FI and I have had major mucho tough money issues for a while due to lost jobs. We scrimped for the wedding and cut much out. Even now, it is 50/50 if we are going to use the money for the wedding or just elope and use the money for job training for FI. We have nothing else.
I get sick every time someone who know's I'm engaged goes "Oh! congrats! Where are you going for your honeymoon?"
I never thought to ask people that when I found out they were getting married. I know people only have nice intentions when they ask, but it KILLS me and gets me angry that they just ASSUME that everyone has money to go off somewhere on vacation. Not everyone can take a vacation. We are broke. Even a weekend away locally isn't feasible because of jobs we cannot take off for (except for the day we get married and the next day - then, back to work!) I am off weekends, he works them. I haven't had one day off together with FI in 6 months, and we won't until the wedding in July.
Even worse, when I explain that we can't afford one now and will just spend time together at home, I hear "But you HAVE to go somewhere!". It's like a joke to people, or (even worse), I get a pitty "oohhhh, too bad, you two should go somewhere". Even FMIL is so naive about it. We told her we weren't going on one, yet she INSISTED on taking me clothes shopping for the honeymoon (things I should 'put away' to wear ONLY for the honeymoon)
It's embarrassing and makes me feel bad because it was not too long ago (only a year) that we were planning our wedding with two awesome paying jobs, secure in our savings, and had been looking forward to a whole wedding with a honeymoon. Now we have nothing and had to cut (may even have to forgo the wedding all together) and I don't know how to handle people asking about the honeymoon. It's like the last straw!
