So after some bumps in the road ironed out with DF and planning is going smoothly... I asked my SIL to be if her two girls (My DF nieces) to be in the wedding several months ago. My MIL was actually suggesting they be asked and I thought it would be nice since I am close with the kids.. as well as my DF is. So months have gone by and I have seen everything my SIL purchases on facebook photos. A motorcycle... two horses... and two purebred puppies. She did not plan for the dresses for her kids at all and now this past weekend when all of the girls got together, we all drove 2 hrs out of town to the shop we are getting them. My SIL is now throwing at me she cannot afford any of the dresses in the store even after I suggested to go see them and tell them your budget. After asking my MIL if she can stay out of it and leave it between SIL and myself, my MIL is having other people look at dresses online without even telling me what they look like, etc. I picked 11am to suit SIL lunch break and she did not show up... instead, my MIL shows up with the kids instead. What I decided for the bridesmaids, was, as long as they are the same colour from the shop they can wear the style they want because not everyone feels comfortable in the same kind of dress. My MIL was looking for reasons to hate everything about every single dress they tried on. For the wedding itself... I also said pick your own shoes whatever you are comfortable in and as part of their gift I am getting all of their hair done at the salon the morning of the wedding... so in the end all everyone has to do is pay for their dresses. Getting your make up and hair done is optional. Combined price for the dresses the dresses the girls tried on were less than HALF of what MIL told SIL. I have since sent an email to the store, because they are closed this week for them to please call me next week and give me the cheapest price in the colour I chose so my inlaws cannot come back on me and give me an exaggerated price. My MIL has gone through facebook and so has she to send me messages about WHY they cannnot afford the dresses when a cheaper option has not even been explored at the store. Instead of calling me on the phone.. so I called MIL last night and we ended up in a huge fight of her giving me a guilt trip why SIL cannot afford dresses... now in not wanting to disappoint the kids I began to compromise with her last night and she tells me she wants to do the kids hair herself... not send them to the salon where I have already put a deposit down. It hurts me to be fighting with my inlaws because I do not want to hurt DF but I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO. Why did MIL push to have the kids in it and SIL accept without saying hey, I don not know if I can do this. I need to know what you ladies would do I am very heartbroken and tired.. upset and confused.