Ideas for dealing with mystery guests/no name on RSVP

nextrightthing · December 2013

Yes, someone I know has phone numbers for all these people. As previously stated, I was seeking suggestions that would be perhaps more efficient. I was able to narrow the mystery RSVP down by the postmark and contacted everyone.

The snarky part was the like OH EM GEE comment. You may not see that as snarky if you are part of the group of aforementioned people who routinely behave in a socially unacceptable manner on TK.

No need to get all up in arms over it. I was simply pointing out that I think the snarkiness around here is constant, stupid, and pointless. If someone actually wants to try to debate the merits of that statement, I'll be glad to, but I think it's probably played out by now.

AddieCake · December 2013

I don't see the post you are referring to with any OH EM GEE in it. That's why I'm confused.

WildMagelet · December 2013

s-aries8990 said:
I'm guessing there were people insisting your invite these relatives. Call them and get these relatives numbers. If necessary, use a phone book or whitepages.com (like oh em gee! lol)

PS. It's not snarky. It's straight forward.

@AddieL73 I think this is the post the OP is referring to. It was later followed up with this:

s-aries8990 said:
I have babysat children who have never seen a phonebook. It is a "First-world problem" joke. Along the lines of "oh no! Use the land line??" or "Look something up in a book??"

AddieCake · December 2013

I'm talking about why did she say THIS

In any case I will try to contact the ones whose numbers I can get ahold of. Ahh how I missed the quintessential pointless knot snarkiness.

immediately following S-aries and Sunshine's simple suggestions (with not one bit of snarkiness) of calling people.

They said:

Pick up the phone and call everyone who didn't RSVP with a name. You need to know so you don't pay for someone who isn't coming.

and

Can you CALL them?

And then she immediately responded with that bit about knot snarkiness, which makes no sense.

kellh615 · December 2013

Wow the fact that the snarky debate is still going on validates OP's original statements. If you were strong enough in your convictions about you're reply to her post and she called you snarky than it shouldn't bother you. You're getting defensive because she calls you out.
I can assure you that if you jump on me for this statement I won't start a 2 page long debate on it.

ETA: either try and make the phone calls at this point or talk to the catering manager about standing by the escort card table (some places may charge for that)

AddieCake · December 2013

kellh615 said:

Wow the fact that the snarky debate is still going on validates OP's original statements. If you were strong enough in your convictions about you're reply to her post and she called you snarky than it shouldn't bother you. You're getting defensive because she calls you out. I can assure you that if you jump on me for this statement I won't start a 2 page long debate on it. ETA: either try and make the phone calls at this point or talk to the catering manager about standing by the escort card table (some places may charge for that)

This makes no sense b/c I'M the one still talking about it, not the people she called snarky. They are not getting defensive. She didn't call ME snarky. I'm simply trying to understand why she called people snarky prior to them even BEING snarky. It seems to me that calling someone out for something they didn't even do is unfair.

I also don't care if you respond or not b/c I don't know you and therefore don't care one way or another about you, but thanks for the disclaimer.

Anaelsea · December 2013

OP: Just call them, the guests from the zip code, and explain what happened, make it "funny" hahaha you know what happened? someone forgot to put their name LOL was it you guys?

rachelkawesome · December 2013

Well, this has nothing to do with the snarkiness debate, and it's obviously too late for the OP, but in case there are any brides reading this thread and trying to find a way to avoid this problem: I read an article (forget where) that had great advice. Write the guest's name very small on the back of the RSVP card before sending them out, so if they forget their names, you'll still have it. Hope that helps someone in the future

nextrightthing · December 2013

Can you CALL them was snarky. Not snarky enough to justify this ridiculously long argument about it, but snarky enough that it amused me.

We figured out who the mystery guests were. Ironically, it was someone who had already RSVPed through FB. Since I did follow the suggestion of looking at the postmark on the envelope and narrowing it down that way, I was able to use my critical thinking skills to narrow down who it could be and to talk to those people. Like OMG.

@scribe - actually, someone mentioned the postmark thing, which was great advice, and someone also suggested something I hadn't thought of, which was if we exhausted all the options, we could explain the issue to the coordinator at the venue and have her stand near the escort cards and help direct people. So no, there wasn't only one option.

@Addie - no, you weren't the person I originally said was being snarky, but you are one of the regulars around here. That you are chiming in for no other reason but to defend another regular poster who I called snarky kind of exemplifies what I'm saying about the culture here.

s-aries8990 · December 2013

nextrightthing said:

Can you CALL them was snarky. Not snarky enough to justify this ridiculously long argument about it, but snarky enough that it amused me.
We figured out who the mystery guests were. Ironically, it was someone who had already RSVPed through FB. Since I did follow the suggestion of looking at the postmark on the envelope and narrowing it down that way, I was able to use my critical thinking skills to narrow down who it could be and to talk to those people. Like OMG.
@scribe - actually, someone mentioned the postmark thing, which was great advice, and someone also suggested something I hadn't thought of, which was if we exhausted all the options, we could explain the issue to the coordinator at the venue and have her stand near the escort cards and help direct people. So no, there wasn't only one option.
@Addie - no, you weren't the person I originally said was being snarky, but you are one of the regulars around here. That you are chiming in for no other reason but to defend another regular poster who I called snarky kind of exemplifies what I'm saying about the culture here.

Oh, how I wish I got notifications...

I'm glad you found your mystery guests!

And that this went on for an entire second page...

s-aries8990 · December 2013

nextrightthing said:

Can you CALL them was snarky. Not snarky enough to justify this ridiculously long argument about it, but snarky enough that it amused me.
We figured out who the mystery guests were. Ironically, it was someone who had already RSVPed through FB. Since I did follow the suggestion of looking at the postmark on the envelope and narrowing it down that way, I was able to use my critical thinking skills to narrow down who it could be and to talk to those people. Like OMG.
@scribe - actually, someone mentioned the postmark thing, which was great advice, and someone also suggested something I hadn't thought of, which was if we exhausted all the options, we could explain the issue to the coordinator at the venue and have her stand near the escort cards and help direct people. So no, there wasn't only one option.
@Addie - no, you weren't the person I originally said was being snarky, but you are one of the regulars around here. That you are chiming in for no other reason but to defend another regular poster who I called snarky kind of exemplifies what I'm saying about the culture here.

Oh, how I wish I got notifications...

I'm glad you found your mystery guests!

And that this went on for an entire second page...

AddieCake · December 2013

So when we capitalize, italicize, or bold a word for emphasis now, it's snark? Got it. I haven't been around a lot lately; just making sure I'm clear on the new rules since the definitions of things keep changing.

s-aries8990 · December 2013

AddieL73 said:

So when we capitalize, italicize, or bold a word for emphasis now, it's snark? Got it. I haven't been around a lot lately; just making sure I'm clear on the new rules since the definitions of things keep changing.

Also, please refrain from saying anything that could potentially be misinterpreted by someone. (oh em gee! -- that's for you next!)

nextrightthing · December 2013

Oh em gee I am like so totally flattered that I get to make the rules.

Two good rules of thumb for you, Addie: caps are yelling. Also, if your comment is strewn with tween-style sarcasm and you're over the age of 22, it is probably snark.

IRL, that kind of sarcasm is impolite. Just saying.

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