admit that I have wedding fever BAD. Haha. I definitely try to be aware of how much I talk about it but it is hard to do, like you said.

    We also talk a lot about what we are going to do on our trip to Disney World after I graduate in May (my first time at DW and our first actual vacation together! So excited!!!!) and having kids in the future and places we want to travel to and what we want our dream house to look like
  • Oh I will definitely be the first to admit that I have wedding fever BAD. Haha. I definitely try to be aware of how much I talk about it but it is hard to do, like you said. We also talk a lot about what we are going to do on our trip to Disney World after I graduate in May (my first time at DW and our first actual vacation together! So excited!!!!) and having kids in the future and places we want to travel to and what we want our dream house to look like
    I LOVE DISNEY!! How exciting! What do you want to do first? Any must-do's? 

    H's family works at DW, so he grew up going all the time. We went together the Christmas before we got engaged with his aunt and uncle and it was so old hat to him that he kept rushing me. I ended up in tears in the back corner of the Star Wars ride because I was so upset I didn't get to go to a certain part of the park that I really liked. It's comical now, but I was not happy at the time!
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  • Aw that's terrible that you were so rushed! :(

    Well we are staying for ten days so we are going to start out spending one day in each park (I want to take in as much as I can) and we are going to start with Magic Kingdom. Of course I have to meet all the princesses! Especially Merida and Rapunzel. And we are going to do couples disneybound outfits! If you don't know what disney bounding is you must look it up ASAP because I think you would really like it!!

    A must do for me is all of the roller coaster type rides and having a meal at the beauty and the beat restaurant. What must dos would you suggest?!
  • One of my must do's is the Pirates of the Carribean ride and a fireworks show (the late one) at Magic Kingdom. 

    Whatever show that's currently playing in the Tree of Life in Animal Kingdom, go to that one. The safari at AP is pretty awesome too. 

    Hit up every country in Epcot and get FastPasses EARLY for Test Track. That one's a bitch to wait in line for, even with FP's. 

    When I was in high school, my girlfriends and I stumbled across an appearance by all the mickey mouse characters in Epcot by opening a random door that was unmarked. We got to take our pictures with all of them and it was awesome. Don't be afraid to just walk into places, because you'll never know what you may see! 
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  • We will be sure to check all that stuff out!

    I can't believe you found a meet and greet through an unmarked door!! That is so flipping cool!
  • 1. You don't know her.
    2. You don't know anything about her relationship. Only she and her SO can decide when the time is right.

    How about you stop taking out your own bitter feelings on this girl, especially since she handled your rude and snarky comments so gracefully instead of calling you out like I'm doing now. She was introducing herself on the board, NOT inviting you to attack her. Get over yourselves and get a life.
  • @ashleyosheab - Hi and welcome! 

    What's the last book you read?
    What's the last movie you saw?
    If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?



  • @ashleyosheab - Welcome!

    What's your favorite winter activity? (I might have snow on the brain lately.)
  • @ambausum what crawled up your ass and died?
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  • ambausum said:

    1. You don't know her.
    2. You don't know anything about her relationship. Only she and her SO can decide when the time is right.

    How about you stop taking out your own bitter feelings on this girl, especially since she handled your rude and snarky comments so gracefully instead of calling you out like I'm doing now. She was introducing herself on the board, NOT inviting you to attack her. Get over yourselves and get a life.

    Waaaaahhhh. I'm so sad and bitter and ruuuude. You sure told me!! I'll definitely never say anything mean about a BSC newbie who is "unofficially engaged" ever again!!!



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  • A pro tip, @ambausum, you didn't call anyone our, you just made yourself look like a passive aggressive angry bitch.
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  • Swazzle said:

    @ashleyosheab - Hi and welcome! 


    What's the last book you read?
    What's the last movie you saw?
    If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?
    I'm currently reading the 2nd book in the Game of Thrones series :)

    Hmmm that's a good question! Uh....oh! My roommates an I just watched The Heat yesterday!

    Ireland and Paris!

  • @ashleyosheab - Welcome!


    What's your favorite winter activity? (I might have snow on the brain lately.)
    I love I've skating, even though I am super clumsy and spend more time on my butt than on my skates haha. We also have this amazing hotel in town that hosts a gingerbread house competition every winter and yet are AMAZING to see!
  • Hi @ashleyosheab!

    What is your favorite dessert?
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