Dear Prudie,
I have worked for a small firm for many years. The company has had its ups and downs the past few years but overall seems to have done fairly well. Each year, we normally receive an annual and generous Christmas bonus. But recently our office manager said no bonuses would be given out this year. We’re disappointed, but glad we have jobs. Shortly afterward, the office manager sent out a memo requesting we all put in the normal $20 each to then be given to the two heads of the firm at the upcoming Christmas lunch. I told her I would prefer to just get them a card this year so I can save money for my own family’s holiday. I know it’s not a lot of money, but I’m a single mother. The woman I share an office with thinks we should just give the money. What should I do?